Moms Night Out - Manchester,MI

I'm assuming some of you have sitters? I wonder if those with sitters could contact theirs and see if they can watch the baby.

I would simply text back and say, "oh, thats too bad, but its our only night out without kids. Hope you can make it next time." Or something like that. =) Good luck!

I think if this is a good friend who's typically not a flake (always making excuses for inconveniencing people etc) and she doesn't have a normal backup like her husband and the child won't understand gossip, let the poor mom come! It's really more her problem. If you think she'll remove the child if the child becomes disruptive, then not sure how it should bother everyone else. For me it's more about not having to worry about MY children for a night.

Can your sitter watch her child also?

Otherwise, I'd have to tell her that it's probably not okay; it kind of defeats the purpose of Moms Night Out!

Hmmm. Well where are you going and what are you doing? Is she a single mom and she has a sitter because the father isn't around tonight...what's the rest of the story?

If you are just going out to eat or for coffee or something, it probably wouldn't bother me too much if the child was there, as long as the child was young (like under 1) and couldn't comprehend the mommy gossip you'd all be sharing. If the child is older than that, well I just think it'd be hard on the mom, but I suppose it wouldn't bother me that much, it would just make me happier I didn't have my kids! ;)

Besides, if she does bring her child, she will presumably be going home early enough to put the child to bed at bedtime and the rest of you will be staying out later.

In the end, I might consult with a few other moms to be fair, but it's my opinion that you should probably just let her bring the kid. She obviously needs a night out or she wouldn't even suggest bringing her kid along, right?!

No. It's a mom's night out! The whole entire point is, no kids. Can someone else's sitter take this child, and reciprocate another time? So sorry she can't make it this time! Don't start a precedent you can't stop the next time!

It depends on where you are going. Where we tend to go there is no way you would want to drag a baby along.

I guess it comes down to that, if you or anyone not actually connected with the child would not bring your child under those circumstances along then no, the child does not belong.'

Not sure if I am making sense but someone desperate for a girls night out is not going to really be thinking rationally to what her child or her can tolerate.

I am assuming someone is watching your kids. See if they can watch her's as well. It is not a mom's night out of there is a kid in the mix. I say that now but thinking back I know I went to one when I was a single mom and the others I knew were going insisted I take him. So you might talk to the other moms and see what they say.

Were you going to a bar or adult atmosphere restaurant? Then its a bad idea. Otherwise I agree with the other posts that say, its her kid, you don't have to fuss with him, and she'll leave early to put him to bed- so let her come. The sharing babysitters is good in theory, but in reality, it takes a lot to get a baby to sleep in his own crib on any given night let alone a new place with a new person who already has children to tend to.

Ditto MzKitty.

So what happened?

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Not to be mean, but I'd hope she'd have enough common sense to understand that a baby is a big no-no when it comes to mom's night out. The whole point is NOT to have to be at someone's beck & call, and hear your children crying or screaming.

Wow, that's pretty rude of her, I am sorry :(
What about her husband, is he working on a Friday night?
Can you call her and try to tactfully explain why it isn't a good idea?
Good luck!

So what happened?

Smiles! Dawn