Husband's Annoying Habit

Well, on the upside, he won't have a farmers tan! I garden in my underwear all the time (we live in the country) so I can understand his philosophy, weird tan lines are annoying, and it gets hot out there! lol! Think of all the laundry you are saving on.....no more sweaty shirts. :)

Definitely,he should have the decency to cover it up with a shirt. Tell him if he wants to go shirtless, make it worthwhile by losing it and make the effort to lose the beer belly!! No offense. Its quite embarrassing to the family.

My first guess is that there is something else going on in your marriage that is leading to the fact the you are somehow embarrassed by your husband going "topless" when he works in the yard. I can tell you that my attraction to my husband is not based on his physical appearance and thank goodness that his love for me is not based on MY physical appearance. We have been married 40 years now...he has lost most of his hair, what he still has in now grey, the man had no butt...so it still makes me giggle to see him walking around the bedroom in his underwear...lol. But on the other hand, I have gone from the thin, attractive 20 year old that I was, to a grey haired, NOT thin 60 year old. I didn't marry him because of his wonderful wavy hair or washboard abs, but because I admired so many qualities about him and truly wanted to spend the rest of my life with him. Think about the reasons your married your topless yardworker and go tell him you love him...shirt or not shirt.

Dear L.,
At least you know he's not insecure about his body :)

Look on the bright side, no tan lines.

Seriously, I don't know what you can do to make him put a shirt on, but if he knows it bugs you, that might be part of why he does it.
At least he's active and works in the yard.
My friend's husband will go without a shirt but wear shorts and socks with his sandals. I wouldn't think of saying anything to her about it. She sees him for herself.
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

Good luck!

If he were my hubby, I would either videotape him or take a picture and show it to him. You'd be surprised as what a "picture" can do.

Just a thought,

M

In my opinion he's in his own yard he can wear or not wear whatever the heck he likes. Once he steps off the property then yes covering up is important, but as long as he's on his own property it's up to him. If I don't like it then that's my problem, I shouldn't have looked in the first place!
Good luck!

Personally I don't think any man should walk around without a shirt. But, I would let it go. I would'nt bring it up to him again. What if he made such harsh comments about your body? You most likely would be so upset and never want to have sex with him again.

He probably has feelings too. =)

well...sorry I dont agree with you, but to each their own. looking at the big picture some hubbies dont help out around the house at all so it is nice that he is doing yard work and I am sure that their can be many more annoying things he can do besides this. I mean maybe it is slightly uncomfortable for you bc he is not in the best of shape and I do get that,as oddly I have a husband that is in shape and I still dont like him going shirtless for all to see, but I would be upset if my husband thought this about me in a swim suit. maybe you can nicely say something, or workout/diet with him. I would not want to hurt his feelings or start a fight over this personally.

I totally get you. It seems like there's no sense of decency around anymore and that's bad. I am not saying that you hubby is indecent (a belly is just a belly, there are other things that can be much more bothersome, he is probably very sweet looking), I am just saying that nowadays people have no limits anymore as far as what it is considered socially adequate. For example: have you seen those people that go grocery shopping in their pjs and slippers? Or those obviously overweight women wearing those tight clothes showing off more than we'd like to see? People seem to have just "let go" of themselves, and our individualistic lifestyle has taken us to the point where we can't care less about other people opinion. It's ok to some extent, but we still live in a society and OUR look and behavior impact OUR lives in the end. My opinion is that there must be a time and a place for everything. It's obviously up to your hubby to decide wether it is appropriate or not to get around shirtless in his yeard,. but I too would like to keep what's "private" in the house. And my hubby's body is definitely a private property....especially if he's handome, I might add!! I remember when I was small, my grandma (always very elegant and smelling like violet) told me that class makes the world a better a place. Being classy is not about judging other people (that's just plain snob behavior) but about presenting ourselves at our best to our closest (especially for them) and to the rest of the world. She used to wear elbow-lenght sleeves to cover her flabby underarms in summer because that was what she thought it was appropriate for her age. And she always looked fabulous, clean and appropriate, at any age.So, yes, I understand your point, it's not much of a problem, of course, but it's interesting to discuss about it.

if he has man-boobs....its inappropriate.... :-)

'Annoying' is so subjective. What annoys one person will be something another person has no problem with. Some people flip out over how to squeeze a tube of toothpaste or which way the toilet paper should unroll. I had a relative (from my grandmothers generation) who chewed tobacco most of his life (till cancer of the esophagus caught up with him) and there were spit out tobacco juice spots all over their yard and a spittoon inside the house which needed regular emptying out (Just So GROSS!). Does the sight of your shirtless husband bother you or does the neighbors comments about it bother you more? Perhaps you could express a concern about sun exposure and skin cancer to your husband (while you've got him on the diet)? As for the neighbors, people will talk over just about everything. Tell them you and your husband flipped a coin to decide what he should wear, heads for shirt, tails for pants, and tails won.

First of all, You can't put him on a diet, he's a grown man and will eat what he likes. Why does this annoy you? He's the one who looks this way. My husband always teases me, saying he's going to wear some stupid hat when we're out, so I'll be embarrased. I always respond with, "why would I be embarrased, you're the one wearing it?!" Just let him do what he wants, it's his yard, and remember...fat makes you much hotter easier. :-) Would you be as annoyed if he were running around like this if you had a pool and he were in his trunks?

Here`s a simple soluition that seems to have worked well with other wives of old school ways (now being a man I know this works) you go to your kitchen , grab the biggest rolling pin you have , then proceed to give him an attidtude ajustment (or at best ) he might loose weight in running from you . :)

Ah vanity...while you sneakily put husband on a diet (mas vegetables, lite beer instead of regular), remember you once fell in love with that studly guy who probably still wishes that he was the one without the gut but if he is anything like me, particularly after I had cancer and was in really nice shape before that but had a hysterectomy that left an extremely ugly stomach, I AM HAPPY TO BE ALIVE!!!So, as silly as he might look, he might feel that way also, might enjoy the sun and maybe could care less. Watch your neighbors also, they might actually want to steal him from you. The guy mows the lawn, rakes, AND what? Hang onto him and worship him as you watch all the pouty women out there huffing and puffing doing it themselves.

look- all husbands (or at least all i know!) do gross man things that we women shudder at. my husband insists on cleaning his ears out with q-tips then leaving them wherever he happens to be when he does it. it drives me nuts. but i have spoken to him about it calmly (and yes, more than once) and it has gotten better. not disappeared completely, but gotten better. but just like with any other annoying habit, nagging will rarely get you anywhere. i guess i'm a little more tolerant, or enabling lol. in your situation, i would roll my eyes and go on. it's not worth stressing yourself or your marriage over. like someone else said, he's on his own property. and be glad he's doing chores at all. and please, don't worry so much about the dang neighbors. that is one of MY pet peeves. he's not hurting anyone, and those judgemental people who have to "joke" about it, probably have bad hair or spider veins. we all should just accept and move on. just be glad he's not going to walmart like that! lol!

I agree with you. I am so grateful that my husband always wears a shirt (my 11-yo son won't go shirtless, too) and he has a decent build for a man his age. Yeah, I think I'd purge anything that wouldn't be considered diet food until he put a shirt on. Good luck! ;-)

We have a gentleman in the neighborhood who is also large, (my husband is large).. To make matters worse this man is also quite hairy. He struts around rubbing his belly while mowing, watering, etc.. He is now known as "Little Bear"... My husband ,wears really large Hawaiian type shirts. They are comfortable and good coverage..

i'll comment. my husband has these camouflage plastic looking boots he loves to wear when there is mud outside, or even snow. i absolutely hate those things. the first pair, i accidentally out in trash bags, and said that i didn't know where they were when he asked for them. he was fine. then i went and got him boots, nice ones. a week later a box arrives at our house carrying same camouflage boots. he had ordered them online. i about had a fit. :) he still wears them. more so because he knows i don't like them. i now choose to ignore them. eventually he'll give them up, esp. when our girls grow up enough to notice how bad they look. i know he won't disagree with our girls. in my case, time will take care of the boots :)
you can say something like wish you'd put a shirt on, you shirtless may make our neighbors uncomfortable. and leave it at that.