I so hear you! First, though, if you have a clinical issue with hoarding and cluttering (e.g., constantly buying things to have more trinkets just in case you ever need them, making sure you have enough canned food to feed the whole street in case of an earthquake, etc.), therapy and meds can help. If, like me, you just live in more of a mess than you want to, read on. When I try to clean the bedroom/closet/office, I get overwhelmed and sometimes start feeling dizzy and/or flushed. I'm fine w/ the rest of the house; I just have issues with spaces I perceive as more "mine." For me, the emotions seem to come from two places: (1) no matter how well I did in school, how good a kid I was, etc., my parents would get all over me for my messy room (yet never tried to help me develop tools for dealing with the mess) and (2) I end up reading through half the clutter because it brings back nice memories. It takes me forever to get through a pile! The only things that have helped me are hiring a professional organizer and having a hyper-organized friend act like a drill sergeant. Both made me do the same thing -- take everything out of the space (room, closet, desk, etc.), put it all in one pile, and then go through the pile item by item (quickly -- gut feel only) and create the following new piles: keep in the same room, keep but belongs somewhere else in the house, throw, recycle, and give away. Something that really helped me keep my closets organized after the professional organizer worked with me was having appropriate (clear and easily accessible) containers for different items. Then label them! And label the area of the shelf where the container belongs. My linen closet literally had a label that said "toilet paper." I had a drawer in a small plastic unit (inside the same closet) that said "boo-boos and blisters." Whatever makes sense to you. Having containers that work for me and then labeling everything made a huge difference for me. I can't use folders like other people do -- I've tried, but I it's too nit-picky for me. I use expandable folders for projects so that I don't have to sort at such a detailed level. I can still find things, and even though it's not as "organized" as having a file for each aspect of a project, it's a heck of a lot better than having my desk piled a foot high in papers! Also, whether it's a professional organizer or a friend, have someone there who will help out, cheer you on, and keep you on task. Take a five-minute break if you need to, but then get back to it! Also, you might want to ask yourself if you really need to know why these particular piles are so emotionally charged. If the answer is not really, than having someone else there to keep you on track (doing the behaviors despite the emotions) should work. If you feel that you do need to know, there are counselors out there who specialize in treating hoarding and cluttering behaviors. The issue is more common than you might think, so please don't feel ashamed if you need some help.
K.