F.M.
I know this is coming late, but the next school year is just around the corner :-). I too have a laid back/lazy/uninspired teenager...mine is a boy though.
I don't have much advice, but I will say this...my son had NO IDEA what college was about until we started talking about it more the past few months. He thought he had to choose his major RIGHT AWAY. He thought he had to take 7 or 8 classes each semester. Basically, he thought it was JUST LIKE High School. Since we started talking more about it and we even picked up a catalog from a local community college, he's much more excited about going to college. We also told him that we were fine with him only going part time his first year (but we will NOT allow him to take a year off!) Best advice...TALK to her about her future and what she wants!
A book that has helped me ALOT with how I approach my son lately is Adolescence Isn't Terminal by Dr. Kevin Leman (a Christian). Lots of great advice! My favorite line by Dr. Leman - "Unhappy kids are healthy kids!" - this is obviously a bit tongue-in-cheek. Yet, any parent of a teen knows that this is SO true! We are NOT their friends!
I will also say...YOU are the parent!!! In our house, during the school year, our kids (12 and 17 y/o) must be home for dinner and then typically, they are expected to stay home after that. If we do let our 17 y/o go out on a school night, he's expected to be home by 8:30 and in bed at 9pm. That may sound strict...but he has to be up at 6am. Teens need rest! When the weekend comes...we allow him to be out til 1am on Friday night, but earlier on Saturday night due to church on Sunday. It's our house and our rules! It doesn't matter if they are 8 or 18! When they move out and pay their own bills, then they can do whatever want :-)