Long story short, my best friend lives 4 hours away. She moved with her fiance for his work, doesn't have a ton of friends up there. She pretty much works all the time. She was supposed to be getting married on Sept 10 this year. Her and her fiance mutually broke things off for the time being. She has already mentioned how she plans on sitting in her apt all day on the 10th to cry and be depressed. I unfortunately can't make it up to see her that weekend like I originally planned. Any ideas on what I can do to help cheer her up 4 hrs away on what was going to be one of the most important days of her life?
Thanks!!
You could send her some flowers & maybe an edible arrangement. Then sit on the phone with her & just reminisce about old times, tell her stories to make her laugh. You seem like a great friend, shes lucky to have you.
i wouldnt worry about it until than but if you can maybe invite her to stay with you that weekend
Hopefully by the time Sept 10th rolls around she will have realized that she made the right decision and she will have decided to move on and that having a great life is the greatest thing she can do for herself!!
If she is still feeling down, just call her, talk to her and maybe the two of you can do something long distance...like rent the same movie on netflix and watch it together on the phone...or order a pizza for her..have it delivered at the same time you get a pizza at your house and eat it together on the phone. She just has to finally get to a point where her heart isn't broken anymore and she realizes that life WILL go on!! All you can do is be there for her as she moves through the process.
Oh, your poor friend! If you can't make it that weekend, definitely call her and check in on her. Could you plan a trip with her another weekend, like go to a spa or something together or maybe get a facial or massage? I know in some cities there are places like the Aveda Institute, where students do manicures, pedicures, facials, stuff like that and it is really reasonably priced. If you give her something else to look forward to in the near future, then it may make it easier to deal with all the sadness in the present.
How about if you send her a nice package of fun/funny things to cheer her up to arrive approx on that date.
The package could include:
funny card
funny comic strips you've cut out
a small box of chocolates (what gal doesn't like choc right?)
a funny movie DVD (no romantic comedies!!! )
some jellie bellies
a book of funny quotes
be sure to call her on that day
maybe send her a gift certificate she can use that day for a pedicure
or massage etc.
try to get together soon
I agree with Rebecca. Maybe, she could come see you? Could you arrange a girls night out and some fun things to do?
Oh I feel so bad for her, I can relate bc I had a long term relationship end and we had marriage plans as well, not for a specific date but we had planned to get officially engaged at a specific date and that was very hard when that relationship ended, though it too was mutual but after three years, it was hard! Anyway, of course NOW I am so glad!! But at the time....not so much... Just be there for her as you are and listen. Even if you were with her that day, it would still be hard you know? It is kind of like a death and she has to grieve it, no getting around it. You could send her like a cute to do list that day maybe, and send her a gift card to pamper herself. Like just put some silly things on it like 1) go get donuts on your way to get a pedicure etc. Just little ideas of things you know she will like. I wouldn't send her flowers or anything if it was me bc flowers go with weddings and love and romance and so on. So I'd keep it light. She will heal and be free to marry the right one later, but of course I wouldn't point that out now, even though it's true!! I wish her a speedy recovery, you are good friend to care so much :D
It's better to find out before the wedding that things just won't work out. Divorce is expensive.
I agree have her come to see you.
Ahhh, come on. You have to get her out of there. You have a bit of time to make a fabulous "plan C". Go someplace great and be there for your BEST FRIEND!!
Its august 1st and she already has plans for Sept 10th to pout and cry over some guy? Chances are something will happen between then and now and he wont be worth crying over. Maybe you can help make that happen.
I went thru this with my bestie who was on the other side of the country ... I was at her beckon call for the phone and we talked about it all related to the wedding or not. We made a plan for her to get moving on with her life, included 1yr of no relationships, cooking for one classes, and another fun class voice lessons at the local Community College. She also kept her dress that she bought but made a deal with the store to keep it there and "work out" any deals on selling the dress to a willing customer. Right now, she just needs a morning period of the life she thought she was getting - give her a week or two and then help her move on.
