Long Wait for Baby No.2

I think you could try the ovulation kits, to see if you can try a little more hard core, if that doesnt work after a couple of months, see if you can do some blood work. It could be something scary, or it could be something as simple as a hormonal imbalace that you need a little pill for. Either way, you'd have the peace of mind knowing what was going on.

I was told when TTC for 1st that the best thing you can do is stop trying. You would be suprised how much stress can play a role in getting pregnant and how much stress you put on your body when you dont right away. We tried for almost a year, then when we just said whatever it happened like that. There are soo many people I know who tried then opted for adoption when those things didnt work then found themselves pregnant shortly afterward (when all stress of TTC went away). If you are reaching a certain age where you are afraid of menopause or are under certain time cinstraints then maybe see a specialist, but other wise I say take a nice vacation, get a little "busy" and try not to concieve then you may wake one day to find yourself preggers. Hope this helps ((HUGS))

I suggest finding and reading a book called "Taking Charge of your Fertility". http://www.tcoyf.com/ It will teach you to become in-tuned to your own cycles. Not every women menstruates and ovulates on the exact same schedule or even at the exact same time during the month. If is possible that you are missing your window of fertility each month. I would also suggest that you begin taking some supplements to help ensure your body is at it's best for becoming pregnant. Get a good multivitamin (preferable a woman's vitamin or even a good OTC prenatal), fish oil and evening primrose oil. These will help make sure that your hormones are all balanced and increase your fertility. Once you have gotten a good idea of your bodies own natural rhythms just try to relax. The more you stress the harder it will be to get pregnant.

There are three year between my oldest three children and that isn't because we planned it that way. One thing that helped us was learning Naprotechnology. It was designed by an OB so that he could better diagnose fertility issues. Basically you get to know your body it the signs of fertility. Using those signs, you work towards your desire to get pregnant. You chart what you see and Dr. Hilgers is then able to diagnose any issues you may have through how your cycle presents itself. With the cart you are able to see the rise of estrogen, the fertile time of your month, the drop of estrogen, the rise of progesterone and how the thyroid is working. All these things are very important to achieving pregnancy. Be prepared, you will have to observe cervical mucus. I have found it wonderful to get familiar with how my body is supposed to work and it has been very useful to be able to treat many issues that have come up over the years.

I just found out from my doc that becuase I breastfed my daughter for 2 years, even though I started getting regular periods after 2 moths (lucky me!) it was not abnormal that I did not conceive.

I am a little older than you and so although the lack of concerption was not too abnormal my doctor sent me for blood work on the 3rd day of my period to determine the viability of my eggs. I would reccomend talking to your doctor about this test - it is about as non-invasive as you get for a medcal test and will let you know if you do indeed need further medical treatment.

Good luck!

Hello B.,
My daughter turned 3 on June 29th and we started trying for our second one when she was 6 months old (Jan 08). We have since had 2 miscarriages and taken a couple "breaks" along the way. I know it takes us a little longer to get pregnant then the average person, since it took 9 months to get pregnant with my daughter. So it's a waiting game for us.
I love the book "Taking Charge of your Fertility" and I'm planing to start reading that again very soon. Do you know when/if you ovulate? What have you tried so far? We use ovulation kits since my cycle isn't always the same and to insure that we are doing the deed at the right time. I also drink green tea (heard it increases cervical mucus) and encourage my husband to eat healthy and drink lots of water. We are going to try preseed in the next couple months also.
How long did it take you get pregnant with your son?
I wish you the best, I understand that heart break that happens every month!
C.

In moms who are older than 35, the recommendation is to wait no longer than 6 months before seeking medical help for infertility. I recommend you call your OBGYN for an appointment.

I'm sorry you are going through this-- infertility is very difficult. Good luck.

They say to wait at least a year...so I would talk to your OB.
Good luck! It will happen. Might need a nudge here or there.
(p.s. Does hubby yell "Swim, Little Guys!" at...ummm..."the" moment? LOL)

Hello B., I have 5 children on eis adopted. we never used to birth control and must say that we have 2 years between the fist 2 and then 4 years for #3 and another 6 years for #4. It is an emotional time and I can only advise that if you desire to not wait then see a docotr and check all the easy things first.
I promise you that it is all worth while wait.
Best Wishes

See a doc. Why do you think you're not ready for that yet? If you feel there are things you can do, then do get the book called Taking Charge Of Your Fertility. It will educate you on how your body works and how you can help the process along, and if it still doesn't work for a couple months after you've made some changes, then go see a doc. Tell him/her what you've tried, what happens and what doesn't happen, etc. ie, do you ovulate but not conceive, do you not ovulate, etc.

Hi B.

A long story short, my husband and I tried to get pregnant for over 2 years (we started trying around 7 years ago), after 2 years of trying without any success, we decided to seek help from an infertility doctor. It then took an additional 3 years before I got pregnant with my first baby (7 or 8 attempts with IUI and 2 attempts with IVF). After I got my regular period back, we decided to try for the second one (I wasn't getting any younger) but after 8 months of trying (and at this point in life with absolutely no romance left in our lives due to the many failed-on-command-attempts), I decided to go back to the infertility doctor. Since this was for the second child, the infertility doctor decided to follow the exact same process as with our first child and I got pregnant in the first IVF attempt.

I guess the bottom line is how long are you willing to wait before you become pregnant with your second child ? Just keep in mind that just because you get professional help, there is not guarantee that you will become pregnant right away either. Things (can) take time. Personally, I just wish I would have arrived at the conclusion to seek help earlier so I would not be having my second child at age 38 and we would not have lost all romance in the process.

If you have decent health insurance, why not at least talk to an infertility doctor and let them at least run some of the initial tests on both you and your husband to determine whether all your attempts are in vain (due to medical reasons) or if you just need to "be patient".

Good luck with everything. I really hope your wish for a second child will come true soon for you.

BR,
K.

I absolutely agree. If you've been actively trying to get pg for longer than six months - get to a fertility specialist - not your OB/GYN - a reproductive endocrinologist. I went through infertility treatments and on my support groups I met MANY women in their mid 30s who were already struggling with infertility. Often women have one child and it is easy and are surprised to see how a few years later it can be much harder to conceive. Don't waste any more time. Go to an RE and get tested for all of the fertility stuff.

Get the book Taking Charge of Your Fertility:
http://www.amazon.com/Taking-Charge-Your-Fertility-Annive...

It was a rec to me by many people and it helped for me. I am now 8 months pregnant. I was on the verge of trying accupuncture, that also may be of help.

Hi B.,
As most people mentioned, Taking Charge of Your Fertility is a great book. But I wouldn't just rely on that at this point. You might as well go as many routes as you can and see a fertility specialist. My son is 6 and we've been trying everything under the sun for the past 4 1/2 years. I do wish I had been more aggressive earlier. I did do acupuncture as well, which I know works for many people. And of course the "just relax and don't think about it" certainly doesn't work for most people. Seriously- how do you "relax and not think about it"? I never cared for that advice (no offense to those of you who said that). We are now adopting a baby due in November (and yes, I'm quite sure that's when I'll get pregnant!) :) I wish you the best of luck!

Unfortunately at 36 you have to check with a doctor or some kind of specialist. People are not always so sympathetic about what they call secondary infertility. I'm not saying that is what you might have.