Looking for a Good Al-anon Group near Downers Grove Il

You might remind him that while she is a great writer, you are his soul mate and real live live in mate. Tell him that he needs to be speaking with you, not her about so many things that are important. He made a commitment to you and your family, first to be husband and a father and second to spend a lifetime with you. He is looking for a different kind of fix, rather than alcohol and is replacing that part of life with something else to make him feel good while you are working hard to keep your lives together. It is probably harmless but ask him if he intends to take this further.You need your own self respect and remind yourself that he needs you very much. But, he needs to be as scared as he is making you. Remind him there might be a soul mate or two out there that you dont have to make amends with. Plus I would find out and contact his sponser or get someone to urge him back into some meetings. Perhaps you can go together. You keep writing us moms. There is nothing wrong with you and I commend you on your courage and desire to keep your family together.

My advice is too contact local churches in your area for support groups. They should also have ones for your children. Also, I would bring all of this old girlfriend stuff up w/ your counselor. My personal opinion is to let this marriage go. He doesn not seem commited to it. Your children will suffer in the long run. I pray that you have a supportive group of family and friend that you can rely on. Even if you are not religious, I would still contact local churches and ask for help, even financial if needed. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your children. Good Luck!!

Dear A., I hope my words will find some comfort for you...I can understand what you are going through...it's good that you are seeking council and I do hope you find a meeting close by your house...I have a child that is an addict...I know how they love to tell lies...sometimes I almost believe them...my prayers are with you. Love Jo

Meeting list for Illinois:
http://www.niafg.org/AdvFind.asp

You are not alone.

Besides the network of Al-anon, I found the book by Melody Beattie helpful, "Language of Letting Go". It helped to direct my thoughts in a healthy way.

A., I do not know where to direct you to find an Al-Anon meeting near you, but you are smart to get support. I am so sorry about this painful time you are going through. I wish I could give you some words that are going to magically help. I have been where you are and it hurts like hell. You do not deserve this. Any help you can get from a 3rd party like a therapist,minister,etc. is going to give you the insight you need to deal with this season of your life. I have a feeling this soulmate is temporary. When I have to face things that are overwhelming, I give it to God. He is bigger than any problem there is. He will give you peace and ultimately the answers you need. Good Luck,

You need to prepare yourself for the worst but hope for the best. You need to do everything you can to work on your self esteem and get yourself self sufficient. Your priority is to yourself and to your kids. You need to lead by example so the y have a strong role model to look up to. If it works out between you and your husband great if not you need to be prepared for like without him. You oblivious are a phenomenal person with a huge heart and are looking the do the right thing. The right thing is for you to put you and the kids first. I wish you the best of luck and all the worlds happiness...be strong!

Here are a couple:

Courage to Change AFG
Wednesday at 1:00
Clarendon Hills
Community Presbyterian Church
39 North Prospect

Friday Morning Serenity Seekers
Burr Ridge United Church of Christ
9:30-11
15 West 100 Plainfield Road
Northwest corner of County line Road and Plainfield Road

I attend the Friday morning meeting and there is a babysitter available until the end of the year. We have not had many members with little ones, so we have decided, as a group, we could not keep her, but she will be at the meeting until the end of the year, so you could bring your little guy.

It is great you are looking to get some support for yourself, that is what Al-anon is about.

Also the website www.niafg.org has all meetings listed.
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