R.M.
Hello MK
During my Parent Coach training, I discovered the Love & Logic approach and was so impressed. I've been working with kids for more than 16 years and over that time became frusterated that I was always punishing for the same things. Because of this,I redeveloped my technique towards poor behavior from punishing the bad to rewarding the good. After reading and studying the Love & Logic approach, I've started using their theories as well.
Basically, Love & Logic teaches ways to eliminate yelling & fighting by allowing natural and enforced consequences teach lessons. One example is what they call "Draining Energy". When kids fight/disobey it "Drains" Mom's energy, meaning Mom doesn't have the enegry to take them to the park or their friend's house. The only way for Mom's energy to be recharged is for the children to behave AND help Mom with chores. The Mom's batteries are recharged.
I've used their techniques myself and they really work. They have several books and free handouts on their website, a link is below.
Good Luck!
R. Magby