I Need Help. My Husband Is Gone!!

Updated on March 31, 2007
D.C. asks from Milan, MI
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Okay. I need some help. My husband just left to go to Indiana for work!!! I'm so stressed out. This is not the first time I've been a single parent, but it is the hardest. As it says in the little about me section, my husband is not my 5 yr olds biological father, so for the first 2 years I raised him alone. I was however living at home (since I was only 17 when I had him) and had my mom and sisters to help. This time I'm totally alone, 2 kids now, and a dog that I'm tyring to house train...lol. I need some words of encouragment, or some suggestions of things I can do to make my time go faster!!! My son is in school, and my other son is almost 8 mos. old, so I play with him during the day, but he still sleeps a lot. My older son, we do things when he gets home from school, but he has friends in the neighborhood that he plays at their houses. I've been going so stir crazy, that my house is spotless, my garden has no weeds...etc. I need something to do....all of my friends have moved to other areas so I don't even have very much adult interaction...lol... someone please help me and give me some suggestions!!!! Thanks in advance!!!

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A.M.

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D. - I can sympathize with you on the boredom thing. Here's some suggestions...our church has a "Mom's Group" where you can meet other moms and they have daycare for the kids. Even if you're not "churchy" or into that - it'll get you out of the house and maybe you'll meet another mom/woman that isn't churchy, either. :-) The other idea I have is to join a book discussion group. Check out the library for groups or a bookstore and just do it. It'll keep you busy to finish the book and you'll meet some new people along the way. Another idea is to have your older son's friends over and their moms...that way you can meet some adults.

HANG IN THERE! :-)

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B.K.

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You could try scrapbooking? I love to do it, I don't have much free time with a 6 week old and I miss it. Also, I don't know where you live but there's a great place called JungleJava, they have a location in Farmington and in Canton. It's a HUGE jungle themed play area for kids, even a 2 and under section, they sell cofee and some light lunchy kind of foods. Good place to meet other parents! Feel free to message me if your bored, I'm a stay at home mom too, I know how stir crazy things can get!

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J.B.

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Hi
I understand totally. Not that I have much advice for you, sorry. I have a 9 month old and a 6 & 7 year old. I feel like there is only so much house work to do, etc...you know? I end up taking naps and watching tv...*sigh*. Then I feel lazy, like I haven't done anything. My DH comes home and he's like--what have you done today? I'll be like--oh, I cleaned, took a nap, played with Solomon. Then he says--ok that took about 3 hours at the most, what did you do with the rest of your time!!! It is so frustrating! But anyway, I was just wondering where you were? I don't get much interaction with other adults either (except my family =( ). And no play dates for the kids...I live in Fennville. If you are close by and want to hang out, It would be nice! I have Yahoo!Messenger if you want to chat-ID is jenbren3 and www.myspace.com/riverjude23 if you want to check that out. Hope to talk to you soon! Good Luck! Jennifer

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C.S.

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D. C-
I am married as well since 1991 and I have 3 kids and my hubby travels weeks on end and i feel like a single parent. I have a 14,11, and my 4yo (energizer bunny. She keeps me going. If your lookin for some time out. Try and maybe look for a sitter. I have my 11yo an she sits and she is great. She has had great practice .
If you need to run a few errands or if u just need that cup of coffee @ starbucks that does help !
I like to go to starbucks and just sit and relax. It helps.
If you would like to get intouch with me further email me @ ____@____.com or if you have yahoo messenger you can reach me ____@____.com or I also have a myspace.com/sprtsmom2003. All my friends here don't have older kids so my little one is always willing to meet new friends as well as myself.
Touch base with me and good luck, Maybe we can get together I live in Warren Mi..
C. S.

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P.R.

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I think a mommy/child play group would help you! Churchs may have some. Or start one! Mom and me may be found on a website. Pam R

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R.N.

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D. C,
It was just my son and I until he was 3 1/2. We married a wonderful man and I worked in a Corp world. Well when our son turned 6 I pretty much could not take being away from the house so much, so I became a SAHM. Wow what a lonely world I stepped into. Just to make things a little harder, shortly after I left the Corp world we moved to the country in Clinton, MI. Now you are really talking lonely. I decided I couldn't clean the house enough but I really wanted the flexibilty to be there for my family. I decide to get my real estate license and worked as a waitress. Well I am sure you know with our current MI economy that did not help me much and I really did not like working as a waitress. One of the class mom's for my sons class invited me to a Mary Kay meeting and holy cow it was so great to meet women, who are very dynamic and have completely different lives but are all very strong. Long and short of it I joined Mary Kay because I can keep my flexibilty and I get grown up time. 99% of it I am hanging out with women who want to have fun. Ok before someone gets upset with me for talking about Mary Kay I will wrap it up. I wanted to let your know we all get lonely but we have to find something that interest, supports who we are and you can have fun at because you have to be healthly and happy to be able to take care of those wonderful boys. I am not sure where you live but if you would like more information about what I do with my time or you just want to talk more you are welcome to contact me at ____@____.com

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