My daughter doesn’t listen to me. I don’t know why, she will turn a deaf ear to me each time I am talking to her (her hearing is no problem). For example, one day I told him to put on her shoes because we would go out. But she sat on the carpet at the door playing on her own, and just began to wear her shoes when I was ready to lock the door. I didn’t know what she’s thinking.
You have a five-year-old, a three-year-old and a two-year-old? Which one is it that isn't listening?
How old is your daughter? Is this the 3 yo or the 5 yo? Because knowing their age makes a big difference in knowing the best way to handle this - my 3 yo does not always listen right away either, but if I start counting to 3, it seems to work. To some degree I think it is normal for them not to respond right away because it's not that they have not heard you, it's just not a priority for them. Regardless of their age, I would make sure you got their attention - get down on their level and make direct eye contact, and let them know you need them to XYZ...then ask if they understand. Then let them know you expect to be done NOW, or by the time you count to 10, or whatever it is that impresses on them that it needs to be done within a certain time frame.
Consequences
Give them a 5 minute warning
Get in their face, look in their eyes
Take away priviliges
Make them go without coat, shoes, Be sure to put flipflops in the car, too bad you are not in Illinois, mine used to be sent outside in pj's and his clothes in the middle of winter, He learned to get dresed in two minutes flat, he was in first grade at the time,
Get shoes that are velcro
Count and follow through with a punishment. Take away a privilege
Give positives for getting what you want them to do in a reasonable time. Kisses and high fives are good.
Sounds like you need to be a little tougher on your child. She doesn't listen, because you allow it to happen. Give her a warning to tell her what will happen if she doesn't do what she is supposed to do. (threating with no desserts always works with my 4 year old) and FOLLOW THROUGH!! Always.........
Give it time, but that should work.
Good luck!
I say, welcome to the club!
Oh its a fun faze!! If its a 2 or 3 year old, then its so normal! You just have to get through to them and let them know you mean business, and for me counting 1-2-3 works like magic! Your daughter is totally normal to do this, she will start to listen and respond, don't worry :)
We really need to know which daughter you're talking about. 3 or 5? It makes a difference.
But something that's true for most kids, toddlers and up, is that they need a little time to finish what they're doing, or at least get to a good stopping place mentally. If you were a child in the middle of reading a book or building a tower, and a grownup told you to put on your shoes, would you be eager to drop what you're doing and follow that instruction? Not too likely; you'd want to have a little time to process the change of direction.
So I've always offered the courtesy of telling the child a few minutes in advance that I'll need 'x' done in five minutes. I ask the child to repeat what I said, so I know they heard me. Then, a couple of minutes before, give another advance notice, and get the child say 'okay.' Then give the actual instruction; by then the change of activity won't seem so jarring to the child, and they can usually cooperate faster.
But with each warning that a change is coming, be sure to get the child to respond that they've heard you. You will probably have to get your face down to the child's level, touch their arm or shoulder and get them to look up, and ask them to repeat the instruction or acknowledge that they heard you.
You need to sit her up and make her obey you. Give her a time out if required. If you let her know its not ok to ignore you - she will eventually start paying attention
