I Think I Need Help

C. d
what kind of help do you needed talk i am listening maybe we can find a answer we need a friend talk talk it out

C. D I TELL YOU A STORY I AM GOING THRU A LOT TOO IF YOU ONLY KNEW BUT THE PAIN IS SO BAD YOU DON'T KNOW WHO TO TALK TO

C.,
If you feel like you might hurt your kids or something remove yourself from the situation, count to 100 or wait 10 minutes. Let them cry or throw a tantrum or whatever. If you feel like hurting yourself I found a # you can call:
1-800-273-TALK (8255)

Do you happen to live in Hanover township? They have an excellent Youth and Family Services Department. I believe their policy is that no one is turned away because of inability to pay. My children and I found great support there at the time that my ex and I divorced. Their number is: ###-###-#### When I was looking up their number, I came across Hanover Towhship Mental Heatlh Board which says "In need of Services? Have Questiona about what services are available in Hanover Township? Visit www.htonline.info or call ###-###-####.", which I see is the same number as Youth and Family Services. My guess is that if you contact either of these agencies, they may well be able to put you in contact with similar services in your area if you are not in Hanover Township. In the meantime, I am praying for you right now, and will continue to do so.

K.

There are a lot o mental health facilities that work on sliding scales. Try your county's public health office and see what they reccomend, or where thaye say to go...hope this helps.

C.,
"The sun breaks through even the darkest cloud."
Remember that.
C.

Hi C.:

Not sure where you live, but if you happen to be in DuPage County, I would highly recommend that you reach out to Metropolitan Family Services in Wheaton. They have many different programs to help at many different levels. I know of their services because I am a Big Sister in the Big Brother/Big Sister program. My "Little Sister" and her Mom were homeless until they got help from this group. There are lots of resources out there and I read lots of great advice from the other Moms.

When you're feeling really blue, just remind yourself how great you are ... you've already taken the first and most critical step and that is getting you and your children into a safer and healthier environment. Take it in small steps and try not to let your situation overwhelm you. Take the help that is offered (I know sometimes that is hard) and promise yourself that when this passes you too will have the ability to reach out and help others. The storm always looks the worst when you're in the middle of it. I know that's very cliche, but it is true. Take care and best of luck to you and your children!!

Mags

Oh C., I have been there myself.

My heart goes out to you as do my prayers.

Without knowing specifics, it is hard for me to guide you to assistance.

My personal email address is ____@____.com the mean time, I will be adding you and your children to my prayer list.

Keep your chin up, it all works out eventually.

I moved to Illinois in 1990, divorced with 2 children aged 2 & 3. After being here a couple years, I had another baby.

There were MANY Times when things looked hopeless, but they always worked out.

I personally depend on my faith all day and every day to get me through.

My life is still very challenging, but 2 of my children are now in college and the youngest in high school. I can honestly tell you, it does get better. :)

Feel free to give me an email if you would like to chat, and know that I am praying for you.

D.

I hope you don't take this the wrong way but your message sounds like you are in need of some sort of help maybe a dr. or a counselor. I can hear the desperation in the words. Please go and see someone for you and your children's sake. I can't really give you any advice because i don't know what the problem is but going to the state for some help is definately a step in the right direction. ((hugs)).

S.

I don't know exactly what the problem you have is but alot of the counties have programs where you can get counseling and talk with someone outside of the situation and they can help you think more clear. I do believe they are free depending on your income.
good luck and I hope everything works out for you and your children.

You should try to find someone first to talk to, someone like a friend, relative or even there are online support groups. I used to chat online with a divorced people group and it helps to let it all out. Life hit me hard this year, my house burnt down, both my daughters had kidney surgery at two differnt times, my grandfather died and then my husband left me, so in the span of 9 months,my entire life changed so drastically, I felt so out of it and afraid. Lutheran church charities and catholic church charities does counseling based on a sliding scale, Purdue university Calumet does also if you are closer to Indiana. There are resources out there, Mom's here listened to me as I went throught the events of my life, so many reached out to me and it truly helped, if there is anything I can do, please feel free to email me! You need to know that even complete strangers do actually care!
I hope this helped.
M.
Mother of 2
4th grade teacher

I am so sorry to hear you are going through this - I have postpartum depression and I too have some very low times. I did a little searching online and found this site - might help you find some more information about state mental healthcare. good luck .
http://www2.dhs.state.il.us/geosource/officelocatorsearch...

As many mentioned this was a very vague post... I beg you to reach out to social services, any church. Its great that you recognize you need help its there you have to keep searching..

Hello C.,

You will be O.K. Find yourself some sense of community. Go to a Church, any church. Not so much for the religion, but they are very tuned into the available family services. They can most probably direct you to some help. I think you can also call the city or state office of children and family services (look in the blue section of the phonebook). Tell them you need help coping with your situation. They may be able to get you whatever assistance you need(foodstamps, a womans/family shelter, financial assistance, counceling. You are not alone (although it sure may feel that way). You are important, and people love you, and you need to take care of things now, before it gets even more difficult. You are going to get through this, and be better off because you took the steps to deal with your troubles, no matter how big they may seem.

Be good to your self and take care.

PS. I just read your later note about the details of your situation. Regarding work. I know that starbucks offers full health benefits to part time workers who are not at the airport or one of those little drive through locations. I know its not anyones dream job, but it may be enough to get you back on your feet and take care of your health issues.

I wish you the best.

Dear Christine

I have been there. Do you know that the Lord loves you and will NEVER leave you; when you give your life to
Christ, it is amazing how freeing that is.

Please join a bible believing church, and also find a good dr. You may need an antidepressant, exercise program, most of all HOPE.

Please let me know what happens.

hugs,
L.

C., even if you don't have money, there are services that can help you! In our town, it's called Family Services. Check your phone book or call your local hospital for phone numbers of people that you can call for help. Many are on a sliding scale or even free for people without insurance. Your children NEED you to be at your best, and most of all, YOU need you to be ok too. Feel better, Pam.

I went through the same thing about 3 yrs ago. I'm not sure where your from, but St. Clairs clinic in Crown Point Ind. is unbelievable. Not only are they a free clinic for phyical health but they also have people who help you get through tough times. It might take about a month to get an appointment, but its well worth the wait. It will get better! i'm in a much better place now, and stronger because of it. I got through that, and so can you.

C.,

I'm sorry that you are going through such a difficult time right now. You really need to talk to a therapist that can help you sort through all this. It is possible that in addition to all of the stress that you have been going through, that you are also dealing with a physical problem such as depression.

I have struggled with depression for years, and at its worst you feel like there is no way out...that there's no hope. When in this state, you aren't seeing things clearly and your feelings, although very real, are not accurate. It is also not something that you can just fix on your own. It requires treatment. Please take the step to talk to someone for your sake and for your kids.

The number for Kenosha County department of children and family services is ###-###-####.

There is also an adult and juvenile crisis line ###-###-####

You will get through this. You are strong. I will pray for you.

Hi C.:

Not sure where you are located but if you have access to contacting the following agencies, perhaps they may be able to assist you with employment, child care, therapy, etc. You and your beautiful family will be in my prayers. Be strong for your children. They love you no matter how hard it gets.

JVS Career Planning Center ###-###-####
JVS Employment Network Chicago: 312.673.3443/Suburbs ###-###-####
JCC Project Chesed: ###-###-####
JCFS Community Counseling & Family Services ###-###-####

Do you have a church? You could start there, or call your county health department and ask to talk to the mental health department. Many agencies like Catholic Charities provide counseling on a sliding scale.

Good luck!

Hi C.,

I'm really not sure how to respond to this. Your post is very cryptic and doesn't tell us much as to what the problem is. I assume your having some emotional issues that your unable to cope well with. Please don't ever think that there is ANYTHING that's ever bad enough to consider harming yourself. I'm not sure if that's what you mean but I kind of tok it that way. You have two little ones who desperately need you and so many times you'll look back at the rough patches of your life and feel glad that you survived it and often time walk away from it having learned alot about yourself and your limits. I guess you don't have health insurance so you can't really pay for counseling but there are other ways to go about seeking help. Depending on the issues you are struggling with there are all sorts of non-profits out there that may be of some assistance. And I don't know if you are a religious person but even if you aren't, your local church may have some wonderful resources to help you deal with whatever it is your dealing with. I wish you the best of luck and I hope you are able to find some relief from the problems that you are having. Just please remember, no matter that it's a cliche, this too shall pass.

Yes, you are correct and very smart for asking for help. Mamasource is a great venue for help and everyone here has different specialties. I will be watching to see how everyone responds. You are not alone and help is out there. Hang in there!

Hi Christine,

You sound like I feel today, please call me if you need to talk and I will help you as much as I can. My number is available 24 hours because I never know when I might be someone else's life line.

Speak with you soon!

Lauren
###-###-####

You have made the first step aknowledging that you have a problem. Your headed in the right direction. Now that you have completed that step get information. Once you get the insurance immediately research who you can see and when you can see them. In the mean time I ask you to pray for strength to make the right choices. Pray to God tell him everything and have faith that he will help you. If you need to talk email me ____@____.com I don't know where you live but if you live in the south suburbs Oak Forest, Tinley Park Orland Park area their hiring where I work. email me and let me know if you are interested.

C.,

I second the reply to go to your local church. They have excellent sources to help you work through your problems. I don't want to sound preachy, but you also may find some comfort in discovering that there is a higher power, that will take care of you. In any case, you and your children are worth pursuing any and ALL of the resources mentioned. You are a MOM, and though it doesn't always feel like it, you are the world to your kids, their everything. Just think of the joy you feel every time one of them smiles at you, hugs you or tells you that they love you. That is enough to make EVERY SECOND worth living! Please get some help. My prayers are with you and your family.

PS - Have you thought about going to Alanon - the support group for families of alcoholics? That might help too.

Denise

What do you think is too much to handle? What kinds of problems are you talking about? You're a mother now, we can handle anything. Just look at your kids smiles, that always makes me feel like I can do anything, just for them. How old are you? Do you have family that can help when you feel overwhelmed? Talking to people does help........

Hi C.,

Don't give up. It's wonderful that you recognize that you need help. There are many services out there that have sliding scales. You should contact The Maryville Crisis Nursery. You can look them up online. Amy Lynch is wonderful and she can help you out.

God Bless and e-mail me if you'd like. I'd love to help you in any way I can.

T.

Hi Cristina,

I have recently learned that being a parent is the hardest job out there, as the years go by the harder it gets. But you also have to be stronger and wait for the time to pass by. Go to that Illinois web site they have to have some kind of help for you. Or go to your kid’s school and ask them to give you a Kid Care application that is an insurance that cook county provides to people who need it (based on your income). It sounds to me that you don’t have a support staff for you to talk to. Please talk to someone here at Mamasource we are all here to answer questions that you might have and get you the help and support that you need. Don’t feel like to world is ending because it's not. God gave us the privilege to have kids for a reason. Please feel to call me if need someone to talk too email me. I will try to help you in any way that I can. God Bless you and take care every problem has a solution you just have to look deeper than what you already have.

You are correct in saying you ened help and that takes courage. Believe in yourself. Do you have any family nearby that you can count on? In regards to insurance, there is a link at illinois.gov for allkids and family plan. There is also information on other services you may need. I had a friend who was in a similar situation a few years ago. She and all of her children got counselors and insurance as well as financial aid. Don't give up!! If you need to talk or vent please feel free to email me privately and I am willing to listen and help if I can. Whatever is happening or has happened can be dealt with. I am not saying it will be easy. Nothing ever is. But with help and assistance and knowing you are not alone you can get through anything. Please email me.
Y.

I would love to help you out C.. Sounds like you are dealing with alot. So am I right now and I might be able to help you out. If you are interested, you can send me a private message and we can talk more. Where do you live?

S. bailey CLD
Aurora
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