JFF- Do You Ever Cuss in Front of Your Kids?

Every day. And it doesn't bother me.

But I *do* get very angry when OTHER people cuss around my kids. How in the world do they know whether or not I'm okay with it? I'd never make that assumption for other people's kids.

I don't cuss at all, but I do what my dad does. Say I am carrying in the groceries and the bag breaks and my stuff goes rolling all over the place. I say, "Bad word! Dirty word!" and that's the end of it. My friends laugh at me, but it works for me.
At school the other day I was having trouble on the computer and I kind of groaned a little and said, "Bad word!" A student I spend a lot of time with didn't skip a beat and said, "Dirty word!"
It doesn't matter what we say, they copy it!
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Yes I cuss in front of my daughter... but this pregnancy seems to have upped my cussing equally with my diminishing ability of patience. I am usually pretty tame with using damn it or sh*t... but last few months I've been using the F-word - don't know why it comes out more often while I'm pregnant.

You never get a second chance to make a good first impression. To me, profanity makes a lousy impression, first or otherwise.

I had a 7th grade english teach that taught us, "Profanity is not an indication of intelligence. Its an indication of someone with a limited vocabulary that is out of control."

I don't use profanity or the signs of profanity, think "the bird". I worked hard to make sure my kids didn't bring home anything like that. It worked, because even as adults they don't use any profanity, at least around me. I know they have told their spouses because one of their spouses said something she shouldn't and immediately after the word left her mouth, she looked at me and apologized. I gave her the sign (the American sign language sign for "I love you").

My word to cover my times of frustration and insufficient control is "garbage".

Good luck to you and yours.

I try very hard not to. But just the other day I opened the door to our garage and a cat jumped off the roof of my car, right by my feet, and scared the living daylights out of me. Now my two and a half year old thinks the cats name is $hit Kitty. Fantastic. Luckily it's the neighbors cat (it just happened to get into our garage) and I think she has forgotten about it. I am actually very proud of my husband, he works on a Navy base and somehow doesn't come home talking like a sailor.

Unfortunatly yes.. and now that she is in college she does too. I am really sorry about it.. I tried so hard to use other words... It is a terrible habit.

Yep.

I would like to do it less - but I have a terrible potty mouth and always have. On the other hand - I don't ever hit my kids so I find it's a bit of a balance - we all have areas we work on - this is mine.

Me and Dad both had truck driver language but our kids never cussed, they were not allowed to say adult words. We didnt cuss while talking to them, but they would here us when we were having conversations with each other or our friends. If the little ones slipped and used one of our words we just corrected them letting them know it was adult words that arent real nice to use in public or to come from a childs mouth and gave them the correct word they could use in the situation, they got it.

Yes--I curse way too much. I could buy a new car with all the money that should be in the swear jar.

I do on a very regular basis. I have tried to cut back & I do not curse AT them ever, just in their presence, but they're both old enough to know that they are under no circumstance allowed to curse. I've caught them both once or twice with a small one & reminded them that it's not ok, but never punished them for it.

I try not to. Sometimes one will slip, usually a ____@____.com or a $hit.
We try to use other words, puddles, or poppycock, tiddley winks
When my 16 month old firstborn was in the backseat I was cut off and snapped God ____@____.com it! I hear from the back GA DA DA!! Repeatedly. oops

Wow, this post makes me feel better! I have a trucker mouth. It's awful, and I hate it, but it's like cussing is my guilty pleasure or something. I don't want to stop! :D

Um, yeah. I try very hard to be conscious of my speech, but in moments of outrageous frustration I have been know to use a "bad word" or twelve.

When he was little, he would sing out "Oh, Mommee, said a bad word". I always apologized and life went on.

At almost 15 (oh, I can't wait until he turns 15 in two weeks and I can drop the almost) he has a horrible collection of "bad words" that it seems is the norm in conversation between teens. So I am now the one singing out about "bad words". Many words are banned in my house - anything resembling any kind of racial slur, gender insult, or sexuality insult. The kid comes home with a "new" word, uses it in conversation while playing online PS3 and then I have to explain to him why the word is offensive - I mean, he still just parrots what he hears. But, my heart grows with pride when I then hear him explain to other players why the should not be using the same word.

Personally, I love swear words. But, like fried foods, they are not good for me.

God Bless

Honestly, Yes. I am not proud of it of course. I was in the kitchen and dropped a huge chopping block of wood on my bare foot---I cried and said S*%$! Owww! Or something to that effect. I immediately apologized for saying that and really try to watch what I say to make sure it is positive and pleasing to God. But we are all human and to error is human....

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Yes, my husband and I both cuss, and my three and a half year old has picked it up. She even uses G-d d-mnit in context. Do I like it? No. Do I know where she got it? Yes.

Once at a packed store, I was looking at a dress that kept falling off the hanger. The third time it fell I said (under my breath) "son of a b----!" Which, of course, was followed by a sing-song repeat of the last word by my almost 2 year old over and over and she smiled, angelically, up at me! The worst part was that I couldn't stop laughing long enough to correct her and I know the rest of the store was thinking, "Nice parenting lady!!!!" LOL :)

a friend of my husband's said "G#d D*%mit" while putting around in our backyard a couple weeks ago and now my almost 2 year old will say it and then say- "Mommy- we don't say that, only Uncle Jeff!" The other day I was telling Jeff about it and he didn't believe me so I asked my son, "What does Uncle Jeff say?" and he said it again.

Do I do it- yes. Does he repeat it- yes. For now, we are trying to make it "not a big deal" and we focus on trying not to say it for when he can actually understand that it isn't good to say. If you are a person who says those kind of words anyway, it is impossible to avoid it just because you are with your kids.

No. But I don't cuss behind my kids' (grandkids') backs either. You can't really have one type of vocabulary for one group and another type for everyone else. It just doesn't work. Either that or I'm not clever enough to do it!

yup! I have a potty mouth and need to work on it:) Glad to see I'm not the only one!

yes!....oh my i am bad at that....i let them correct me in this regard.

I have at times, notfrequently, and not a her or anyone else, and my daughter knows shes not supposed to use them, although she sings them in songs occasionally

I have...I am horrible about yelling them at people while driving! My boys fully understand they are grown-up words...I always apologize to them, when they do come out. Not fair they have to listen to my nasty mouth because some twit cant do the speed limit, or they cut me off.

I will let one out when I think no one is around, and something frustrating happens..niine times outta ten my six year old is with in ear shot, ad he starts shaking his head at me....

We would be prime candidates for the swearing jar...mommy would be broke, fast.

I do try very very hard. I think it sounds horrible when I hear people swear. So, I do make a whole hearted effort not to do it.

It has slipped, but under my breath. Example, I slam my finger or stub my toe or as you mentioned when someone almost hits you while driving (that is when I am most likely to be heard cussing, it is rare but that is where it happens the most).

I will never use it when talking to my child, even if I am frustrated and angry. When it seems to be on my tongue (which is rare that I feel to go to that extent) it takes all my will power not to cuss and at times I have to walk into my bedroom, close the door so I do not swear at my child.

I had a potty mouth before my daughter was born but I vowed to change that before she came along because I did not want her first words to be a four letter word. To ease myself out of it I would say "f" or "s" instead of the real word. Now I say "crikey," "gosh darnit," oh my lord," and even mayonaise. I do not know where they came but when I get frustrated those words come out of my mouth rather than the other ones and I don't mind if she repeats the words or phrases listed above. That being said it does not make you a bad mom when those words slip, you're human :)

Intellectually and philosophically I agree with 8kidsdad....however, the neuro-sciences have proven that swearing comes from the same part of our brain as that of a dog who is growling at something for warning purposes.

This is why many post-stroke people can still swear up a storm but cannot carry on a conversation as it comes from a different part of our brain.

To answer your question...I grew up with the expectation in a Lutheran church, school and home where we were taught not to swear, that it was a sin. But my physically abusive father swore lots during beatings and while drunk.

I did not swear until after serving as an office in the army for over 8 years and was exposed to constant foul language from the enlisted folks, who are in general less educated and come from lower socio-economic backgrounds.....please don't send me hate mail over that last comment. So when I am stressed or hurt - yes I can swear in ways unbeknownst to me....my kids will tell me later what I said....and I think, really, I said that???? SH*T

We started a money jar now, and I am the biggest contributor, but only when I'm stressed.

I am working on using "Shut the front Door" and "Dog Vomit" and "Tartar Sauce"....but I like 'Garbage" as noted below.

I have said something under my breath - after stubbing a toe or catching a finger in something but I really don't like it and I don't let others cuss in front of my child either. Just how I was raised i guess. When my mom needs to express herself she says "sugar & fish"!!!!!! lol

Glad to see I'm not the only one! Although sometimes I do, I always feel extremely guilty, and lately I have been really curbing it (I'm actually proud of myself, lol!). My daughter is 3.5 and she'll ask me "mommy, is it Ok if I say shoot"? Or ask about another word. I alway reply with a yes or a no, and explain why. My explanation always revolves around, "when you become a mommy, THEN you can say that". I've always made sure she understands its an adult thing, and not so nice. I thankfully haven't had any issues with her copying my bad habit. But, like I said it's gotten SO much better, and she sees me fixing my terrible habit, so that must be helping :)

Hell - yes! (I try not to, but sometimes it simply happens!)

Once in a while I have had a slip - but my hubby plays rugby and sideline language is quite colorful. As a result, I have my fair share of explaining curse/adult language (aka "smart" and "not smart" words) and choose not to add my own to that if I can help it - LOL!