C.W.
We've been Foster Parents since 2003. Our first child was FAS. He had other problems as well. Not sure if it was all caused by the alcohol or just parts of his issues. Not sure how much was genetic in his family. He had numerous issues. He had around 8-10 Dr.'s I finally made a special list with all their numbers, address, names etc... and that helped so much to have a sheet handy when someone asked for his Dr.'s name and number, I could get it. He was overall weak all over his body. He was seen in the Muscular Dystrophy clinic, however he didn't have muscular dystrophy. He had another disorder however it is difficult to spell. He had a biopsy of his muscle and he had low tone muscle. He required physical, speech and occupational therapy. He was 5 when when we got him and 6 when he left our house. He was neglected medically/physically by a family member. We got him into the Child Study Center and they were great with him. We had no children at the time and we dedicated all our time with him and to helping him. When we first got him, we couldn't understand a word he had said to us. He was way behind the other kids. He started out in a PPCD class, however he wasn't in there but 6 months, then they transitioned him out to a regular classroom. It took a lot, lot, lot of patience, work and guidance with him. Therapy had exercises for us to do at home. We did everything the therapists told us to do and boy did he improve. After one year, he talked pretty normal except for a few words, could a ride a bike (where before he couldn't),walk up steps with no problem,run, do normal things like other kids. His eyes were far apart from one another, that is one physical sign of FAS and thin lips also. He's the only child we have had that was a true FAS case.
He had eye problems, he had a lazy eye and had surgery to correct it and needed drops for it also. Each child is different and it affects them different. The child you are considering may have some of the same issues or maybe different ones.
Our foster child had difficulty writing his name and following simple directions and attention issues as well. He had ADHD and was on medication for that. We got hm play therapy and that seemed to help him.
Kids with special needs tend to get picked on. That's what are experience was with our foster child in school and sports. He was different and the kids picked on him. Your child will need more guidance on things like this and need you to advocate for him/her. Our child made friends easily, however a lot of kids made fun of him, cause of his speech problems, he sounded different than the rest of the kids.
I would highly recommend the Child Study Center to help you if you do decide to take the child with FAS. They are great and can give you some information on it. There you can see Dr.'s and get an evaluation and ask questions and get therapy if needed.
I may have some literature on it, I'll have to look in my files for it. I'll let you know if I find any more information. If you have any more questions, let me know. It was very rewarding to advocate and work with our foster child on a daily basis and see all the growth and changes that happened. He changed so much over 1 year time and met goals/challenges and worked so hard to help himself improve. We were so proud of him and all his accomplishments!