I've never heard of a boy peeing in a drawer, although my son peed in the trash can at his dad's house once. His dad had moved and it was the first time he'd stayed there. He was still half asleep and ended up in the kitchen instead of the bathroom. Peeing in the wastebasket.
You don't want your son to get the idea that peeing in his bedroom is okay at all, but I agree with taking the drawer or the entire dresser out and replacing it with something for him to pee in. It's better than it going on his clothes or the floor. Does he do it during the day time? Is there a tree outside he can pee on when he gets mad?
I just know cleaning all that up would really get old fast for me.
I agree with Lee too....all the therapist says is "poor baby"?
You may or may not have much information about his life before you adopted him, but even if it was horrible, it seems the therapist would have more insight or some useful tools to help you at home while they work on it in therapy.
My daughter was very young when she went to therapy because she was physically abused and threatened by her father during visitation. Her therapists were awesome! She never peed or got violent or anything, but she freaked out in parking lots and was always trying to booby-trap the house because she was so afraid he would come after her. Every week, they gave me things to say and do or ideas on how to try to handle things.
Yes, "poor baby", but the point of therapy was to help her work through things and empower her so she could have a happy life.
Many kids act out for many different reasons and this seems to be what he's chosen as a way to do that. It seems you could maybe find a way for him to act out when he's mad that's more acceptible. A punching bag in the garage or letting him run around the backyard and yell. I used to take my daughter to the woods where she could just yell her head off and scream and throw rocks or sticks. The exercise was good, letting off all that steam was good and we always ended by yelling I LOVE YOU to each other at the top of our lungs and laughing. There are better ways to get your anger out than peeing in a drawer and I really hope your therapist will give you some tools or you can find a therapist who will.
There's nothing wrong with being mad. It's an emotion. We all get mad. But, we can't all pee on the furniture every time.
Go on a long walk together. Find a really big rock and bring it home. Let him have a sharpie and draw what he thinks "mad" looks like on the rock. Put it in the yard and let him pee on it to his heart's content everytime he feels angry. That can be where his anger goes instead of on his clothes or in his drawer. Let him stand out there and say, "I'm mad because I didn't want to eat broccoli and I'm mad because I couldn't have candy when I wanted it...."
If he just feels like peeing on something, tell him to take it out on his rock.
It's worth a try.
I hope you get some great responses and I wish you the best.
Hang in there!