I am not sure where to put this one, so I put it here.. My little girl is 7, and full of questions. the normal ones. but she has started asking some pretty intereting questions,Why do People die? Like what is creamation? How are babies put in moms belly? and she has mentioned some stuff about periods..
I have always treated her as a small person, never baby talked to her, but I do not want to rush her into growing up. and I feel some of these questions are very mature for a 7 year old. She has already had an issue when she came back from her dads house, counting and reading labels. I nipped that one real quick, and went of on her dad , because he said she had a belly, which in return my daughter construed as he was calling her fat. We got over that one, but I am wonder how yong or how old or if any one of you have had something simaular.
Sorry for rambling
Thanks in advance
Tell her the truth without all the details. That way you don't feel guilty about lying and at the same time she feels that she is getting an answer.
L.
I think that you should sit your daughter down and answer her questions and also ask where these are comiung from! If your daughter is hearing from someone about all these subjects then you want to make sure that she is getting the correct info. I would have given anything to have my mom answer all my questions at that age and then we might of had a better relationship. There are lots of books about where babies come from and your period (there might of been someone in her class that started ther period) and as far as why do people die keep it simple telling her that everyone has a perpose in life and when they have fulfilled there purpose then they go back to heaven or something like that nothing!!
Good luck
A.
I am not quite sure how to respond...I think that the first thing to ask her is what is making her think of these things and what she has heard or if people have been telling her stuff, etc. Just to see what level of interest she has in such issues or what is really going on in her head. I would then probablly read up on good ways to approach these topics at different developmental ages (there has to be something on that somewhere)...I wish I was able to give you more info. Good luck!
Hugs!
L.,
My youngest is 8 so I know where you are coming from on this one. The thing I try to do is anwser her questions honestly but I don't go into great detail. The thing with your hubby, I'm afraid I would have went off too. She is still a baby and so what if she has a belly. For crying out loud doesn't he know that little girls go through too much now days already! He is going to give her very low self esteem, I'm glad you got that one before it could get out of hand.
well i was told in my writing class by my teacher that its best to talk to your child about sex at the age of two. i know i flipped out too. she said to explain it to where they would understand it
Hi L.! No worries! I used to teach first grade for 4 years and loved the little kiddos curious minds! Sometimes I would just joke it off--such as the babies in bellies thing--I was pregnant last year when I taught and I was asked something very similar to that question and I said with a big smile "It's MAGIC!!!" and would change the subject or get up and walk away. But, of course in a teacher's position, I can't go through telling them the truth, I don't want parents upset with me! :) Anyway, that's just another way to deal with it if you aren't ready (or if she isn't ready in your eyes) for the big talk. Just be encouraged that she is so curious and wants to learn. I do believe she is getting a lot of information from other kiddos at school. Maybe you should have a talk with her and let her know that sometimes other children talk too grown up. Does she ride the bus? If so... BINGO!!! Take care.
She is asking these questions because of the kids talking at school. It's normal. (that's one of the reason's that I home school)
Just give her the talk. Not all of it, that would freak her out! :) Just explain to her enough to let her know everything happens for a reason.
Good luck to you!
God you know I had questions at a very young age. When i knew my mom was lying to me I seeked the answers were ever i could get them. So I would say be as honest as possible. If you aren't comfortable don't lie. I lost all trust in my mom cause of this! I decided from a young age that she was alway lying to me and believed nothing she said! So If she is as strange as I you will have to tread lightly!
I think it is great that your daughter knows it is okay to come to you and is comfortable doing so, some children do not feel that way, however I absolutely believe she is to young -- to hear all the details that is (depending on the topic at hand). My husband and I recently had this same exact issue with our 7 year old daughter and I researched this and talked to her counselor and from what I have learned it is okay to share enough without going into great detail that their curiosity is satisfied when they do ask questions. We have started following this at home and it has worked wonders. She knows it is okay to come to us to ask questions and feels comfortable doing so, and also learned when it is appropriate to talk about certain things outside of home(again depending on the topic)which gives us the opportunity to regulate what she learns and in how much detail as children grow up way to fast in this day and age and age 7 they are still just that...little girls.
I agree tell her the truth. My daughter is 5 years old and i do the same thing but i do not include all details. After the talk its dropped right then and there she dont seem interested any more. I guess till the next subject arises. LOL
L.,
My 5 year old daughter has strated asking questions that I feel are also too mature for a 5 year old. None as mature as the one your 7 year old is asking but nevertheless to mature for a 5 year old. I try to be as honest with her as I possibly can without going into too much detail. I keep things very basic with her, telling her the whole story but making it very very PG. Kids are maturing very fast these days so its only natural for there little minds to mature as fast as their bodies.
I'm glad that you nipped the body image issue in the bud. Kids have to worry with so much more than we had to when we were their age, thats one thing that they shouldn't have to worry about.
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I remember whenI was in school, the nurse had us watch a video. If they do that at your daughter's school, she should be watching it in about a year or two. Until then, I agree, tell her the basics, but not everything so that you don't feel like you are lying to her. Also, if you would like her to go ahead and see the videos, there is a boy video and a girl video-they separate them at school-I'm sure your local library would have something. Maybe some books or something for children. Also, in order for the school to show your child the videos, they HAVE to have your permisson. Some parents want their children to hear it from them, while others are too embarrassed. I hope this helps...
