Is It Hard for Anyone Else to Turn 30 - Clinton,MS

The alternative to having another birthday is being dead. So I'll take the extra year. I'm pushing 50 and really I don't feel much different than when I was 30, so age is just a number. I think it's nice they want to throw you a party. I do agree that some people don't like parties and being the center of attention. It would be nice if they honored your wishes. But if it's just because you're turning 30 then I think you need to relax a bit about it and be thankful you're alive, you have a beautiful baby and a nice family who loves you.

Let them give you the party. Be gracious and let them have a good time. It may turn out to be more fun that you think it will.

Are you worried about how old 30 is? I was when I had that birthday. I thought being thirty meant the best part of my life was over and I was practically near death's door. Ha! Next year I turn 65! You want to know about OLD? I am now maintaining that you aren't old and decrepit until you're at least 127! Enjoy each birthday and each day that you have!

You sound like I did, but not because you are not liking the party but because you just had a 6 month old. Turned out, after visiting the doctor, that I was having a mild, very mild postpartum. He said moms of children under 5 and ages of 20 something to 35 ish, are the most depressed. I started exercising more. Running, riding bike, and broke out of it. I'm 33 and feel great. I'm happy most of the time, because if I were happy all the time then I would really be depressed. LOL!
In My Opinion: and you could tell me to go you know where...
Enjoy the party. Appreciate it like there is no tomorrow. AND EAT! Make sure they have your favorite food and cake. Not the junk they bring for parties but something you are going to love to have. Milk your birthday...for all the it is worth. I mean come on 30 years!!! What a feat!
By the way Happy Birthday!
MOM HUGS!!!

I can't remember the last birthday party I had...maybe 12? Anyway, I would relax and enjoy it. Are you against the party, or against turning 30? For my 30th, I was preggers, and couldn't even have a glass of wine to celebrate. While I would tell people, no, don't go to the trouble, I think inside, I would really like that party (self esteem issues with thinking no one would come). That is probably what everyone is thinking, the self deprecating, no, no, don't go to the bother.

I know it is hard, and you should be able to do what you want for your birthday, but every 5 years or so isn't so bad for a party. You aren't being a brat, or ungrateful, you really don't want it, but since it is tomorrow, I say go with the flow and try to have a good time.

If I could relive any decade it would be the 30's. This is the best age for women IMO. So don't feel bad! Try to have fun. Make it part of the deal that they watch your 6 month old the day after so that you can have a day to yourself to recover (LOL!) or just go get a mani/pedi.

I'm turning 52 this year and my brain still thinks I'm 30. It's really just a number and nothing more. I really don't enjoy the fuss at all and would prefer nothing be done however my family doesn't see it that way. They always have a little party. I just enjoy spending time with family and friends because I realize that they are throwing it out of love.

Happy birthday!

30 was nothing for me - that was 3 years ago. OF COURSE I thought about it like 6 months before it happened---- OMG I'm gonna be OLD, no more 20's.... and so on and so forth. BUT I'm ENJOYING my 30's A LOT MORE than I Ever honestly did my 20s ( in a different sorta way). Its different for every one tho. I would go to this party that your mom and DH thought a lot about and put effort and time into for YOU :-) I bet you will have a great time once your there! Every one is there for you !!!!! Have a couple cocktails and Live it up !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I would also see if your mom could take the baby over night ;-) you and hubby can Celebrate together after the party !!!!!!!!! HAPPY BIRTHDAY
p.s: dont be a brat ;-)

Can't wait for 30! I'm 29, and 30 is, well, a new decade!

I've got 3 beautiful kids so even if I fell of the earth tomorrow, their lives will go on, and I've had a wonderful life. I used to be terrified of not living to 100, since I want to live a LONG time. I hope I do, of course, but having kids made me realize that my most important work (putting them on the earth) is done. Of course I want to raise and enjoy them now, and I hope I can go to all their weddings, celebrations, etc. Even for the grandkids!
Each decade brings more awesome opportunities. 30's and 40's I'll see my kids grow, and maybe after that even see a grandbaby. Life is that good!

I was more upset when I turned 29 - as it was the end of my "youth" hahaha. I recall sitting on the train coming home from work when my friend said something like - "oh my god, let's just go coffin shopping for you now...: And I snapped out of it. Suddenly I'm 51 and refuse to allow myself to get upset about the nubmers attached to my age. You are who you are whether you're 25 or 85.

Anyway - you have a husband and a mom who love you and want to throw you a party and you have a healthy baby Be thankful for the blessings that you have. While you didn't want a party, it looks like you're getting one so make the most of it. Be gracious (a sign of class and good breeding) enjoy your company and allow your husband and mom do most of the work since it was their idea. As someone else mentioned, go for a mani-pedi, take your baby to the park, etc. Enjoy your day, you'll get a few presents and then move on. Life really does get better as you get older. You get wiser, you learn more about yourself and you begin to realize what is really important in life.

Happy Birthday mama!

I'm getting ready to turn 30 and I'm actually excited to be 30. I thought I would be down about it but I'm not at all. The way I look at it is I did all of my growing up in my 20's. I became a wife, a mother and learned who I really am. Now in my 30's and beyond, I get to live out the life I created in my 20's. Goodbye 20's, it was nice growing up with you. Hello 30's, let's live life!

I think you should really appreciate what your husband and mother are doing for you. A lot of people wish someone would do that for them. My husband is throwing a surprise party for me. He's so not slick, I figured it out but will act surprised :)

Turning 30 isn't a big deal, get over it and let them throw you a party.

I couldn't wait to get the heck out of my 20's. The 20's was the worst decade of my life. I actually loved my 30's and now I feel like I'm hitting a great stride with my 40's.

About your party, try to relax and enjoy the fact that people want to celebrate that you are here.

I have friends that didn't make it to their 20's and I lost alot of friends before they hit their 30's. The way I see it you can grow older gracefully because the only other option against growing older is death and I happen to choose life.

Each year I choose to learn something new and try something new and every 5 years I try to master something new I learned as well as take care of my work, family and social life. So there is alot going on but I do have an overall plan for the success and happiness and joy in my life.

Oh by the way, HAPPY BIRTHDAY.

I wish I could do my 30's over again! The great part about being in your 30's is that you still look good and are WAY smarter than you were in your 20's! Try to be gracious and enjoy the party.

I used to be like you and would whine if someone wanted to do something nice for me.. however, that has since changed.. be happy someone wants to celebrate you.... that said, when you get to 40, you'll look back and think.. gee, why was I ever upset at turning 30.. thirty is young.. have some fun..
Plus, obviously, it's not just about "your" bday.. things change when you have a baby, in a good relationship with family, it then becomes about celebrating "the baby's mom" so it's not just for you.. people want to celebrate your first bday as a mom.... go with the flow.. lighten up... and enjoy a piece of cake..

Turning 30 really wasn't a big deal... thought it would be, but when I actually stepped back and took stock of "where" I was in life... pretty damn good.

Enjoy the party, help get the house ready, but make sure to take a good amount of time to get yourself ready... maybe leave them and go get a mani/pedi! You may surprise yourself by how much you enjoy the celebration. My husband threw a small dinner party for me and we had a great time (even though we had to "prep and clean")!

Apparently you arent going to be able to get out of it huh? I think it's pretty mean of them to throw it since you asked them not to. You better go tho, and smile through it anyway.... Not going, or being bitchy while you are there will just make you feel worse. It might turn out fun and heck you are gonna get some gifts, it probably wont be as bad as you are anticipating it to be.
You only turn 30 once so you wont have to worry about another party till you turn 40 probably.

30 didn't phase me, 31 however! Now I'm 43, yikes! I really agree with Bobbi, celebrate your life! How many don't make it to 30 and you get to celebrate it. Personally, you should throw your mom the party for doing all that work 30 years ago! ; )

I agree with the responses. Yes, it would look ungrateful and babyish to push this more. So, understand that they probably thought you were just being a baby about turning 30 and wanted to help elevate your mood and know that living to the best years of your life is an honor. Before I push the downside, I want to ask you if it is possible that you are depressed. If that's possible, you should seek meds and counseling. Also, it would be understandable to say: I just don't understand why I'm feeling this anxiety about this birthday, but I want to honor the people that think enough of me to do this, can you help me with .... the baby (or this or that) so its a little easier for me.

If it is not depression or being overwhelmed for some medical or nervous condition, then for goodness sakes, think of all the people that have cancer at your age and fear they won't make it for another year and their children will lose their mother. I've been a young widow and I've been a person who got a terminal death sentence (but lived through it). So, from me to you with the best of intentions, either stop whining or get medical attention.

In the future, let it be known what kind of birthday you would LOVE to have. Then you might get what you want. If you hate parties in general, let them know what you love. Don't force them to try to read your mind. Allow them to give you some love in the way you most appreciate.

no , my hard year was 29.
I would just go with it , have fun age is only a number!

I am turning 30 in a couple months, and I will say that I am a little sad about leaving my twenties. Its normal to feel the way you do and don't let anyone make you feel bad about it. It is also reasonable to not want to have to do extra work and get ready for a party you didn't want. Its nice of them to throw one, but you should get to spend your birthday the way you want to. That being said, the party is going to happen---if I were you I would tell hubby you booked yourself a spa day to you can relax in preparation for the party tomorrow night. Then I would disappear for the day without the baby and relax while they prep. They can manage the baby too. That should be their job anyway as the hosts. You just show up looking rested, pretty, and ready to have a great time! Then have a great time at the party celebrating your birthday. You both win and next year when hubby and MIL realize how much work it all really is, I bet they rethink another party. They decided to throw a bash, don't help them pull it all together! And your feelings will go away about turning 30---there is always 40 to look forward to, lol!

OMG YOUR TURNING 30 LIFE IS GOING TO END ;0 jk. just have another 29th bday. I have been having them for 12 yrs. wish I was 30 again. :)

I turned 30 this year as well, and I have NEVER liked the birthday party thing. My husband was always understanding and would just take me and the kids out to do whatever I wanted (park, movie, whatever) that is until this year. He took me to buy me a gift, with out the kids, (he does this every year too) and when we stopped for lunch there was a suprise party waiting for me.... with brownies that the kids made and ballons and it was at a place with go carts and arcades and stuff, and we all played all day. It was my first surprise party, and I thought I would have been mad, but it was a blast! I think it had more to do with my 6yr old wanted to throw me a party. I didn't mind turning 30 at all, I'm happy for any birthday because there are people that don't get to see the next birthday, but I don't like a fuss being made over me. Just that once though, i let it go, thanked him and our kids, and enjoyed myself. I hope you can do the same! Happy birthday!

First, I DO sympathize with your situation that your DH and mom did not listen to your preference and respect your wishes. I hope you'll be able to just relax and enjoy the party, even though you didn't want them to do this for you.

Later on, when you have an opportunity to do some communication practice (a workshop, counseling) with DH, you can use this as an example of how you need him to actually HEAR you when you tell him your preferences.

Meanwhile, however, your subject line reminded me of . . .
way back in the Olden Days . . . .
I turned 30 at a time when one of the common sayings was
"Don't trust anyone over 30," so I was especially traumatized
when I turned 30. It turns out my 30s were enjoyable . . .
and each following decade was even better than the previous one.

It's just a number! Make sure you are working out and feeling healthy and it will be just like any other age. It does seem unfair that you have to help get ready for your own party if you don't want it. I'm sure everyone is just trying to show their love and want you to have a good time. It's probably too late to cancel, so see if you can get your mom and husband to help you get ready and try to have a good time!

Well,to some people or in this case,husbands.Some of them will take the "no I do not want a birthday party"to be almost like a hint like you want one.Also since you mentioned it more than a couple of times already.He probally didn't think anything of it.Keep in mind that he have his heart put into this for the right reasons and it might not be your choice.When I turned 30 I was not in the mood either and my hubby took it as a early GOS.IT means growing old syndrome(he came up with that... ha ha ha).He made me see that I might turn into one of these old grumpy hag that he doesn't want to grow old with.He made me realized that I was begining to be less fun in our relationship and we ended up having it my way and I was miserable to be left alone the way I wanted.A few days later he gave me a tiny small birthday party and I think that was the best party I ever had.

Sweetie.there are things to get upset about and there are "THINGS" to really get upset about and this is not it!I think that you should let them give you one and you never know,it might be the best party ever.Think positive and I know that you are unhappy about them doing this.But it seem that they want to and you should let it go.It's really not a big deal until you make it one.Enjoy it and have a HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!

I personally LIKED turning 30, FINALLY a real grown up, but still looking SOOOO young! Now 40? That sucked.

And yeah yeah if you went on and on about not wanting a party and they did it anyway that sucks too. But since you have a family who is BOUND AND DETERMINED to celebrate your life even without your consent, well, I think that's pretty cool. Maybe you can just roll with it.

Happy Birthday!!!

I know it's going to to be tough. I would say suck it up, it will only be for a few hours and your husband is putting forth a good effort, most don't do that. Feel lucky. I'll turn 30 in Feb. and I KNOW I've got it coming to me because I am about the last of my friends to turn 30 and my husband it 34. He got it BAD. So I know when that day comes it will be a day to remember, and to fester on, lol. Just go with it and be thankful for your husband.

Wait -- are you just not in the mood for a party, or are you agonizing over turning the ancient age of 30?

If it's the latter -- get over it. 30 is a baby, from my perspective. Enjoy it while it lasts

Some people are not cut out or interested in a big bash. I am one of them.

Turning 30 was no big deal to me... we did not celebration, etc because my husband respects my wishes of being low key. I am not one who celebrates for the whole month or week. Gees...

Now, turning 40 and up has really bothered me. I found myself in tears at the thought of it. My hubby gave me a little red convertible for #40 and it was fun and exciting but ugh...40. By the time 45 came around I was devastated. He surprised me with a luxury sport car which I love but UGH... 45.

I'll be hitting 50 in the next year or so. Hubby knows how depressed I get for a week or more thinking about the "day". This time he said he is getting me a hearse, LOL. I guess I should be thankful he cares and respects my wishes........the the dreaded day sure beats the alternative....

Happy birthday.

To tell you the truth........I loved turning 30. But now I will be turning 50 and I have to say I am having a slight problem with it. I do not want a party like my family wants to give me. I just want to go out for dinner with them. Nothing big, I am starting to feel old and I do not like it. There is nothing I can do about turning 50........Just deal with it I guess. So enjoy turning 30 if you can and I will try also! good luck!

I was the same way...... I remember lying in bed on my 27th b.day JUST-A-BALLING becasue I was going to be "30" in 3 yrs. My husband said "What R U KIDDING ME?" GO TO BED!!! The day before I turned "30" I said, to my husband "OMG I am going 2 be "30" in less then 24 hrs!" He said, and look great!! I NO how CHEEZY, but he made me feel better at the time. Well to make a year go by fast & short. That "30th b.day" was my best yr. EVER and I LOVED every minute of it. I am 38 now and wishing that I was "30" again!!!

So Don't Sweet It Girl Have Fun and Live It To The Fullest!!!
ROCK THOSE 30's

it's better than being dead. I just turned 50 today and it's great and am so happy to be alive and healthy. If you don't like parties I totally understand, and they should do something low key, but hey at least they want to do something for you, You can feel has old has you want to feel. You are not getting old unless you want to feel old it just another step in this road called life. Have fun and look around at all that you have to be grateful for.
Happy Birthday!!! and to many more

I turned 30 the first of Oct, and it didn't bother me one bit!!! My friends and husband threw me a party, and it was a great time!!! just think of all that you have and you JUST 30 years old!!! Happy Birthday!!

I just turned 30 a few weeks ago. I'd had my fifth baby a month before, and I'd been dreading the age of 30 for about... thirty years. It always depressed me. I begged my husband to ignore my birthday, just like I've done for the last several years. I hate any kind of attention focused on me, good or bad. I completely understand where you are coming from.

I think what made it worse for me is that my husband is a few months younger than me, so I have to hit all the "old" milestones first. Sounds stupid, I know. I have to keep reminding myself of any positive points that I can though. The two favorites that I'm hanging onto are:
1. I'm in my 30s, my husband is in his 20s. For a couple of months, I can classify myself as a cougar.
2. If you look at ages in groups (20s, 30s, 40s, etc.), we are the youngest in our "group" again, whereas at the age of 29, we were the old ones in the group.

I know the party is already over and done with, but I hope you were able to enjoy it, or at least fake your way through it. And welcome to the club. :-)

Whoaaaaaaaaaa = Stand back, look in the mirror, why would mon and husband want to give you a party.

BECAUSE THEY LOVE YOU

Enjoy, your birthday, whose knows it may turn out to be the best in
30 years!

God Bless Happy Birthday

29 was hard for me. About 2 weeks before my birthday, my ever-present smile turned upside down & I was simply grumpy about everything! Even my bff (who is 2 wks younger than me) got onto me for being snappy, rude & hateful. The day after my bday? Woke up, realized nothing was different, and my smile was back! (I think it had more to do with the fact that I wasn't where I thought I should be in life...) So I called up my bff, who'se smile was now gone & SHE was the grumpy one! Had to LOL when she asked me "what the heck are YOU so happy about?!?" Told her she'd be better the day after she had her birthday - and she did!

All that being said, make the most of your party. Be thankful & gracious, because hopefully, the next morning, you'll wake up with your smile back in place & you'll be wondering why you felt so down in the first place.

Hope you have a great time & happy birthday!

I don't think it's 30 alone that's bothering you, but the fact your turning 30 and have a baby and responsibilities, etc. It's overwhelming, I agree, but you should just put on a happy face and have a great time at the party. Turning 30 is hard. I just turned 40 and really it wasn't as hard for me as it was to turn 30. I guess my mom was right about becoming mellow with age. While I agree that your family probably should have listened to what you wanted from the beginning, they were so excited they just couldn't help themselves. Just go with it and enjoy all the love around you! Happy 30th!!!

Your husband is celebrating the fact that you are alive and well. He wants to celebrate. It's only a number. Just have fun! Laugh with your friends and family! You deserve to feel special for a day! I think every mom deserves that!

30 was very hard for me...I "celebrated" with my husband, kids and another family we were close to by watching Food TV and eating spaghetti. I didn't want to do anything!!! But...the day came and went without incident really.

With that being said, just let them do it and put a smile on your face...It's a hard one - I know...BUT...it will pass and you will love your 30's (I really found myself).

I'll be 40 in 2011 and we (along with 3 other families) are planning a road trip to Florida to celebrate my birthday...I can't wait to see what life has in store for me...

Happy Birthday - I know this one is a hard one...but you will get through it..

Turning 30 didn't really bother me. I wasn't settled and was still single and not a mom. I am turning 40 in a few months and now really understand. I am the same way. I don't think you are being ungrateful or a brat at all. I am thinking about spending my and my dd's birthdays (the day after the other) away visiting my family.
I am sorry he isn't really being considerate of your feelings. I hope things went better than you thought. <3