Husband Wants Divorce. Need Own Place. NO $$

Call a women's shelter.

http://www.womenshelters.org/cit/al-opelika

http://www.womenshelters.org/cit/al-montgomery

Do you own your home together? If so - I would NOT move out without the advice of a lawyer. You may be much better off having him move out.

Tell HIM to get out.

Seriously. He isn't a "good guy" if he's kicking out his child and her mother.

If he wants a divorce and a new life, tell him to go and get it. I wouldn't move if my husband wanted a divorce. Go find yourself a job and stay where you are.

Usually a man cannot run his wife and child out of the home like this. Please seek council from a divorce attorney. There are free and cheap consultations and services to be found. A women's shelter can direct you to resources in your state. With what you've written here it sounds like he would probably have to move and support you guys-or at the very least support you guys. Get solid advice before packing any bags.

You sound dangerously like "I don't want to fight with what he wants so I need to find a place for my child and I with no money..." NOPE. Do not do this to your child, that's not how it works. Get help!

Also, I am separated from my cheating husband BUT we still share a home when he is in town (luckily he's gone most of the time) because we can't afford a separate apartment right now-we're saving for that to happen. It is HELL dealing with someone who hurt me so bad and not being able to move on properly yet, but financially no other option at this time. He cannot just boot you out. Especially when you haven't done anything to him. Don't budge. And what do you mean you're scared of him if he's a good guy? Sounds like he's not a good guy if you are scared. Call a women's shelter. Today!

I am so sorry for what you are going through & especially for the passing
of your dad.
Sometimes it gets tougher before it gets easier so I will hope this is true
for you.
Don't worry about the furniture yet. Just get 2 sleeping bags for now if
you have them at home, take them. If not, see if you can buy 2 cheap
ones at Walmart.
Later you can get cheap furniture @ the nearest thrift store (bt not beds or
couches). Tables, wood kitchen chairs etc.
See if there is a woman's shelter in the area you are moving to. They
might be able to help.
If you can't move into your dad's house, then see where you can stay for
cheap. But not so cheap that it is dangerous.
Do you have any family or friends where you are moving to? If so, ask
them if you can move in with them for 4-8 weeks while you find somewhere to live.
Take only what is yours from your current home.
Take pillows, blankets, clothes, shoes.
You can always buy an air mattress at Walmart to put sleeping bags on
top of.
Don't forget any of your paperwork from your current home (social security card, medical ID cards, drivers license, a bank statement, medical records etc)..
I wish you the best of luck. Post how you are doing.

Not sure what you are asking for. You cannot solicit funds or items on this site. If you are looking for referrals in your area, you should repost your question with your town or region in the title so that Mamapedia members who know or live in your part of the country will see it.

I imagine your town has a department of family and children's services - contact them for low cost counseling, legal referrals (including divorce, custody and child support), information on subsidized housing, or contact numbers for abused women's shelters and programs. Your police department can also refer you to shelters - they will not give you the address directly because women have to be protected, but you can get some advice. If he's been violent you can get a restraining order. Not sure why you say your husband is "a good guy" when he's controlling and you're afraid of him! That's a viewpoint that can be addressed with a good counselor.

You need to go to a lawyer right away and get advice on what to do. Please, for your child's sake, get good legal advice before you move out of your house. In some states, it matters who files for divorce (or separation), and in some states, if YOU move out (vs your husband), that may impact who is "at fault" for the divorce (affecting alimony payments). It's very important that you stop and take a deep breath here. Get some solid legal advice, and then proceed as the lawyer recommends. Here in California, we are a no-fault divorce state, and as such, you could move out now or whenever and it wouldn't affect your rights. Then you could request an emergency child support and alimony hearing, and your husband would have to provide the same standard of living that you have now, to you and your child. But Alabama may be different, so check and be sure.

Best of luck to you.

check freecycle for things. look on craigslist free section daily. go to goodwill and look at their furniture. put the word out on facebook in case someone is upgrading that you're in need of free or CHEAP furniture. J. check often daily and you'll find stuff

as for a cheap place...check craigslist...maybe move in with family?

where was your daughter when you were out of state?

does he want joint custody?
if so then you need to live close by

Oh honey, I am so sorry on the loss of your father. You have my condolences.

Just because your husband wants you out does not mean he can kick you out (and I can't imagine he'd kick his 3 year old daughter out of a home), esp if you both have your name on the house/mortgage. Almost all of the time, it's the wife you remains in the home while the husband gets an apartment while they work through the divorce/how to divide up assets. Some may say that's not true in every case, and it's not. But from what I've read and from women who've gone through divorce, that's usually how things play out/are handled. Esp when there are children involved, so that the inevitable break up isn't so hard on the children; they have their familiar safety net/their house/their bedroom and toys, etc.

Go to family court/divorce court and talk to someone there. Explain your situation and ask them for help/advice/resources for help in your area. Let them know you are totally new to the area and have no idea what there is for support. They should be able to help you/point you to what you need and where to go.

Go to the women's shelter and they'll stand by you and help you find housing and stuff. They often have churches that will donate furniture and stuff to a worthy family. BUT if you don't go there and stay they don't get to know you and recommend you to their resources.

Other than that, find an attorney who will request that he move out while still maintaining the home bills. If he can't afford to do that it won't make any difference.

You have to find work, if you can't find a job can you go to a full university? With housing on the campus? If you can get qualified for financial aid they will take all of your rent out of your financial aid and you won't have any problems getting in if they have apartments. You can go get on the low income waiting list too. It is often over a year long to be on the waiting list but it's worth it once you get to where you can move in.

I'm so sorry this is happening to you, you are going through a lot. And I didn't think that you were asking on here for money, that's ridiculous. I get perfectly well what you are asking. I would definitely start with going to your local social services agency. They can help with temporary housing, job training (if you need it), and sometimes even free child care while you look for a job or are starting a job. Food stamps, etc., as well. They should also be able to point you in the right direction to get furniture and other things you need.

Perhaps also go to legal aid for help with the divorce. He should have to help you and your daughter, don't let him run off with everything. If he's a good guy, he won't let your daughter suffer.

Good luck to you, I hope things come together quickly for you. God bless.

Check this out:
http://alabama-housing-assistance-cash-assistance-program...

Good luck!

Craigslist can help alot.

First check apartments, then the free section for furniture, then go to the rooms and roomshares--you can possibly find a nice room to share with your child in a house with others. That will be the most cost effective and of course you need a job to live. But I would start there. Then talk to your husband on spousal/child support. Good luck!

Move back with your dad.