M.J.
I suggest two alternatives.
First: read what Dr. Sears has to say about attachment style parenting. What's wrong with her sleeping in bed with you? Nothing. She's only 9 months old. That is still so young. No big deal. Plenty of parents let the child sleep with them until they are toddlers. If you are okay with it, then there is no problem.
Second: read Dr. Weissbluth's book "Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child". Yes, it is basically the cry-it-out method. But it gives you support for choosing that method and sticking to it. The key here is consistency. If you always go to your baby after she's cried for 90 minutes, then you are teaching her to cry for as long as it takes for you to come in and rescue her. If you don't go to her then she will eventually fall asleep. It may be intensely horrible for you. You may have to put several doors between you and your screaming baby and turn the TV on loud so that you don't go crazy and start sobbing yourself. Be consistent and give it time.
One final suggestion: try babywearing during the day. Get a sling and strap her to your hip. If she is secure with you all day she may feel safe enough to sleep on her own. Again, read what Dr. Sears has to say about babywearing in his book "The Baby Book." I LOVE EVERYTHING Dr. Sears has to say. It makes sense. It feels right to me. Check it out.