Husbands with Questionable Usernames

I'm with the how about you just ask him club. Seriously. Ask him if you want to know. That is better than snooping around.

OK, sooo if you find out that he's cheating what are you prepared to do? Are you going to pack up and leave right then and there? Otherwise, why not just ask him?

I have a family member whose ex husband cheated on her constantly, shoot, he even had extra babies. She would snoop, and spy, and snoop and spy. Always found evidence, never did nothing about it besides make threats. If it's to the point where you have to snoop something is wrong. If you're not prepared to do anything about it, just stop.

EDIT: Even if a fatboy is a motorcycle, that's beyond the point. Snooping around is just bad news.

did you google it?

My suggestion..... as someone who DID spy and who DID find information confirming an affair, I would STRONGLY suggest that you STOP "spying" on him and you initiate a conversation and simply ask him. His reaction and subsequent behavior will tell you everything you want to know.......

Anything else makes you tiptoeing on the other side of the moral line you are hoping he has not crossed.

I wish you peace with your findings and your relationship.

Why not just ask him? Or, are you snooping and don't want to get caught? If you feel the need to snoop daily, you really need marriage counseling. He's wither hiding something big, or you are dangerously insecure.

Do you really think anything good will come from this snooping? His username probably means nothing of importance, but boy are you opening Pandora's box.

Fatboy is a common slang for certain Harley Davidson motorcycles. :)

If you don't trust your husband any username you don't know is going to seem "unseemly"

Well, my husband NEVER cleans up the search history and, in fact, hardly ever even turns the computer off. Even so, I don't give a damn where he's going and to be honest - I'd never search to see where he went. Although we don't have the best of marriages - he's my husband and if we don't have trust then what do we have?

at the risk of answering a troll.....a fatboy is a particular type of motorcycle

Only you know your husband, but honestly my husband doesn't know every little username I have. He has no idea what mamapedia is or how much time I waste here. :) I know I trust him online, the little he is there and he must trust me because I spend a fair bit of time on the computer when he works late. If you have suspicions then check. But remember that if you bring it up to him you will have to admit you are a snoop! :) I am of the camp that bringing it up to him would be worse. Don't let your husband know you suspect him of something unless you find something wildly inappropriate. If you do bring it up to him do it in a light manner and not accusing or pressing. I think if he is innocent and you show you don't trust him is worse than just looking in the morning to settle your curiosity.

Welcome to mamapedia!

When I hear "fatboy" I think of a Harley motorcycle.

Instead of thinking he is up to no good, why not just ask him? By not asking you are snooping and presuming guilt.

Hi woman!

Just wanted to add after reading all the responses....IMHO, there is NO such thing as 'snooping' in my marriage! MY man, MY house, MY computer, MY right to look/search and ask him/inquire about any little thing I want too!

I hope all these ladies on here didn't make you feel to bad about yourself...I don't think you did anything wrong! For heavens sake, you typed in your username and it came up and you opened a drawer...to hear these ladies talked you've hired a PI and are stalking him!!!

Good Luck!

Why don't you just ask him? My husband is a homebrewer and the weird usernames are usually for a home brew forum. I don't give it much thought at all.

Does he like motorcycles?

http://www.harley-davidson.com/en_US/Content/Pages/2010_M...

Maybe just ask him?

:)

Is your Husband, fat?
Maybe he belongs to a dieting group.
Or a group for overweight people.

Why don't you just ask him.

You just happened upon this, because your computer auto fills in input/sign on screens. And it is stored.

I';m going to go a diferent route than everyone else.
He has the computer set up to delete history each time after he uses it?
If so he's probably hiding something. Unless he';s very computer savy and into cleaning up the computer often?
My questions for you would be
Does he make sure it's deleted before you use the computer or is it J. daily?
Does he get protective over his passwords- as in hides the keyboard when hes typing?
Does he "forget" everything regarding shady subjects easily?
Does he get loud and argumentative if you ask him something simple and accuse you of not trusting him?

These are all things my ex did above and he lived a seperate life pretty much. Doesn;t mean yours does. I don't believe in lies and hiding things.
I think from you saying there is more to it, it sounds like he probably does some of the above and I'd takl with him and maybe ask about going to counceling or working on your marraige and reconnecting? If hes for it great, if hes not for it I guess you have to evelauate if you want to live with someone not being honest?

Google for it, but he may not be the only one with that username. Were it me, I'd just ask him. Maybe it's a reference to a nickname he had in college or something. "Okay, I gotta ask, what's this fatboy username about? I saw it when I went to log in today."

If there are other issues, maybe there are bigger fish to fry.

Snooping?? Uh oh.... although to be honest I would be curious too. My husband routinely sets up differnt e-mail address. Even though I do not know his passwords, I generally wander by when he is checking his e-mail and they are always benign.

But I have to say be careful... not that I had anythign to hide (no time to do anything ;) ) but I found out my husband was actually checking the phone records (home and cell) to see who I was calling during the day. I was not really happy about that. Actually I was really angry... and we had a whole discussion about trust and if he felt he needed to check up on me then we had bigger issues to discuss.

So think about why you are doing it, and what the repercussions might be if he found out...

Good luck what ever you do...

Interesting question!

Hmmm.....well you already asked him. And he has no clue.
So....he's either lying to you or he truly has no idea.
Could it have been a kid?

Would showing him the piece of paper with the user name & password written on it (from the desk drawer) refresh his memory?

The first thing that came to my mind was sex. I've known of men who refer to their penises as "fat", meaning think and heavy. That hurts to even think about, but you will likely get nowhere badgering him about it. I would let him know calmly that you have a bad feeling about this and would like for him to "take care of it". "Whatever you're doing, whatever this means to you...handle it, so it doesn't negatively impact our marriage. I can't afford to have to think about this right now." Then, release it and let him handle it. That's not as easy as it sounds, but you can't control him, and you'll make yourself crazy trying to. You have so much other stuff to worry about that you don't have time to be crazy right now. Be at peace, and trust that whatever you should know, you will know. Meanwhile, let him either scurry to make it right or settle into getting careless. However it goes, handle it calmly. He'll take that more seriously.

How old are your kids? Could it be one of them?