My 5 Year Old Is Back Talking

I don't really know how to say this without sounding offensive but I'm going to try. He really needs to be with a different teacher. With you being his teacher he is getting the parent teacher relationship confused. He is at the age where he needs his time away from mommy. He probably knows when he is at school compared to at home but because you are there all the time he probably doesn't know how to act. I hope this helps.

Hello T.,

To be honest, I think your son should have another teacher..Another mom gave you the same suggestion, and I agree totally with her. Your kid needs time and space away from momy or the teacher in a different environment. According to what I've seen with my 6 yr old boy, children are exposed great part of their day to a discipline and structured environment, and probably he feels overwheelmed because his teacher and his mom are the same 24 hrs a day!!! even when he goes to bed!!! Probably that is the reason why he is behaving the way you are seeing now. He is just reacting...
I think also that discipline at school should be different from that at home. He needs to know that you love him as your little boy and probably he does not feel that way sometimes. When I picture this, even I cannot see your child playing two roles student and son with his mommy at the same time,,...In your case, first of all, I would try to change this and put him in another classroom and start from there.

Good Luck!
Alejandra

T.
I agree with the other moms, he needs a new teacher and you each need time away from one another so that he can separate mommy from teacher. My 5 year old son acts like he doesn't love me or even like me sometimes and yes it hurts really bad. I have even asked him to do things for me and he won't so I told him fine don't do it for me and don't ask me to do anything for you until you can be nicer to me. That seemed to work better than taking away his xbox, tv and time outs. I think little boys just go through this stage. I hope you find a way to help you and your son. But again I agree with the other moms, talk to the school and see about switching his teachers, explain to them what is going on. I am surprised they put him in your classroom to begin with. Good luck with this.

Transfer him to someone else's class. He's probably under a considerable amount of pressure from the other kids in the class about being the teacher's son or he may just feel aukward about it. And if that turns out to not be the problem then atleast you get a small break from him each day.

Hi T. I also have a 5 year old boy. I think that the technique that works best for me is to let him know that this isnt nice behavior and that it really hurts your feelings. I usually say somethign like logan thats not how we talk to people and when you talk to mommy like that it really hurts mommys feelings. Now i think you should tell mommy you are sorry, that seems to work the best for me, Its worth a shot let me know how it works! L. B

oh i know how you feel, it does tare your heart out,
I have triplet boy and they are 4.
and they have started that, and i set them down when they say something like that and try to explain what hate means, and that they wouldnt like it if me or someones said that to them, and how much it hurts me. and that i am the only mommy that they have and do they want me to leave. they always say NO, and then it is i love you, i dont wan tyou to go.

i'm really surprised that the school would even allow your son to be in your class...seems like it would be a conflict of interest. i'm sure he is just testing his bounderies with you. he's prolly a little jealous of the atttention you give the other kids, and also wants to see if you will play favorites with him or what ever. he needs to be in another classroom. and as far as back talk at home, just tell him that it's not nice and you will not tolerate it. continue with the time outs or whatever and if he wants or needs something, then he needs to use his nice words and ask for it correctly.