Man and Why Do They Have to Be Confusing...

Brittney,

We have all had these kinds of relationships at one point or another where we are so unsure of what the other truely thinks or feels. Are you two "romanticly" involved? You said you are always there for "him" is he always there for you? How is he with your son? If you are romanticly involved and is here always there for you, it may just be that like you said he works alot and doesn;t have the time needed to really figure all of this out... however if he is not there when you need him to be... stop being "that one" he feels he can fall back on. You said your not getting anywhere with him.. if that is how you feel then cut all ties and move on.
It seems you have a great relationship with your son.. focus on that and everything else will fall into place. I had my first child at the tender age of 17, so I know how it feels to have a little one and be in and out of relationships.. just wanting to find that "one" to settle down and complete your family.. however you can not rush things like this or it will only lead to regret. It took me a long time... to realize exactly what I needed and wanted in a life long partner.
I hope I helped alittle bit, if you need to talk or vent I am here my email is ____@____.com

Hi Brittany,

i'll be honest with you. i have no business giving you advice on this topic, because i'm in a simular situation. i thought i'd just pass on some knowledge that was passed on to me. a man knows from the beginning if he wants a relationship with a woman or not. if he does, he's going to make the moves to do so. he's going to make the time. he's going to be a man on a mission. it shouldn't take that much convincing or reassurance for someone to be intested in you. either they are or they aren't. unfortunately, i think he's interested in only one thing and thinks that he has to do and say those other things to keep you around or keep you only sleeping with him and no one else. it's up to you whether you can put your feelings aside and keep things the way they are. you are the one in charge. don't keep telling yourself that if you do this or that, he'll come around and have a relationship with you, because there's a good chance that's not going to happen. it's been over three years in my situation and still nothing. i tried everything to try and make him "realize" how he feels about me and not be "scared". he has given me every mixed signal you could imagine. i have finally given up and told him so. unfortunately, he has my heart too and i'm not willing to give him up yet. we are still more than friends and go out together, but it's on my terms now, which makes me feel better. hopefully, i'll eventually be able to let him go. but that's my choice not yours. you make your choice and tell him that that's how it's going to go.

if you ever need a ear that understands, let me know! i'm here for you.

Hi Brittany let it out for him tell him how you feel. Dont let him play with your emotions. Who knows he may be feeling the same way too. He may not be able to express how he feels either. Or he may just be using you but either way its better to find out the truth. i wish you luck

Brittany,
I know what you are going through. I have one of those friends also. I want to tell him so much how I feel but I don't think he wants to hear it. I know that I wear my heart on my sleeve when it comes to him and I do beleve he sees it. If I can figure a way out I will be more then happy to share it with you. Hopefully you can do the same.
C.

Please buy the book "He's Just Not That Into You" by greg behrendt .... This book will shed some light onto your situation. (Its a short and to the point book)

I think Kim S said it all....Buy the book, heck I'll send you my copy! It is an awesome book and tells it to the tee!!!

I say (and the book says it too)...let him come to you. Make yourself busy everytime he wants to "be more than friends"..
If he's serious about you, he'll make up his mind very quickly!

As for the dog, I'm sorry to hear that. I had a 6 yr old full-bred German Shephard that I just put down a week before xmas. She had breast cancer, and it was spreading to her brain. She was becoming more and more aggressive, and she "nipped" at my son. I put her down the next day.

What caught my eye was that your son was bitten by a dog - my daughter was also bitten as a child and had to have her ear sewn back onto her head... what kind of dog was it and was it a family dog? Ours was - though he wasn't "supposed" to be anywhere near the baby - unfortunately, someone had let him out of his pen and we didn't realize it.

i think he is using you for more than "friends". i think you need to tell him to grow up you already have one man in your life who needs you more than this guy does.

Hey Brittany,

I think the first thing you should do is not be there for him whenever he wants. I went through a similar thing with a guy for years. He never commited to me because he didnt have to. I finally ended and could be happier. I started to date my best friend from high school and Now I am married to him. When I think back on how my ex treated me it annoys me. He wanted to eat his cake and have it too. That did not work for me but I was so afraid of losing him I let it go on too long. There are still days when I wonder how he is because we were so close but I would never trade my life now. I have a man who is not afraid to say he loves me and is willing to make me his life...something that was always missing from my ex. You deserve better.

Hope this helps...I know you have to do what is best for you but try and take yourself out of the situation..even it is only temporary.
S. F