Jealous Sister?

Lizbeth,

I don't know from what you told us what reality is, but I can tell you this.....
there was no reason for your Mom or your sisters friend to share those things with you. They were of no benefit to you. Don't we all sometimes vent about our relatives a little? It may not be right, but we do it and we don't necessarily want to share those feelings with the person we are upset with.......we are just talking out loud. Sometimes our feelings are more about ourselves than the other person. So, first of all I would tell your Mom and your sisters friend not to tell you these things anymore. They are just hurtful.

Next, if you have concerns about your sister, how about taking her to lunch and telling her. "I'm worried about you. You seem upset lately and I want to help. What can I do?"

Then accept that you can only help her if she wants it. Love her the way she is, but protect yourself too. Her journey is just that...... hers.

I hope it gets better soon. She may be jealous, but you can't do anything about that...... and she might not be able to either.

Is she skitsofrenic? Is there a chance that maybe she has multiple personalities & one personality sees you as a wonderful sister that's there for her and another personality that sees you as a snotty greedy person?

Hmmmmmmmmm...... I don't know. This is a tough one. I am the middle of 3 sisters. I know if we have problems we always sit down (usually with our Mom as a mediator) and we hash things out. We don't like tension & issues. Sometimes we yell, scream, cry, cuss & everything else but when it's over, we always feel good & glad we did it. But if your sister isn't coloring with a full set of crayons then it's a totally different thing & suddenly becomes more like an intelligence game..... who can play it better. We have those in our family too (not my sisters). LOL! Good luck. :)

write her a letter or sit her down for some serious juicing. my sister and i have had to do this several times. be sure to use I statements and dont accuse as that will only put her on the defense. sounds like she is going through a tough time or has some serious issues and takes them out on you.

Relationship are two ways you know... If you really want a good healthy relationship with your sister you need to sit down with her, just the two of you and talk. Also, invite her over more. Call her out of the blue just to say Hi... when something is bothering you, let her know...

I have 3 sisters I love dearly. We were very close growing up and now the oldest and youngest and I are really close. My other sister, we love dearly, she's really devoted to her family, especially her husband. It's what she chose. I still talk to her every now in then, not as close but still a lot of love there... She also lives 5 states away, so we don't see each other much. My other two I see on major holidays and every once in awhile at my parents, we are 2 and 5 hours apart.

Since your sister is single it's hard to juggle both... She may not understand because she may be a little more self-centered right now...

I hope you can have a strong healthy relationship with her....