Let me start by saying, DON'T GIVE UP. I have a 16 year old son and believe me, he is just now getting the picture of doing his homework, studying for tests, and taking responsibility for his own actions. My suggestions, when we bought my son a red camero for his 16th birthday months before his birthday, we told him he has to prove to us he is worthy of having it. Well, he already had gotten suspended from school that year alone by then 12 times and we tried using reverse psycology on him by having him see the car everyday and maybe his behavior would change. (this was going to be the first b-day party in 3 years because of behavior) Well, the day before his birthday low and behold, he got suspended for the 13th time that year. (his b-day is in April) Anyway, we said that was it. We sold the car and he didn't have his blow-out party that I had been planning for about a year and half. He also saw someone driving the sports car that was supposed to his and freaked out. I guess that was the straw that broke the camel's back because we have no kind of bad behavior, bad attitude, or actions out of him since. This school year he is studying like never before and passing all his classes with flying colors. The best part is, we haven't received one phone call home about. Now, I said all that to say this, don't fear what you help create and what you take of. Take things from him and don't do certain things for him. Like wash his clothes, BUY him clothes, presents for Christmas or b-days, I mean be MEAN and strict. And no matter if you have to go into the car or down the street, don't let him see you sweat (don't give him the satisfaction of letting him see you upset about what he does). If he thinks mom no longer cares, then he will snap into reality real quick. No child wants to think their parents don't care. Try some of these techniques and let me know how they go. Good luck, I am feeling and praying for you. JUST DON'T GIVE UP! SHOW YOU ARE STRONGER AND IN IT FOR THE LONG HAUL.