Miscarried 6 Weeks Ago

I had a miscarriage mid-December, after being pregnant for just a few weeks...same situation as you, I was waiting for my period to start again, and it finally did the beginning of February - so, it was about 6 weeks after the miscarriage...Don't know what is "normal"

A., I had a miscarriage inbetween my two kids. I was 10 weeks although they said the baby had stopped developing at 8. I didn't have a period for 2 months, I got pregnant with my daughter about 3 1/2 months after. I went through the same thing and also nervous the first 4 months of my pregnancy with her. Stress can cause you to not have a period as well. I finally got back into yoga and just tried to relax, it helped. My thoughts are with you. Although I wanted a 2 year spread my kids are 2 1/2 years apart and I am glad it worked out that way. Hang in there.

Dear A.,
I have had 2 miscarriages and 3 full term births. It was several months before I had a period, and four months before I conceived again.

Honestly, the more stressed we get (stress is a powerful thing!) the longer it can sometimes take to have a period.

Our bodies have their own unique rythms which are easily changed in today's world of go, go, and go some more. It's especially easy to doubt our body's abililty to get into it's own natural groove when we are working with western medicine because we give our power away.

I personally appreciate our modern medicine greatly (thank God for C-section when your baby is breach!), but I believe that trusting in your body's innate wisdom facilitated through personal time (relaxation techniques, Reiki, nurturing massage like Lomi Lomi) can help you get back in balance after a miscarriage.

Unfortunately miscarriage is a common experience that women rarely talk about. If you do happen to be pregnant quickly after miscarriage it would be especially helpful to practice wellness oriented methods (like those above) to help your body get back into balance while releasing emotions from the miscarriage. That way you can enter into another pregnancy without extra fear to deplete you.

Wishing you well,
Megan

A., first, my condolences on your miscarriage. I deeply understand how difficult it can be in so many, many ways.

Before having my two children (who are now 19 and 17) I had multiple miscarriages - so many that the Doctors told me that I would never have children!

To answer your question - the longest I went without a period after a miscarriage was six or seven weeks.

Sometimes the grief and stress can play a part in delaying a return to a "normal" cycle. Our society doesn't acknowledge this type of grief, which can make it so much more difficult.
But grieving is a process...honor yourself, your body, the baby you lost, by allowing yourself to grieve. And if you can find a way to deal with the stress and anxiety, do so! I have always used meditation, visualization, music, writing and prayer. Any of those methods would be helpful...Stress and anxiety can play out in so many ways within our bodies that learning stress reduction techniques that work for YOU will be a skill that you will need to stay healthy throughout your life.

I hope that this has helped...my thoughts are with you!

C.

A., I'm very sorry about your miscarriage. I had one at about 9 weeks in 2005, so I know how hard it can be. I don't think 6 weeks is an abnormal length of time for your period to return, but you may want to check in with your doctor. And having been through a miscarriage and fertility tx myself (I now have a 9 month old!), I'd also recommend getting your progesterone tested... if it's low, it could inhibit conception and possibly be a factor in mc. Best of luck to you.

Dear A.-
I am really sorry about your loss. After I lost my first child who was stillborn I found this great site,http://www.hygeiafoundation.org/. Everyone who posts at this site is very supportive and understands where we come from because they have been in our shoes. It's a great place to get advice. Try posting your question there, I'm sure someone will be able to help. Please take care! You can contact me at my personal email if you have other questions, ____@____.com.

-Steph

Hello A., I have not miscarried. Yet my husband and i decided to try to get pregnant. I have a 16 month old that I breastfed till he was 12 months. I started birth control at my six week appointment after giving birth. When we decided to try again i stopped taking the birth control. I went five months without a menstrual cycle. I went to the dr and they said it was probblably hormones , gave me a pill and sent me on my way. After about ten days there was one and i was relieved but that was it. The next month nothing, the one after nothing... We bought countless pregnancy tests. I did some research and found this vitamin at GNC called Vitex. It helps your body naturally find its hormonal balance again after your body has been offset (giving birth, miscarriage, missed cycle..) Also in research , it says this can help you be more fertile and if you take it through the first trimester after becoming pregnant , it helps with milk production later and with preventing miscarriages. Also it helps with cramping and mood swings during your cycle. Every since i started taking Vitex my cycles are back and we are still trying. I have only been taking it for three months now. Not sure if this will help your situation but the cycle frustration got me interested and thought i would share my two cents. Good luck with everything A.

Hi A., I'm sorry to hear about your loss. I too have lost a baby, a girl at 22 weeks. I know it's hard. Your body however may still have some hormones left that are tricking it into thinking it's still pregnant. You'll have to wait it out. I would say that if you go over 8 weeks you should probably go to the doctor just to be safe. Give it to God and he will send answers. -L.-

Go talk to your doctor. Sometimes it takes the body time to regulate the hormones. After my first miscarriage the doctor had me take progesterone for 10 days to get my cycle back on track (I was an older woman on a limited time frame for fertility). I got pregnant three months later. Since then I have had two miscarriages trying to conceive a second child - it took me 43 days to get my period after the last one. Go talk to your doctor and let him/her reassure you. It will be okay.

What a physically and emotionally painful experience for you! I miscarried last September, though was only about 1 month along, it took me about two and a half months before my period began again, and then a few months longer before I was back on an actual schedule (lots of spotting in the mean time!) Hang in there and stay optimistic as you focus on your precious boy...the next will come along soon!

Hi A.,

I miscarried several years ago, but I remember it very clearly. I didn't have a period for about 8 weeks afterwards. I am pretty sure it was due to stress, my doctor agreed. The emotion of it all can really throw your body off. I remember going back to the doctor after about 6 weeks to have blood drawn to see if I was indeed still pregnant. I thought maybe twins or something. But, after the blood draw proved negative and I learned to accept fully the fact that I wasn't pregnant anymore, my body relaxed and I started my period. I think because I was holding on to the hope that maybe I was still pregnant, my body couldn't get into a natural rythm until I could let it go. Don't lose heart. If you are meant to have another baby, you will have one. There is a God in heaven who loves you so much, and he holds your little one in his arms. He knows every life that is supposed to enter this world. So, just have faith that you are not alone.

A.~
I'm sorry that you are having to go through this, as it is not an easy time for you and your family. I wouldn't get overly exciting about not having a period after a misscarriage, or that you are testing negative. You probably did not ovulate therefore no period. You should be back on track next month, if not be sure to seek advisment from your physican. Most of all, after such a traumatic thing, make sure that you are taking care of yourself.
Take care!
T. S.

Hey A. B, my name is A. B as well! i also had a miscarriage last year. I was only about 6-8 weeks along, so I'm grateful that I didn't carry the baby for a long time before losing it. You mentioned that you have not had a period for about six weeks since the miscarriage..now I am definitely not a doctor, but I was told by my doctor and to give myself time so my body could get back on it's cycle. I always think talking to a doctor when in doubt couldn't hurt, but I have known people to go without periods for 3 months and they are told that there is nothing wrong with them.
My heart goes out to you sister, I struggled a lot when I lost my baby. The doctor didn't give me any peace of mind, but I have a friend that is a nurse and she is the one that explained to me that I didn't do anything wrong, sometimes the baby just isn't developing the way it should be and it's nature's way of taking care of it. That helped me during my mourning period. That and knowing that my baby is in a better place and knowing that I will meet my baby again someday. And I allowed myself that time to be sad about it, that way there was no lingering grief, and I was able to heal.
I hope that gave you a tiny bit of help. Good luck to you and your husband.

I'm sorry to hear your sad news. I too have suffered through miscarriage, 2 of them. It does take some time for your body to get back to normal and re-establish normal periods, just as after a normal pregnancy. I understand the anxiety, been there, done that. The best thing is to take one day at a time and be thankful for it. Put it in God's hands and rest assured that your next pregnancy will happen at the right time. Take good care of the baby you have now and just know that there will be another one at the right time. My kids ended up being 4 years apart in age, due to the miscarriages and infertility issues, but it worked out fine. God bless you and your family.

(((A.))) A miscarriage is a huge stress to your body as well as your emotions (I know. Duh! But stay with me). Any severe stress can stop your periods for a bit (mine stopped for about 9 weeks after my daughter died). I know it is super tough with a 20 month old, but see if you can take some "you time" - a bubble bath, walk in the park - something to pamper you. I would also advise maybe using condoms or something for a few weeks. After my miscarriages (2) I was advised to wait at least six months before ttc, so my body would be strong enough as well as allow time to grieve. I hope this helps at least a little. If you need someone to talk to e-mail me (____@____.com). God bless you and your family!

I miscarried my first pregnancy. Six weeks later I hadn't had a period either, so I took a pregnancy test and it was negative, I did the same thing at 7 weeks and it wasn't until 8 weeks after I miscarried that I got a positive response from a pregnancy test. So you CAN get pregnant right after a miscarriage, but sometimes it just takes awhile for your menstrual cycle to get back on track, it may be you just need more time. (with that second pregnancy I started bleeding at 9 weeks also, and bled off and on, but my daughter was born at term, perfectly healthy).

We weren't trying to get pregnant after the miscarriage, it just happened, it may be that you are pregnant too. Though if not you can go quite awhile after a miscarriage without a cycle. Hope that helps!

I think it is time to see a doctor. I didn't have a period after the birth of my child and after I had stopped breast feeding. After some severe cramping, my doctor determined my os (the hole that lets the blood out)had scared over and was not opening. This could have lead to some severe consequences if it had not been remedied. (Turns out that although my alopathic doctor could open the os whenever it got too painful, it took a naturopathic doctor to actually cure the disease).

It is entirely possible you are pregnant; the same thing happened to me, and I never had a period between my miscarriage and my next pregnancy. It wouldn't be the first time ;) Go ahead and take another pregnancy test if you still haven't had a period in another week to ten days. But if it's still negative, don't freak out. How regular were you before this pregnancy? It sounds like you had some fertility problems, so maybe the same problems are preventing you from resuming your period right away. It also wouldn't be unusual to just skip a month after a miscarraige. Bottom line, it's too early to be worried yet. As long as you are physically feeling okay, that is. If you aren't, then of course call your doctor.
Good luck.
A.

A.,

You're are in my thoughts and prayers.

I know the pain and anxiety that go with misacarriages. I went through three many years ago. Give your body time to heal and take time to feel your pain and loss.

I don't recall how long before my periods started up again, but we are all unique. I think your body is working on getting back to normal. Hopefully, you have a good relationship with your OBGYN.

Hang in there, A.. Cling to Jesus! And cherish your husband and child!

D.

My midwife told me I should wait until I had a period before trying to get pregnant again after my miscarriage. It took 2 months before I got my period, but after that I conceived again the first time we tried. I now have a great 3 month old boy. I think every woman's body is different in how much time it takes to recover from a miscarriage. Be good to yourself and give your body a little more time . . . it will happen :-)

First of all, I'm so sorry that you miscarried. That is such a hard thing to go through.

I know you're eager to get pregnant again, but I would give your body some time to recover from the miscarriage. I think that's what your body is naturally doing by your not having another period yet.

When I had a miscarriage, it took a long time before everything in my body got back to normal and I got my period again. I think everyone is different.

Try to take advantage of this little rest that your body is giving you. I know it's hard, though.

Good luck to you.

A., I am so sorry for your loss. I had a missed miscarriage at 15 weeks in 2005. I had my period the next month, but every body is different. Take care of yourself.

How is your general health? You may be lacking iron, it often is a cause of missing periods. Take good care of yourself. You are grieving a loss, your body needs all the nutrition and vitamins it can get. It is hard on the body and you want to be in strong health for your next pregnancy. I would suggest you take a good multivitamin with iron, may what you were taking during your pregnancies, be patient and get lots of rest. It has only been 6 weeks. This how long your body takes after a birth, even a miscarriage to recover. Stay strong and healthy you will have your periods and pregnancies.

J. (Mom, grand-ma, childbirth educator)

Hi A.,

I am so sorry for your loss. I have been there and I know how hard it is. I miscarried before I had my daughter who is now 11 months old and I am so blessed to have. I had to have a D&C because my body didn't notice I had miscarried at about 11 weeks. I never had any signs; no cramping or bleeding. Anyway it was 7 or 8 weeks after the D&C that I finally got my first period. I also had two different friends that had miscarriages about the same time and they were between 7 & 9 weeks before they got their first periods. It is so hard, but you should be getting your period in the next couple of weeks. Take care of yourself.
H.

Sorry about your miscarriage, it hurts. I miscarried a little over a year ago but thankfully I was able to get pregnant again when we started trying 3 months later. It took us a couple of years to get pregnant initially so I know it hurts. Anyway, I didn't have a period for 8 weeks after the initial miscarriage. Don't worry, it can take some women a few months for their bodies to get going again.
Good luck!
B.

Hi! I'm so sorry for your loss. Miscarriage is a horrible thing for anyone to have to endure. Just like after a pregnancy carried to term, it can take a while for your body to get back to normal after a miscarriage. Usually you will get your period back within about three months. If it goes past this, I would advise asking your midwife or obgyn. Hope this helps!

It's been a while now, but when I miscarried it took forever to get my normal cycles back. My miscarriage took about 2 weeks total to go through my body, then about 5 weeks or so to get back my period. My husband and I also went on fertility drugs to have our daughter because my menstruation cycle wasn't normal. I figured that since my period was irregular, that was why it took my body so long to recover from the trauma of a miscarriage. Hope this helps and Don't let things get you down.
If things wouldn't have happened the way they did, I wouldn't have my beautiful daughter.

"Many couples feel a pressure to conceive immediately, to "undo" the sense of loss. We generally recommend three months, or two menstrual periods, before trying again to conceive. This is not because of added complications if you conceive quickly. Unless you lost a lot of blood at your miscarriage, there aren't any. Rather, the reason for waiting is to allow heart and soul to mend a bit.

In addition, fertility is quite low after any pregnancy, and periods may be irregular for a few cycles. If you are trying to conceive during that time, every day that your period is late you will wonder if you are pregnant. The stress of always wondering can be tremendous, particulary with the diminished fertility during that time. Discuss with your practitioner your plans for trying again."

http://www.drspock.com/article/0,1510,4445,00.html

According to the sources I found, generally a period will resume again (although it may be irregular) around 6 weeks. If you are under a lot of stress, that could greatly affect it!

Good luck, and I am so sorry for your loss. I wish you the best of luck with your next baby.

I miscarried at 7.4 weeks and my doctor reccommended using precautions through one cycle. I thought I would have to go through a full normal cycle to get pregnant but as I found out, that is not so. We used no protection and ended up concieving twins 12 days after I miscarried! We figure the twins came from the fact that after misscarriage women tend to be super fertile and I released 2 eggs. I just thought my period was taking forever! Go in for blood work if you want to know for sure.

A miscarriage is an aborted pregnancy so what is normal for you after you the birth of your first child should be an indicator for what is normal for you.

For my miscarriage and pregnancies it took anywhere from 6weeks-6mo.

i dont know A......but i think you should see yer doc...it may be that u didnt fully miscarry.....and need a simple procedure.....or they have a pill to make u stsrt yer period... ive had to battle most of my adult life with this sorta inconvenience...(hystercetomy eventually....boy was that worth every penny!!! but the insurance company said it was a preexisting condition......as i was BORN with a uterus!) i dont care tho....i just advise u to check with yer doc.

This has happened to me. After my husband and I married, I stopped taking BC pills, wanting to get pregnant immediately. I did, and miscarried pretty early on. I didn't have a period for 4 months. My next one was 2 months later and medically induced. I found out I had PCOS, and it has been somewhat controlled by medication.

I understand your frustration! I also understand your desire to have another baby! I know it can take awhile to get your body back on track, and I was told to wait 3 months after my miscarriage to start trying again. Maybe your body just hasn't completely healed?

Good luck, I hope you get that new baby soon!

After I had my miscarriage, my doctor told me it could take up to 3 months for my body to return to normal so she told us not to try conceiving until then. My period returned right away, but I have heard from other people that it took another month or two.

I hope you are able to conceive soon and provide a sibling for your little boy!

it took 2 months for me to get a period after my miscarriage! Hang in there... your body will be normal again. Good luck, you are not alone.