C.,
Hello, my name is A.. My son has reflux but his situation is very serious. (It was caused by a blockage below his bladder that was not discovered in a timely manner. Both of his kidneys were badly damaged.)
As some of the other posts said, reflux can often correct itself. I know you are frightened now but try not to concentrate on the bad until you have talked to the doctor. Are you going to Children's in Pittsburgh? Who is your urologist? Have you also been to nephrology? Urology deals with the anatomy of the urogenital system. Nephrology deals with the health of the kidney and its functioning. The docs of CHP are wonderful. Have a list of questions, make sure you ask all of them, and listen carefully. If you do not understand something, have them repeat it. If you are dealing with nephrology, they have a wonderful nurse named MJ. You can call her anytime and she will answer your questions. (I am waiting for a callback now. My son's last bloodwork was not good so I need to find out what happens next.)
Contrary to popular belief, the kidneys are not simple filters. They perform over 120 functions. (Dialysis performs four functions, another myth.) The kidneys affect every system in the body so functioning is very important. However, you can live with one kidney. Is your daughter's condition bilateral (both sides). This will be important so you must find out.
Hydronephrosis means the kidneys have fluid in them. (It is not a back-up into the bladder. It is a backup from the bladder into the kidneys.) All fluid should drain away from the kidneys (the fluid is urine), through the ureters, into the bladder. The fluid collects in the bladder and then empties through the urethra and out of the body (into the diaper in your daughter's case). Reflux occurs when the urine goes back up the ureters into the kidney(s). There are check valves in the ureters to keep this from happening but the valves may not be present or they may not be working. In general, this is what the big words mean. There are surgeries to correct and in many cases the condition corrects itself. While the reflux is the cause, the serious problem is the hydronephrosis. (Hence the reason the nephrologist is important.) Severe hydronephrosis can permanently damage the kidneys. In any case, your daughter's condition was caught early and most likely her prognosis will be good.
Your daughter will most likely be put on prophylactic antibiotics. This is a low dose antibiotic. It will help to prevent a kidney infection which can be very serious. My son takes his nightly. It is part of our routine. (It also cuts down on ear infections so this is a positive. Of course, it leaves him open to antibiotic-resistant infections.) Monitoring will most likely consist of bloodwork, urine collection, and CT scans or Xrays.
The staff at Children's is terrific. The blood draws, while not fun, are handled professionally. They know what they are doing. I always take my son to Children's for his blood draws, it is worth the time and the drive. (Oh and park in the Penn garage if you are going to CHP. That is the outpatient garage.) The catherization is uncomfortable but necessary.
Psychologically, I am sure you are terrified. There is nothing more frightening than finding out your child has a medical problem. It is devastating. It is also very difficult to have to force your child to go through medical tests and procedures. You will always be with your child through it all (except of course the surgery if necessary). The staff will often ask you to hold your child during procedures. I will hold my son's head and his arms if necessary, I will hold him on my lap for blood draws, but I will not restrain him. I ask for another nurse to help. I have been through too many procedures and I could not hold my little boy down for another one. The staff understands.
I have an entire file with my son's medical records at home (separate folders for labs, doctor's notes, CT's, and billing). I also take COPIES of his records whenever I travel. (I do not take any billing records - there is no purpose to this. I take copies of his latest labs, his inpatient/surgery records, and his latest CT report plus the numbers to his doctors though of course these are also on speed dial in my phone.) I wouldn't take the originals with me and I do not carry them around with me. There are copies at his school. Everyone who takes care of him has been told about his condition but keep in mind my son's condition is much worse than your daughter's so I take precautions.
If you want moral support and if you are going to Children's in Pittsburgh, feel free to contact me. I practically live there.
Best of luck to you and your daughter.
A.