Mom Needing Advice- Son's 4Th Day of Daycare

Hi! im a mom to a 2 year old and a 3 month old too! (however im a stay at home mom) BUT... I worked in day care and as a nanny for 13 years!

so , i can say it is normal for your son to cry when you drop him off, especially if hes never been in a day care setting before. some kids it takes a few dys to adjust others weeks, some always cry when dropped off(i had one boy do this for 2 yrs!but once his mom was gone he be fine and didnt want to go home when she came back to pick hime up.)how is your son when you pick him up?
at the day care i worked parents could come & go as they pleased. so we had parents who would stay and watch where there kid couldnt see them, or come back in alittle while just to check to see if they stop crying and i had parents who called on a daily basis to check on there child. so you do what makes you comfortable. i will say it is easier on the child to do a quick drop off and hugs &byes for a child who is having a hard time. then just check on him in a little while.

feel free to ask me any questions about day care! C.(momo of ashley 2(a week ago) and jackson 3 months)

B.,

When we switched daycares my son did the same thing. It took him about 2 weeks to get adjusted. It is easier for them if you don't hang around, however, you should be allowed to if you chose. After 2 weeks he was fine. Now, most of the time, he tells me bye and waives. Although, there are days when he still clings and cries for me (he does not do this to Dad).

I have one comment on the webcast service, I originally thought it was a cool idea too-- however, other people can see your children as well. Even if the service is password protected, it is not too hard to get a password. You may, after thinking about this talk to your center. My daycare provider won't use the system due to saftey issues with internent child predators.

How many children are in his room? If there are alot of children it could be that it is just overwhelming for him right now. I used to work in a daycare center and some of the toddlers had a really hard time adjusting to the large group of children. Some do better in smaller groups.

It's kind of strange that he runs from the caregiver? Is she always in his room or do they rotate? Especially since you said he usually isn't a crier or shy.

I have a daycare in my home and I only take a few children so parents are welcome to come in anytime to observe and stay as long as they like at drop off/pick up. I think it's important for them to be able to show mom what they did that day or their favorite things to do in the daycare.

Usually when a child is new they do cry for a few minutes at drop off the first week. As soon as mom leaves they stop. They should at least let you listen outside the door where he can't see you.
Will your center allow you to send him with something from home to comfort him? like a blanket or a stuffed animal?

ALso...follow your instincts. A mothers instincts are usually always right. If something makes you uncomfortable about the daycare don't just accept their answers or rules. They need to accomodate your needs until you feel comfortable. They are dealing with your most precious asset:)

It is probably a bit of separation anxiety. I would ask them for how long he cries after you leave. I think that if you stayed he would continue to cry. See if they workers have any suggestions, they see this kind of thing all the time.
I sort of think it is strange you don't get to see him at all in his room, I always like to see what is actually happening in the room. Most places we have been parents are able to drop in if they want. But I guess I understand not wanting strangers around your child too.
Hope this helps.
A.

Hi,
My son is 31 months and we started daycare full time in May. He even today can cry when we drop him off - and the longer we stay with him in the room the worst it gets. They have cameras in the rooms so I'm able to watch after I leave the room. Most of the time it's less than a minute and he's happy like he has never cried. So, this behaviour is very typical and normal.

This is completely normal Not to worry. He gets over it quicker than you do.. If there was a huge issue the daycare would call you. He will adjust soon enough. I personally would put him in a home daycare not a center only because there is less chaos going on and a more one to one personal relationship that will be built in a home environment. But you are the parent and have to make that choice. Good luck This will all subside soon enough