Husband Driving Me Nuts

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this sounds like something that can be worked out. it does sound to me as if he's being a bit over the top, but as the other moms say, that's not a bad thing. i'd have LOVED to have had a sister handy who was so in love with my boys that she'd have happily snuggled up with them to watch a 'treat' tv show, and who likes it so much that she FBs about it! but your husband's concerns should not be treated as nothing. maybe you can agree to talk to your sister about 'outside rules' (clothing, length of time etc), or only selected tv shows if that's the issue. but i would make sure she understands that her involvement is very appreciated.
all in all, your little boy is lucky to have so many people who love him so much! i'm sure with some patience and a sense of humor this can be worked out.
good luck!
:) khairete
S.

i mean, i would take an overprotective dad anytime over a do-nothing dad. in fact, i am like him, if someone lets me down once when it comes to my kids there is no way i'll give a 2nd chance. not when it comes to my kids. a 16 month old should not really sit and watch cars. cars is for older kids, maybe a 30 min show is alright but not an entire movie. the FB thing, i don't know what to say, would she miss so much if she didn't use it while babysitting? at his age, kids go into anything, one split second can make a huge difference. if i were you, i'd be happy my husband is concerned about our child's well-being.

I think you're justified in being frustrated with your husband.

I used to babysit my niece and nephews all the time for my sister and her husband. They never compensated me, nor would I have accepted it. But, because I was doing them a favor, they accepted that there were going to be things I needed to do that they didn't agree with (like running out to pick-up something I needed - this was before the popularity of cell phones).

For whatever reason, there's an issue between your husband and your sister. Either your husband is overprotective of your son, or your husband has previously seen your sister do something, and he can't get past it.

Regardless, my suggestion is to speak with each of them separately to see if you can figure it out. In the end, I believe your husband is over-reacting based upon the information you've provided.

Good luck.

Hello!
Don't know about advice for you... but here's my story. I have a 15-month-old girl and I let my 17-year-old sister watch her alone (at my house and at my parent's house). I always go through the "run-down" of what the girl is up to ("you gotta watch out for xyz because she's fascinated with them and will eat/poke/throw away"). I do get a little nervous sometimes because my sister is addicted to her cell phone and gets distracted (watching tv, texting, etc). But, I know my girl is safe, she will be changed, fed, and cuddled. Also, my girl had been in daycare since she was 9 weeks old, so she's fairly independent and can keep herself amused for a while. I'm sure she eats dirt at daycare, she's been bitten 3 times, and she sometimes comes home with food in her hair. I look at it like, "it's all just a part of growing up."
As for the hubby... mine works out of town Sunday through Thursday, so I appreciate when he is home to help out. But, a lot of times he just has to trust that I am making the right/best decisions with what I know (and feel). He also used to joke with me about "rushing" things (like you mentioned the baby cereal). He even had a dream when I was pregnant that I tried to potty train the baby when she was only a few months old! I don't let it bother me. If something really does push my buttons, I'll sit down with him and explain why I am doing xyz. You have to trust yourself, that you are making the best decisions, that you trust your instincts, and etc.
Maybe have a good conversation with your sister. If she enjoys watching and spending time with her nephew (especially if you pay her), she should be willing to make adjustments to what you (and hubby) see fit. Spend some time with the 4 of you (you, hubby, sister, and baby) and see how she interacts with him. Ask her to "keep an eye" while you step away for a little bit--let hubby see how she handles it. Look at the way He interacts with baby. Does he ALWAYS give undivided attention? Just some ideas. Good luck!

He is a little protective but is that a bad thing?
Have a talk with your sister and make sure she knows the "rules". Baby wears a hat and is bundled and is only outside for a short time, 1/2 hour when it is so cold.
This is his baby too and even though she is your sister he may not be as confident in her babysitting capabilities as you. He is the dad. I would be very thankful that he has so much interest in his littel boy and is willing to stay with him until you get home. You are a lucky woman.

Dear S.,

The answer is YES and NO....If he didn't get paid you have the right to be mad....however, I would tell the 20 year old sister, when you are watching my child "stay off the phone, the cell phone, the facebook"! Who ever is watching your child needs to pay attention to the child. (That means if they are being paid or NOT). Your husband could have said the same thing to whom ever is looking after your child.

Blessings...

I have to say that I'm with Dad on this one. She can live without Facebook for the time she is babysitting your son. Soon he will be older and more mobile. Your sister needs to give her full attention to your son. She could play with him instead of having him watch TV.
I don't blame him for being protective. I would be the exact same way.

It's tough because I have issues with my inlaws and things that I don't feel are right (safety wise or just simply the best thing to do while watching my child). But my husband feels they are perfectly capable of watching her. I'm sure you feel your sister is perfectly capable watchng him...but it sounds like your husband doesn't feel she's being responsible enough.

That said...try to put the shoe on the other foot. If he had a relative he felt was competent to watch your son---- but you felt uncomfortable with the supervision he was getting....would you find it fair for your husband to be mad at you for being concerned?

Honestly from what you've described it doesn't sound like your sister is being irresponsible...but your husband doesn't feel comfy with her for some reason. So instead of being mad at him...maybe talk it out and see exactly why he doesn't trust her to watch him or arrange other babysitters that you are both comfortable with. Good luck! :)

yes you have the right to be mad. it sounds like your husband is trying
to make it to where you are the only one watching the child. giving him more free time and you less. try this... the next time he fusses and fumes about your sister watching the child, tell him , well , i guess this means you are
volunteering to stay with him for the afternoon since you dont want my
sister to stay with him.. he will quickly change his mind, once he calms down
K. h.

yeah i would be kinda upset with him about that it dont sound like she is really doing anything that bad...i would have a talk with him and see where you get with it good luck:)