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i wouldn't bother fighting about it until you find out if you are having a girl, you know? Maybe that's why he isn't answering yet?
it's a beautiful name though... I considered Helena. My husband's grandmother was named that, and she went by Helen... and my aunt's best friend had that name, and she went by Helena.

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A friend of mine gave her son two first names and two middle names in order to please the grandparents & dad. It's unique (they're all 'normal' names, I don't remember exactly what they are, but it's like "Patrick Joseph Michael Alan Miller" for his full name).

Personally, I liked so many names with my second two sons that they both got double middle names. My second son is Mason Alexander William (William is a family namesake) and my third son is Logan Kenneth Charles (Kenneth & Charles are family namesakes). So maybe your husband can pick a first name you both love then you can double the middle name with Helena Rose...?

No matter what, though, I believe it's all about compromise!

I really like the name Helena Rose. However, I'm a person who feels naming a baby should be a joint decision. Has your husband offered the reason why he isn't in love with the name you've chosen? Has he offered other names to consider? Is it possible he thinks it has been too early to discuss names? My husband wasn't too interested in names until I started showing and the baby became a reality to him. He didn't have many name suggestions and he wasn't necessarily in love with any I picked so we ended up going with names I liked that he had the least resistance to. Congratulations and warm wishes!

Personally I think that is a wonderful name! I don't think that it needs to be your husband's favorite name too. If he agrees, he will love his daughter no matter what, and eventually he will love the name too. But be open to suggestions too. I'll tell you why... before I was pregnant me and my husband were picking out names and for some reason I had my heart set on naming our son Kyle Jeremy. The more I said the name the more I just loved it. My husband agreed to the name and said he liked it too. Then when I found out that I was pregnant I was of course like "yay now if its a boy we can use Kyle Jeremy" and my husband turned around and told me he now didn't like the name! I was still stuck on that name though (and I knew I'd make him see it my way before the baby came) and then one day he asked "how about Zander?".... and I was like "ok." Apparently he suggested it at the right time or it was just that the name sounded better at that exact moment (because I had heard the name before and wasn't very found of it). Moral of the story- our son is not named Kyle Jeremy even though I had my heart set on it. So again I tell you to be open, one day he might come to you with a name, and if its the right one.... you might choose his choice of names.

My husband and I had a few names that we picked out for both a boy and girl, that we both liked and were undecided as to which name to pick. When my daughter was born, I saw the look on my husbands face and thought that he was disappointed that our baby was a girl and not the son he dreamed of....so I let him pick her name. Turns out he picked the name I didn't care for..but having just givin birth I wasn't "with" it to protest.

I am now the single mother of my beautiful little girl...with the name that Daddy picked. Now my thought is that I have done all the work...I should have picked.

So my advice - maybe a little bitter - but I would say pick the name that you want.

Helena Rose is pretty, and the meaning behind it is beautiful.

Hi J.,

I personally think it is a beautiful name and an amazing way to honor both of your mothers. I would tell him that you really have your heart set on it and mabye you could agree that if it's a boy he can pick out the name, hopefully it will work out. Congratulations!!

I would wait till you are futher along to decide on a name. I think it should decide on together just like you did last time for your son.

Hi J..

Here is my opinion. First of all, even if the name were too different, who cares? It seems that names go in cycles anyways, where some are popular for a while and then the aren't... I think that your choice of a name is just fine. Helena Rose is beautiful!

Of course, this is coming from someone who didn't even have a name picked out for my daughter until two days after she was born. We had already decided on Rose as the middle name (so I'm somewhat partial:)), but the first name was up in the air. On the way to the hospital I thought my hubby said Emma, which I loved, and agreed. It turns out he said Emily, which I don't like as much, so we didn't have a name for a couple days. I finally just went along with Emily, and guess what? My DH calls her Emma - what the heck?!? I guess I just didn't like the name Emily because it is so popular (it was #1 on the common list of names the year she was born).

Why don't you just ask you husband if he struggles with the name Helena. How would you pronounce that? Would it be Helleena or Hellayna? Just wondered. If he does struggle with it, maybe you could just let him know how important it is to you and maybe he will be okay with it. After all, it sounds like he may be okay with it because you tried so long to have another baby.

I have just one last suggestion.... Why not combind the two names.....Rosehelena???? Maybe that will strike your hubby's fancy. My hub and I had not even a second thought for our 1st son Frank after his father,(as much as I hated the name) and Michael after his god father(Ihate the common ones) but I have found that I call him Mikey anyway..lol, it sure does fit him, Our daughter,,,,,,whoh... daddy sat for days on end looking for the perfect name for Daddy's little girl, well he fell in love with autumn, but we could not find a middle name so we used it as her middle name, We chose Kaylee Autumn until I was on the delivery table, I decided Kaylee was way too common so I went with the first thing that came to mind... Kimber ....He loved it.... She ended up Kimber lee Autumn and our 2nd son... we faught until the minute the paper work was filled out........but we again made a great comprimise... Mason Douglas... as in Ma-son because he is MA (my) son and I will nme him what I like.....and douglas after his god father....... Good luck and enjoy... try to find mutual ground!

I really like Helena Rose. Maybe your husband might like it better if you make it Rose Helena??? I like it, though, and I think you should try to stick with at least part of it if you're really set on it.

J. - CONGRATULATIONS on your baby!! I am sending you good thoughts and prayers for a healthy pregnancy and birth!

I like Helena Rose as a name. And if I had a daughter she would be named after my Grandmother too. I think naming children after people who have touched the lives of one or both parents is very special and meaningful.

My husband was very cooperative about names. I think he felt like I went through all of the trouble to get pregnant - fertility issues - I had test after test after test. He just had to fill a cup. Anyway, I think he felt like I should have the majority of the decision of what to name our children.

As for your husband not seeming to like the name. I personally think you should stick to what you like. He'll come around eventually. But you could always name her Helena Rose and then call her something like Elle or Ellie, Lena, Rose, Rosie.

My son Patrick Alan is named after my Mom (Patricia) and Alan is my husband's middle name. My second child was going to be named after my Uncle, but when the baby passed from a major birth defect, we decided to name him Elliot Christopher - which is not after anyone at all, just names we liked. Then with my 3rd child, yet another BOY!!, we went back to naming him after my Uncle, Michael Rowan - my Uncle's name is Rowan Michael - we just switched the order.

Good Luck!

I think it's kinda strange that you would even worry about that name, when you named your son Kelley for his middle name. Just remember these kids have to live with their names. You should think of the children, more then what you and your husband want.

Hi J.,

First congratulations on the news of your little girl! I went through this last year when I had my son's name picked out around my 4th month, Matthias. My husband did the same thing and did not begin to "submit" name ideas until the last month. I had my reasons for his name, and he just picked anything but the one I had. In the end I "got my way" and we have already agreed on the next child's name, if ever there is one to come. I say stick to your guns. Your son's middle name is after his sister, there is not much more comprimising for you to do. God Bless with the name and birth!

It's a beautiful name, so if your husband had no problem with it, I would say go ahead! However, if he is not a big fan, you should work on a compromise. maybe use one name and not the other. Consider how you would feel if he wanted to name your daughter after his grandmothers... good luck!

J.,
Congrats on the baby! I would say it's best to pick out the names jointly, but I would guess that since the baby's not due until June, your husband probably just isn't in baby mode yet. We ended up waiting until my daughter was officially viable before committing to names, as I had lost two babies prior to her. We ended up with Emma Jean, which is a combo of my husband's grandmother and mother (who passed away in 2000) and I love the name. Definitely there's no hurry either way and plenty of time to get him to either come around or put his opinion out there. Good luck!!
S.

Hi J.,

I had a similar situation but reversed. My husband comes from a looooong line of first-born males who all have the first name "James." Middle names are all different, so we don't have James, XXXII Thank goodness. :)

James wasn't my first choice, second, or even on my list, and I am not one to fall to in-law pressure. I would have been fine going off of tradition; however, it was extremely (I can't emphasize this enough) important to my husband. And now I can't imagine our first born with any other name...it just fits. Not to mention there are nicknames they will undoubtedly pick up along the way to embarass them with, Pooky and Sugar-butt are James'.

So, I would gently stand my ground if you are that heart set on Helena Rose, which I think is an absolutely beautiful name (it's not anything horrid like Hilda Helga or something!).

Good luck!
T.

He hasn't actually said no yet so that's a good thing. I would say talk to him and see how he really feels about it. Why doesn't he seem to like it, does he have another name in mind. If you guys jointly decided on the last one than I would definitely decide to do the same here. I picked my daughter's first name and my husband picked her middle name, now with me getting ready to have our son, he picked the first name and I picked the middle name. That's how we worked it out. Hope you can find a compromise. congratz on the pregnancy and hope you have a happy and blessed one.

Well, first of all, I would let him know how important it is to you. However, I would also be open to listening to him and to his ideas. Perhaps he dislikes one the the two names but would be open to a variant on the name. For example, we named my daughter after my grandmothers, Helen and Marcella. However, the two names didn't quite sound right together. I started looking through the baby books. My daughter's name is Elena Marie. Elena is a form of Helen and I took the first part of Marcella and went with Marie. If your husband doesn't like the Helena Rose he may be open to a variant of one of the names.

Also, he may be a little like my husband and unwilling to talk about names until things are a lot further along. My husband never wanted to talk about names until the last trimester. He would ignore my requests to discuss it until then. He had to listen to all of the suggestions I made but would refuse to comment back until we knew everything was fine and the baby was almost due. Also, June is a long ways away yet. He may not want to comment or fight over a name for a girl just in case the baby is another boy. Then you would have fought for nothing.

Good luck with the naming of number 2 and with your pregnancy.

Hi J.,

I think the name that you have picked out is beautiful - I also think that you wanting to name her after your grandmothers is also beautiful. I think if you explain to your husband why you want the name - he will come around. If it is something he is adamantly opposed to - then you may have to change it - but if he is just "so-so" on the name, then I am sure you can convince him to come around. My husband was adamantly opposed to the name I had always wanted for a son - mostly because it is his fathers name - and he didn't want to name a child after his parents or my parents for that matter. So I had to find another name I liked - but when it came to picking middle names, I had very strong reasons for the name I picked and he eventually came around to accepting it. Good luck with your new baby!
J.

how about Rosa Helene?

I think you'll have to have a frank conversation and listen to his ideas. Maybe he has a mom or grandma he would like to honor. My husband and I always went to lunch after the sono and had the name discussion. You don't want to argue over it prematurely.
I like Helena and love Rose.

Ok I understand that you want to name your daughter after your grandmother but you do need to take you husbands feelings into account and compromise even if it settling for helena as a middle name. If not it could eventually lead to problems.

Stick to your guns. That is an absolutely beautiful name. And your daughter would be one of the few kids not confused with all the others who have the same name.

My husband and I chose to name our daughter after his grandmother and Mother, MaryEtta Grayce. And interestling enough, our son is named Michael.

Good luck to you and your family

you can try these names:

Danis
Anahi
amairany
Elizabeth
Dany
clara
shaland

Involve your husband in the name picking process. Give him something to do since all the attention is on you and the baby to be. If he ends up admitting that he doesn't care for helena rose, you can always use it as her middle name(s).

Hi J.,
I know that you have had your heart set on both names but in my opinion I think that you should do the same as you did with your son's name let your husband pick a first name that you both like and let the middle name be Helena-Rose, by doing it that way you give your husband the chance to name his daughter too and you can still honor your grandmothers because when we had your children my husband chose our son's first name and our daughter's middle name but I chose our first born's name which i can see he was sad about not haveing the choice, so don't do that to you husband give him the choice. I'm sorry if I sound like I'm telling you what to do but I know from experence. By the way I do like Helena Rose with the hyphen in it.Good luck and God bless you with your precious give.
S.

Maybe you could compromise and pick a name that you both love for the first name and use one of your grandmothers or combine them somehow for the middle name. I think the best thing to do is talk to your husband and tell him your concerns before it's too late. You don't want to wait until the baby's here to find out he hates it. Maybe if you switch the names around he might like it better. It sounds like you've been mentioning it for awhile and he still hasn't come around...he may never come around. Talk to him now and find out how he feels.

Hi J.. As the mother of 3 girls I can honestly say that picking names for a girl is the worst. All three times we came up with great boy names easily. Girl names for whatever reason are soooo much harder. It is very important that you and your hubby agree on a name. You have to be fair here and look for some sort of middle ground. It isn't right that you are almost demanding that he accept your choice of name for the child that is part of the BOTH of you. And a name that might have been good or okay to him 5 years ago may not be okay now. People change, their taste's change, and a name is forever. If your set on the first name, you should ask him for a suggestion for a middle name. Or maybe even use two middle names...that could be cool too!! You have to talk and work this one out names are too important! Good luck and congrats!! Best wishes.

Congrats on the pregnancy! I'd suggest to be open to his ideas , but in the end follow your heart. Helena Rose is a beautiful name. Good Luck.

I think it's absolutely beautiful! I would not worry about if it is different or not. There is meaning behind the name. I would just explain how much it would mean to you if your daughter carried your grandmothers names. And you could always compromise and if you have a boy to leave the name up to him. Congratulations!