first of all pray and ask the lord for his help. over the past twenty years it has worked for me, every time. I had the same situation, only with two boys, seventeen years apart. I am now 53 years of age and I've come to realize love is like a rubber-band many times it stretches further than we think. We don't know the future. Keep a watchful eye and heart for the child's emotional,physical,financial, and spiritual well being. We must learn to trust god with our children as well. They are his children. We as parents are given the responsiblity to raise our children under his watchful eye as well. We can't be with them 24 hours of everyday of their life. Teach them to bring god into their life and god takes care of everything else. My oldest son has respect for his father, his stepfather, and myself. He comes to all three of us with different problems at different times in his life. Not everything in life is supposed to be problem less, perfect, or fair. That is what god is all about. We as wives must respect the headship of our husbands. It is important that your daughter follow the head of the family. If you don't agree with your husband go to god. Only he can change the minds and hearts of people, if a change is even necessary. I'm christian, my current husband is a minister. No we don't go to a church or preach for money. My ex-husband is moslem. When my son was sent to live with my ex-husband for six of his teen age years I told him to be the best muslim student he could be under his father's headship. I told him when he was old enough to own his own dwelling place then he could decide what teachings he wanted to follow. He could be catholic like his grandmother, christian like his mom, muslim like his dad, agnostic like his friend, jewish like some of his teachers, atheist like some of his other friends, etc. My point was that god is bigger than the small box we put him into. He can reach my son whenever and wherever he wants to. He is my responsibility given to me by the lord. My son had enough of a difficult time choosing loyalties to friends, family, clubs, fraternities, etc. his entire life. As a loving mother I did not want his to have more strife. He is now twenty-six and comes to me for personal and spiritual problems. He goes to his dad for financial problems at times, but god has given him a place to live, a job, a car, and money he has earned all on his own. I pray you get the peace in your heart over this situation only the lord can give. Don't believe the devil's lies when he tells you, that you have made the wrong choice. The devil lies very convincingly. That is another spiritual battle. If you pray no matter what the odds, you have made the right choice. It is called taking the cross.