How to Celebrate My Hubby 40Th Bday Coming Soon ?

A trip with a few of his best buddies or a couples trip. Bottom line what everyone else said find out what he wants

Ask his friends from your home country to secretly video tape themselves recording birthday wishes. They maybe if u contact one friend here in us they can be in charge of inviting a few others and then u can show the videos either as part of the entertainment or after they leave.

Your husband sounds similar to mine - geeky, a handful of friends with similar interests, not wanting surprises & big to-dos.

So my suggestion is to talk to him, & let him know that you want to do something special to celebrate his big upcoming birthday. Make sure he is in on it, so he won't have an unpleasant surprise that he is not able to prepare for.

Good celebrations don't need to have a lot of people, just the "right" people. So ask for the contact info of his closest friends, & reach out to them to invite them over for a dinner & evening of games, or movies.

If most of his friends are bachelors, maybe stay to put on the dinner, & then as a "gift" give him a Guys Night with his buddies. If many of them are married or involved with girlfriends, invite them as well, & prepare to either engage in the festivities as a group, or gather in a separate room for Coffee Talk while the guys hang out.

Remember, it's your husband's birthday, do what you know HE will enjoy!! T.

Um yeahh.. no. He is an introvert and only has a few close friends here, and you want to host a huge, surprise bash to have "a blast"? None of that sounds like anything he would enjoy. Or want.

My husband surprised me with dinner get-togethers with 20 people or so for my last 3 birthdays. I am not someone who enjoys being the center of attention. I don't like surprises like that. I don't like being put on the spot to "perform" and "act happy and surprised".

What I did for my husband for HIS 40th was plan a weekend golf getaway with a couple we are friends with. The guys golfed at a course that is normally not in the "regular" golf budget and at night we went out to dinner, played card games and had birthday cake at the condo I rented. We even brought kids (we brought ours, they brought their grandkids). While the guys golfed, the wife and I took all the kids to the beach. It was great. His favorite birthday ever.

If you really want to surprise him, do something special, but smaller, and more intimate. Trust me. My husband asked me this year what I wanted for my birthday (as in a gift) and I said, well, I'll tell you what I DON'T want... a surprise party. He had already invited 20 people to OUR HOUSE for a cookout to surprise me. Uggg...
The surprise went away, and we still had it, and it was fine, but I still was not comfortable with people bringing me gifts. I just don't like being the focus. Everyone wants to sing and have you blow out candles. I'm not 9 anymore.. I don't care for it. I bet your husband doesn't, either, with more than immediate family and intimate friends.

Your husband sounds a lot like me. When I turned 40 one of my biggest fears was that my husband would plan a big party for me. Even though he promised he wouldn't, I worried that he would. I would have been miserable. I hate being the center of attention. I'm uncomfortable in big groups, even if they are all friends.

I agree with others. Ask him what he would like to do. Just because others have big shindigs for milestone birthdays doesn't mean everyone wants one.

My 40th I had dinner with my husband and kids. It was perfect.

I urge you not to do something that you want, but rather to do something he wants. For my DH 's 40th, he was so excited to go to a golf school for 4 days. He had no desire for a party. It was his birthday, so his choice.

Who wants a party here??? Sound like YOU want a party.

If his personality is like you describe, maybe HE prefers low key. Not everyone likes a big party and being in the spotlight.

Please, talk to your hubby and do something ( or nothing) according to what HE wants, not YOU. I bet he would appreciate you more for considering his thoughts for what HE might like to do.

H.,

If he is the kind who does not like surprises and prefers small groups, don't throw him a big bash just because that's what others might do or expect. What constitutes a "blast" of a celebration to you might be very different from his definition.

If you really want to make his special birthday special for HIM, ask him what he'd like to do to celebrate that day. Once he gives you that information, then you can take it from there and make the plans. Get his friends' contact information and be sure to send the invitations well in advance. He doesn't need to be involved after that. His friends may also have some suggestions.

If it's a small group, you could host at your home, if you like to cook and entertain. Or maybe he has a favorite restaurant where you could host the party.

Whatever you choose, as long as it is something that he likes and is within his comfort zone, you can't go wrong.

Hope you both have a great time celebrating!

J. F.

Just wanted to say, as the introvert in my own family, it's really like pulling teeth to get my extrovert husband to do with the 'less is more'. Like others have suggested, the best present is asking what *he* wants and going from there. For several years, we did huge parties for both our birthdays (we're a week apart); now I find those exhausting and love doing small get-togethers with just a few close couples.

Remember, introvert/extrovert brains are wired differently. Introverts receive dopamine from activities which stimulate the front of the brain (mostly solitary, contemplative or problem-solving) while extroverts get that pleasure from being social.

So, just talk to him. Ask him what *he* wants to do. Best gift ever. Introvert or extrovert, we all love having our own opinions/thoughts considered. :)

What about a game night with just a few close friends? I'm an introvert, and the idea of a huge party with me as the center makes me nervous. I had a baby shower recently and found it uncomfortable to be the center of attention. But our small group of geeky friends likes to have game nights and that's always fun, whether we do a Mario party on the Wii or play a game of Cards Against Humanity, or break out Risk or Monopoly, it's always a good time.

For me, food, games, and good friends would be the best time. Does that sound like something your husband would be interested in?

I agree that if you don't have contact with his friends you should talk to him about it. It can still be fun if it's not a surprise.
Im a bit of an introvert and don't like to be the center of attention. I do enjoy having dinner and an outing with a friend or two for bDays. We've done Hard Rock Cafe and then an improv show. We've done cirque du soliel and other broadway shows. I was in on the planning a little so it was cool-but still fun.
Run it by him and then take the planning from there. Paintball? Comic-con? Whatever he ays would be nice.., take it (and the friends phone numbers) from there!

My husband didn't want anything big for his 40th, which was great because we were broke then! He and I did dinner with the two kids we had at the time and that was it, he was happy. I still have a few years to go until 40, but I also will not want a big party. I'm happy with a normal celebration, at least that's what I say now.

So ask him...don't assume just because it is a big year he will want a big thing.

I would just say, "hey, your big bday is coming, what do you want to do?" My husband turned 40 last year and I had a 70's themed party for him at our house. There was about 50 people that came. I had some decorations that I got on orientaltrading.com and told everyone to dress in the 70's theme and had the tv on a disco music station. I ordered spaghetti and fettuccini alfredo from a restaurant and served it with a corn dish, salad and breadsticks and bday cake from Costco. Everyone had a great time and they still talk about it today, a year later. So you could do that on a smaller scale maybe or simply go out somewhere with a few of his friends. I would just ask him. Good luck.