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That's a tough one. On one hand the stern parent in me would say that your son needs to abide by your decisions and go with the flow. On the other hand, my loving parent side of me understands his feelings and wants him to feel comfortable at this very weird and ownderful time of his life.
Maybe you can break the difference. Maybe look at houses with your son and let him be a part of the process. The first year is the one where they make all their friends. Can you do an activity that would allow him to hang out with his freinds when you move to the place that would service you best? My mother did that for me when I moved schools, admittedly earlier in my life. This is a rough choice no matter what you do becasue 14 is going to be mad whatever you do. I still think that he has to go with what works for the FAMILY not just him; even though he is an important part that should be taken into great consideration.
I dont know if that's helpful, just my thoughts.
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