Major Obstacle with Weaning 14 Month Old - Help!

Hi....

I did the same thing. You could gradually cut down the time she does the one feeding and supplement with rice cereal or formula until you are done

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You could again cut down how long you would normally nurse for but put the milk in a bottle. If you don't mind the bottle, she may take to it and give you a chance to cut down.

I was at the point where I was pumping once a day and then I was told at that point just to quit if I wanted to be done. I had some milk saved up in the freezer and she was also doing formula so it was easy.

Put some of the milk on the nipple of a bottle and see if she will take it...she just might.

But then again, she didn't latch on.....ever.

You are smart to limit your responses! Nursing is so personal and the decision of when to stop is yours! Do you have a supportive friend or relative who could stay with your daughter for a few consecutive days? If you can be away from her consistently, she may be more likely to adapt. Whoever is with your daughter has combat duty but its worth it if it can stop the drain on you and your mental health. Good luck!

This is just a thought, something I would try if I could do it over, but, they understand so much more than they let on sometimes. Maybe try telling her that you are going on a special vacation soon and you can't nursie while away so it is going to be over. She will be upset, but preparing her will help her understand the whole process. She will be more apt to believe it and chill out when she is in a new place and has seen the change coming. It is a good last resort, and they really do better when they get that little bit of security of a warning. It's training seminar for toddlers of sort, and keeps her knowing you are thinking of her being prepared, even at that age! Try telling her for at least a week, so she has time to grieve a bit, getting used to the idea while still getting it.

We went cold turkey. She was asking to nurse way to often, and I felt she was old enough to stop. One day we went completly cold turkey. I would wait until she is eating and drinking 100% the way she was before she got sick to stop. I just told my daughter that mommy ran out of milk. Every time she would ask to nurse I would remind her that I was out of milk, and destract her with something else. It may be a tough couple of days, but it should not take to long for her to get it!

Hi K.,
I agree with the mom who said that maybe changing routine could help. Also, you mentioned that she has a milk allergy (mine had the same thing, but outgrew around 1) and you have tried vanilla soy. Have you tried any others, like regular soy milk? Maybe the difference in flavor would help. You could try having someone else offer the sippy, since sometimes if mom offers they think you are still an option. Putting some sugar water on it or warming it may help too, since breastmilk is so sweet and warm. That all said, we did cold turkey, and it was bad for about 2 days. I know what you mean about the screaming, but they do figure it out pretty quick, and the more you explain to her the better. Maybe you could do it around your working? Good luck to you, and keep us posted!
E.

When my little guy started dropping feedings, I tried to change up the routine. We usually nursed at about the same times: right after naps, first thing in the morning, and before bed. So I tried to change up the routine, if I could. I'd bring a sippy cup with me when I got him out of his crib, and I wouldn't sit with him in our nursing rocking chair right away. We'd go right downstairs instead of hanging out in his room. I think you could also just tell her, oh it's not time to nurse. We'll nurse _______ (at a certain time). If you can, take your time for the next few weeks - drop only one or two feedings a day. Cold turkey is a hard way to go. Don't know how helpful that is, but good luck!