J.,
I am a special education teacher with Chesapeake Public Schools. Although, I am not big or keen on medicating children...I may think about if I was you if you haven't done so already. If your daughter is on meds they may not be the right ones because children who are on the right meds usually act as though they have no disabilities at all.
I would try making your daughter become responsible for herself. She needs to learn that there are consequences for her actions, i.e. if she won't get out of bed in the morning then don't fight with her. Ask her once or twice to get up and if she doesn't leave her there until the last minute before the bus comes. At the last minute get her up and put her out of the house and on the bus. All though this may seem cruel...she will quickly learn to get up or she is going to go to school in her pj's.
As for her failing in school...her ADHD, OCD and BiPolar may be causing a lot of her problems. If she can not concentrate then she can't sit still long enough to learn and her mind is probably wondering a million miles a minute. Again, with this many disabilities the right meds may be the answer.
As for her not like herself and having self-esteem problems that probably has a lot to do with her bipolar disorder and if children and/or adults are not on the right medication they can act and say things that are irrational.
I would really reccomend that you either speak to your pediatrician or seek the help of a child psychologist. In what you describe your child is screaming out for help and waiting for someone to answer her.
I hold you in high regard to be handling all of these children with their disabilities by yourself.
Good Luck and I hoped that I have given you some good advice.
K.