I Want Another Baby but I Am 30 LBS Overweight!!

You wouldn't be the first woman 30 lbs overweight to have a baby. ;) If you want to & you can, I'd say go for it. Good luck!

Being 30lbs overweight is not that big a deal in the larger scheme of things. I was 60lbs overweight for my "BMI" and am at 6 months now and have watched my intake, kept hydrated and moderately active and I've not gained a single pound. My Midwife is very pleased, once I was able to prove I wasn't starving myself. The baby is using my pre-existing fat for metabolic growth and development and is doing great.

Well, I waited until we bought a house, then I waited until I finished my Master's degree, then I waited until stepson was living with us and was through counseling, then I waited until my husband was employed, then my husband said he was "too old" but I put my foot down and stopped taking the pill, and my daughter was finally born at 41 after 13 years of marriage! I don't recommend waiting...

What does your OB/GYN say? That's really the most important person to listen to. As long as you're healthy and can conceive, what's the problem?

I'm 40, have more than 30 lbs to lose and my doctor said, if you want another baby, do it now. That's it. I'm healthy so she is not concerned. And I will get all the prenatal care possible. That's really all you can do.

So go for it! And good luck!

I think weight is the lesser of the dilema at this time. at 43, I honestly believe that if you want to have another child, you begin NOW... (unless of course doctors don't advise) However, IF you wait until you finally lose the weight, in my opinion you are running against the clock.. Oh I know some ladies on here will say they had children later on in life as did other family or friends, but truly.. those are the luckier ones... I have known too many women whom in their 40s decided they wanted a child and it truly was a struggle... I say you want one.. go for it now and during your pregnancy (god willing) eat as healthily as you can.... really.. unless doctors say NO... and so far, sounds like your checkup went fine.. do it now... don't put life on hold..
but hey, this is just my opinion... however, I strongly believe that if you want another child, you begin soon....

best of luck in whatever you decide..
blessings

Might as well have the baby now, you're gonna gain weight while pregnant anyway. Anyway, you're almost out of time.

Have that baby fast! Worry about the weight later.

p.s. I know many people who have begun menopause at your age. I know when I was 43 I still thought I had all the time in the world, but you really don't. Get on it.

I think the bigger issue is your age, not your weight. 30 lbs is really not a big deal, lots of women waaaay heavier than you get pregnant everyday. My SIL was seriously obese when she got pregnant with her daughter. She did have her 6 weeks early though so obviously, being obese is not the ideal situation. Continue to be active and eat a healthy varied diet and go for it. When you are pregnant, avoid fruit juice and other carb calories and you will probably be fine. The longer you wait, regardless if you are skinny or a little chunky, it will be harder on your body to carry a baby.

Oh A. sweety, don't listen to these ppl. I am much more over weight then you and I am now 14 weeks pregnant with our second. What does being over weight have to do with getting pregnant? These ppl are just ignorant. Go for that second baby! When I was pregnant with my daughter I gained 17 pounds. I lost 11 of it the day she was born. Just keep active and eat right and you will be fine. Please don't listen to ppl. I wish you all the luck and I hope to hear from you soon that you are expecting!!!! Wishing you all the best.

I don't think 30lbs is enough from stopping you to have another baby now. Yes, you can eat healthy while pregnant so not to gain too much weight. If you are overweight, you should aim to gain about 15-20lbs while prego. Do this by eating healthy and exercising. ie: walking, eliptical, swimming, yoga and even weight lifting. I am pregnant now and do all that and more. I was only 10 lbs at most over what I should be when I became pregnant, but I am an active person, so that is my lifestyle to do all those things anyway.
I wish you the best of luck getting pregnant. Now, go make a baby!

as Denise said, you wouldnt be the first... I was definately overweight when I became pregnant with my 3rd baby born just over a year ago, around 200lbs. I was careful not to gain alot during the pregnancy, and gained 21 lbs, which was gone by day 9 after her birth, and continued to drop for awhile after, tho Ive gained some back, that Im battling off now. 30 lbs isnt much overweight, you would want to watch how much you gain because of gestational diabetes, but I would go ahead if I were you.... eat healthy, maybe work with a dietician, and no dieting while pregnant. Good luck

Healthy weight ranges vary a lot--according to some charts I could weigh 115 and be healthy, but at 148 pounds I was wearing a size 4 and had NO interest in losing 33 more pounds. I started my first pregnancy about 20 pounds heavier than I started my most recent one, and at no point during any pregnancy did my OB tell me I was overweight, even if according the the CDC I was in the overweight range the first time.

If you do not have a weight-related health issue and your doctor has not indicated otherwise, go ahead now. I found it much easier to lose extra weight after babies anyway while breastfeeding and eating well since I had extra motivation and calorie burn from nursing. If you have maintained your health for the past few years but also the extra weight, then you know your body is in good health in general. I gained "too much" weight this last pregnancy but had no delivery issues--in fact, my 10 pound baby was the fastest and easiest of my three to deliver. :)

Hi A.
30lbs overweight should not be a deterant to have a baby. As you said you are healthy so good luck with trying and I hope you get preggers really soon.
You could be like me and loose alot of weight while pregnant. I am 12weeks along and losing weight by the day because of morning sickness !!lol -no sorry I really hope you don't have morning sickness.
You can eat healthy during your pregnancy,don't wait if your ready !
All the best
B. k

30 pounds is not that much, stop worrying and just have the baby :)

If you are definitely sure that you want a baby you do not have the luxury of any more time to lose the weight. Because of your age your chances of conceiving are much lower so start trying now if thats what you want. Eat in moderation. Eat nutritious foods. Do some light exercise. If all goes well you will not have gained TOO much weight with the pregnancy and you can start losing weight after you have the baby.

I would speak to a nutritionist and join a gym. Even a local YMCA... go 3 nights a week, do cardio but also light weight lifting, which helps burn more calories thank just walking alone and tones your body.

I think you can shed those lbs, but get in shape as well. You will have a healthier pregnancy for it.

I don't really think 30 lbs overweight is all that bad, but I do think it can drain your energy and health through a pregnancy if you aren't careful. Plus, getting in shape before a pregnancy helps you bounce back quicker after a pregnancy as well.

I would probably be more concerned about trying to have a baby at 43, rather than the weight issue. I know more and more women these days are having babies in their 40s but the risks are still there, both to you (blood clots, etc.) and to the baby (increased chance of chromosomal abnormalities, etc.).

I used to work with a woman who had 3 kids, with the middle child at 40 and the youngest at 43...she told me that at the time she gave birth to the third baby, she still felt like she had plenty of energy but then at 47, when the youngest was 4 years old, she felt very different! Just some food for thought...

Have you talked to your doctor about this? What about adoption?

if you are overweight, they will probably limit how much you are "supposed" to gain during pregnancy some, or they will advise you to only gain in the "lower range" of normal weight gain. You do so the same way as you would on a diet, except rather than trying to lose wieght, you control your diet to gain weigh slowly and steadily.

I was overweight with my first pregnancy, and I only gained 20 lbs, which came off very quickly after I had my daughter... and then with breastfeeding and careful diet and exercise I got down to my goal weight (25 lbs less than my pre-pregnancy weight) within a year. I did have gestational diabetes with my first pregnancy, which was a result of bad diet, and extra weight... but the changes I made between that pregnancy and this one helped me avoid becoming diabetic in this pregnancy (woohoo!).

I am younger than you (23), so I may have an easier time because of that, but it does seem like pregnancy can "reset" your metabolism, and with breast feeding you might find that after another baby you can take off those pesky pounds again!

Anyways, at 43- why wait? If you feel ready to have a baby in all other aspects of your life, conceiving sooner rather than later will probably be easier for you than waiting... plus you may find that pregnancy is your freind with losing those pounds anyways. Also, there is the chance that those 30 "extra" pounds are just the way you are meant to be, hence why dieting is a struggle. If that is the case... trying in vain to diet those pounds away may not help at all...

It sounds like you are healthy- regardless of the number on the scale, and that makes you an awesome "environment" for a little baby. Take advantage of the opportunity!

Good Luck!
-M.

Who cares if you lose the weight. You say you are healthy then go for it! The older you get the harder it gets to have a baby so what the h*ll just go for it now. You can lose the weight after baby gets here chasing two of them around. :) Really who cares what other people say, listen to your heart and your doctor. O and your hubby! :)

Over the age of 35 you are already a high risk pregnancy so I wouldn't exactly throw caution to the wind. If I were in your shoes, I would commit to 6 weeks of boot camp. Literally, go to one of those shape-up bootcamps. Make that your commitment to yourself and you future child. Even if the needle on the scale doesn't move one inch you will be healthier.

Talk with your doctor. I was 50 lbs overweight when I became pregnant with my twins, and 30 lbs overweight with this pregnancy. I was very in shape both times (I ran a half-marathon two months prior to the second pregnancy). Weight sometimes is just a number, and if your doctor gives you the greenlight, the go for it.

Go to the Y 5x a week! No carbs, alcohol or sweets. It will come off! Hard but you can do it mama.

I had my first child and with that pregnancy I gained 25 pounds.
So then, when I was pregnant with my 2nd child, my OB/GYN said, based on my 'starting weight' for this pregnancy, I can only gain 15 pounds. Which I did. And did not have to 'diet', and by some miracle, I did only gain 15 pounds with that pregnancy. And I didn't do anything special to keep my weight gain within that range.
I am not obese by any means, just chubbier, per my 1st pregnancy.

Ultimately, you NEED to go according to your OB/GYN.
NOT by what others are telling you and all that hearsay.
ONLY your Doctor, should be listened to.

Weight has always been a struggle for me so I sympathize.

Back in 2006, I made a decision to focus on a 10% goal in a year. It had been about 7 months and I was 2 pounds away from that goal when I discovered I was preggers with my first child. The weight poured on. There was nothing I could do to stop it. I watched calories, was still working out at the gym 4 to 5 times per week while walking the other days... It just did not matter. I gained 50 pounds. My child as born in '07 and despite BFing, the weight did not magically melt off like everyone said it would. I lost about 20 pounds and just could not put a dent in those other 30 pounds.

I went on to have my second child in '09. This time I put on only 20 pounds and at the end of the pregnancy weighed exactly the same as I had with my first. Again, despite BFing and starting to exercise again (although much much earlier this time), I only shook off 25 pounds.

I recently had my third child and again ended at the same weight as the other two times (i.e. I only put on the 25 pounds I was able to loose).

Technically, all three times, I would (and still am) considered overweight and this actually the clinical definition - based on BMI and all that jazz. The doctors tend to give you a bit more grief, but it is doable. Just know what you are willing to do or not do (i.e. they wanted me to have a 1-hr GD test at like 18 weeks which I refused since my other pregnancies were healthy).

I think if you wait for the perfect time, the perfect finances, the perfect body, the perfect whatever, none of us would ever be having kids!

Good luck.
~C.

PS. Maybe we both need a weight lost buddy?

You should talk to your ob/gyn and get advice from him. I know the moms on here are well meaning but you need some serious medical advice before commiting to a pregnancy. There are alot of factors that you need to take into consideration. I know you would love another child but you must put the family you have in top priority.

being older and over weight really increases the risk of gestational diabetes among other issues for u and baby.
make it a priority.
u can do this!
Good Luck!

I would say try to get pregnant and diet/eat healthy at the same time. You will be fine either way I'm sure but if you are concerned about the weight (you, not your friends)why not diet and let nature takes its course with conception? I certainly wouldn't waste time dieting first. Good luck!

I would get pregnant. Unfortunately you don't have much time considering your age. If you are truly only 30lbs overweight, it is not critical you lose it now and I don't really see how it will impact the prenancy. If I were you, I would start an exercise program and maybe see a nutitionist to help with your diet. If there is no medical reason for your weight, thatn you can lose it, you just aren;t doing it right. There is no reason why you can't start your new life-style habits while trying to get pregnant and being pregnant. The worst think you could do in your situation is to give into the "pregnancy cravings" then you'll have 60lbs to lose. Good Luck!

I am so chubby right now and I am prego for the third time! I am not eating a lot but all I can stand right now is ramen noodles and so the salt has got me bloated beyond belief! I am more than 30lbs overweight and my dr hasn't said anything about it. Heavy people have babies all the time! I think you are latter end of the age spectrum for having a child so go for it! I wouldn't wast another minute worrying about weight and then miss the opportunity to have another child :D I am not a dr or anything, so I am sure you should check with yours!! But that is my two cents on the subject :D

I can't see the answers right now, but I will address your issue...

SO? Does that mean your husband won't be able to help you? Does that mean you will love it less? Does it mean that you won't be able to love everyone else in your family? Go for it.

I would ask your doctor about this, honestly. Obviously, many in American culture aren't very concerned with weight as being a legitimate health issue, but that doesn't change the fact that it is. I personally feel that people telling you to go for it and not worry about it is irresponsible. Even when you're not overweight, pregnancy is very demanding on your body. If you want your body to deal with these demands optimally, you want to get to a healthy baseline, especially if there are other issues of concern (and increased risk due to age, etc).

Please ask a doctor about this rather than relying on anecdotal advice - everyone's situations are so different.

Good luck and keep us posted!

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What is the dr telling you? That's all that matters.
I was overweight when I got pregnant and lost weight throughout the pregnancy! I was so much more careful about what I ate. I had a totally differant mindset about food. I found myself thinking...ok, now I've had plenty of dairy and fruits and veggies today, I need some protien. Rather than hmmmmm what sounds yummy? lol That change in attitude helped me lose the weight and have a very healthy 9lb 6oz boy.
Now, you didn't ask about our age. I'm sure 4 yrs ago they told you all the risks of having a baby over 36. I'm 40 with 2 little ones The unsolicited thought I want to offer is about having kids at our age. I feel a responsibility to stay healthy and active because I have a duty to be around for them for a long time. I want to see my grandkids. That helps motivate me to workout and eat better. But just in case I don't, I'm so grateful that I have 2 little ones that are growing up best friends. That way, If I do make an early exit, I know they will not be alone. They will have each other. And of course, I have 2 18 yr olds, so, they will have thier big brother and sister. But that bond of them growing up together in the same house will be with them for life. I think it's a great idea to have another baby and give your son a sibling.

Don't worry about it. I gained...oh about 70 pounds with each of my kids and I was a size zero pre-pregnancy. It kind of just happened and believe me, I didn't fall off the wagon during pregnancy. (And luckily, 10 months later, I only have 10 pounds left to lose). So do the best you can. You'll probably just end up gaining less than most people. It'll all work out. Good luck.

It is easier to say than do ...loose wieght.
I would say if you are healthy , go for the baby !!
because of your age you have not lot of time to left ....It can take a while to loose 30 pounds and when you are done, you might not conceive.

Good luck!

Hi A.,

Plenty of women have babies when they are overweight. The important thing is that you watch what you eat when you are pregnant.

Yes - you are a big higher risk when you are pregnant and overweight - for gestational diabetes, heart risks etc. And you could gain weight with this pregnancy and then be even MORE overweight after you deliver. Talk to your Dr who can advise you about the risks.

Or - you could be just fine even though you are overweight.

I can tell you I was more than 30 lbs overweight when I was pregnant. I don't have ANY medical problems other than being overweight. I excercise regularly, I eat a fairly balanced diet and I don't ever eat fast food or sweets (but bread, blue-cheese dressing and pasta are my downfalls... lol). I LOST weight the first 2 tri-mesters of my pregnancy. I ended up gaining a total of 7 pounds during my entire pregnancy and my Dr would joke that I finally had a metablism since I had my daughters metabolism! I was weighted 25 lbs LESS after delivery than the day I had my pregnancy confirmation appt.
Now - I am not typical, so I would never advise pregnancy as a weight loss plan - but only your Dr can advise you on your specific situation.

I wouldn't let weight get in your way of having another baby.

Just my $0.02
B.

At your age if you want to get pregnant then just do it--who knows how long you will be able to? I was much more than 30 lbs overweight with my first 5 years ago and had another after that. My only real complications were with the delivery (2 unplanned/emergency c-sections). Eat as healthy as you can and make the best of it. Many of my friends were also overweight before being pregnant and most of us managed to have reasonably healthy pregnancies though most ended up having c-sections.

Go for it! As long as you eat very healthy and stay moderately active during TTC and pregnancy, that 30lbs won't cause you problems. As women age, our bodies cling to fat and it is just physically much harder to loss as the years pass. I'm not even 20 yet but can't drop the pounds like I could at 14. Stressing over it releases hormones that make it even harder.

Eat healthy, exercise safely and start TTC NOW if you really want another baby. BTW, with time of the essence (you could have 10yrs, or 2 left to conceive, it changes so much woman to woman) I suggest starting TTC seriously. What I mean is a pre-conception check-up with your OBGYN, starting prenatals right away, start charting basal temp. for ovulation and/OR using ovulation strips (look on Amazon) and watching that what you consume is all baby-friendly. Good luck!!!!

Hi A.,

Nutrition is what determines your weight. Are you really 30 pounds overweight or maybe 20 pounds? Are you 30 pounds heavier than when you got married?

Get a good absorbable prenatal vitamin, start on folic acid and get pregnant. Not all vitamins absorb. Some are even dangerous. I can get you some information on a good vitamin if you like. My husband was 100 pounds overweight and lost 60 simply by taking a good absorbable vitamin. No activity change, no diet change, simply adding, truly adding, nutrition. When your body really gets what it needs, it does what it is supposed to. It needs the fuel to run the engine.

Hope this helps!

M.

You can have a healthy pregnancy and be overweight, making sure to eat healthfully. Your weight during the pregnancy would probably shift and either remain the same for a while or you could lose some weight for a while, but it wouldn't be unhealthy as long as you're eating properly and taking in the calories the doctor recommends and the proper nutrients of a healthy diet. It's better than losing weight from severe morning sickness, such as what happened to me.

It's ideal that you aren't overweight to become pregnant but it shouldn't be a huge diterant seeing how you aren't extremely overweight. I was about the same when I got pregnant with my son at the age of 37. So I say, go for it!! Good luck!

Go for it! Being pregnant is a great incentive to eat in a healthy way!

I don't know why everyone thinks that just because you are pregnant you have to gain weight. I only gained 16 pounds with my son and all of that was baby etc. As soon as he was born I was down to my pre-pregnant weight.

I actually lost weight when I was pregnant with my twin girls. I lost 16 pounds from my pre-pregnant weight. I had decided I did not want to gain weight and was careful what and how much I ate. I ate healthy foods but cut the portions down.

You are NOT eating for 2. You do not have to eat everything you see. You only need to eat enough to keep yourself satisfied and healthy, the baby will get all it needs and not have any problems. And you will not feel hungry all the time either.

My girls were the same way when they were pregnant. Both of them ate normal healthy meals and didn't have any excess weight after having their babies.

A., Some women lose weight when the become pregnant. If you are healthy and you and your man would like to have another child and can give it a good life, go for it. I wish you all the best.

I do have to ask...have you and your man considered adopting a baby? You sound like a very nice family.

Blessings......

Why does it matter that your 30lbs overweight? I'm about 50-60 lbs overweight technically and I had my baby. He came out perfectly healthy, no problems, and I was back down to my pre-pregnancy weight after his birth. As long as you watch what you eat and don't overeat while your pregnant and be overly indulgent, you should be fine. I gained about 30 lbs while I was pregnant. Also, I know that to many people overweight = unhealthy, but they don't always coincide. Some people just become bigger as they get older because of how their body processes calories and stores fat. It doesn't necessarily mean your unhealthy. Personally, I would forget about the weight thing and be more concerned about trying to conceive now given that you are an older mom.

Your age is a greater risk than youre weight. If you want another, hurry up and don't be concerned with the weight. The heathier you eat and the more you exercise (while you are trying to get pregnant and throughout your pregnancy) is key - forget about the numbers on the scale! And most importantly, don't stress over insults from others. Stress and hurt from criticism is even worse. Those people telling you to lose weight should mind their own business! And if they are doctors and professionals, still don't take them too literally. They preach the same lines to everyone. It's not like you're 100 lbs. overweight. You're just fine. Good luck!

If you always look for an excuse not to have another baby, you'll always find one. Age can make a pregnancy more difficult than a few pounds overweight. Go for it mama!

watch your diet get pregnant keep active you can loss till pregnant then watch what you eat and excerice promise self to loss after birth try
weight watches sounds like you can loss on your own ww is great

I struggle with this question myself. I say go ahead and get pregnant--as someone said to me today, it's like house renovations. When the living room and dining room are getting re-done, might us well tear apart the kitchen and do it all at once, get it over with then focus on putting it all back together! lol.

I know you said you don't have any medical condition. Just want to throw out there--a lot of women have PCOS, and it goes undiagnosed. I had several docs tell me I didn't have it, nothing was wrong with me, etc. But they were wrong. I had unexplained weight gain, and could not lose no matter what I did. (And I've been off the meds for awhile for nursing, so that's why I'm overweight now!) But I was fertile, so the doctors didn't want to believe that I had it. Just wanted to put that out there.

Good luck to you!