T.M.
You need to talk to an attorney - especially because it sounds like you have more than one issue going on. I would strongly urge not to take legal advice from anyone but an attorney. If a non-attorney is explaining the law they often get it wrong because they do not fully understand the law and how to interpret it. If you don't know an attorney, find some in the phone book, or online, and start calling attorneys. Most attorneys have a free telephone consultation. Good luck!
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