B.E.
As an Army wife of 10 years, I can tell you some things I know:
Army Reserve is not full time Army unless he is in a job that gets called to active duty
He can choose a job in the military doing something not dangerous or to do something where he wouldn't get sent anywhere dangerous ie how many dental assistants or physical therapists do you think get sent to Afganistan? My husband goes over occasionally, but his job is such that he is never ALLOWED to be in a dangerous zone.
He can also choose a different branch of the military if he doesn't like the job choices the Army Reserve offers. Go join the Coast Guard or the Air Force Reserve.
We find the benefits greatly outweigh the risks . Free health care: had 2 babys and paid zip- no co pays or any thing. One child born at Bethesda Navel hospital ( where the President goes) and the other born at Johns Hopkins.
We get extra money every month JUST for housing.
If he gets sick, or can't work he doesn't get paid less, and doesn't get fired.
He gets paid to go to school- he just took an entire semester off of work to finish his 3 rd Associates degree, and his pay never changed.
Job security is great- he just has to maintain his fitness level, which is great in general, and do what he is told to do at work.
Maybe he sees this as a way to HELP your family. Mine does-
no job loss worries, no health care worries, at least reducing the common stresses for a marriage.
Don't knock the job until you do the research anyway. Choose together. Research the choices together.
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