How to Announce My Pregnancy..

Hi K.. I am 24 years old, and I have 4 kids. 2 boys and 2 girls. My parents were not happy about my 4th child when I told them, cause I almost died with my 3rd one. But when they came to realize that it was going to be another baby, and get to do holding and bottle feeding and loving on em, they were ecstatic. I think all of the family on both of our sides were upset, not just cause I was pregnant, but because I wasnt supposed to have another baby. Doctor flat out told me that I wouldnt be able to have another, and whoops I got pregnant again. I want you to know that having a 3rd child isnt going to be that bad, and when your family comes to realize that they don't have much of a say they will be happy for you. I wish you the best of luck and CONGRATS.

K. (lebanon oregon)

K. L. -

With respect to your mother, if she does not like your decision it's her problem. It's your life. You are not being a bad daughter, for living your own life and making your own choices. On the flip side, it sounds like your mom really cares for you and only wants the best for you. So when she gives you that mom look- remember it's out of love. Just think, in you'll be giving those looks to your grown children before you know it. Congratulations on #3!

You sound like a very loving and generous sister. From reading your post, it sounds like you are very devoted to your family. Tell your sister you are pregnant. I would suggest telling her in person. Then let her have her emotions. Please remember that you do not need to feel guilty about being pregnant when your sister is unable to have any more children. While it may seem unfair, that's the way life is. Be sensitive to your sister's feelings. She may be angry at you. She may need time away from you. It sounds like your sister is in mourning- that is normal. She just may need some time.

My $.02

M.

Hi K.. Be straight forward and honest..Call your mom and say MOM guess what? I AM SOO excited!! Then just take a deep breathe and spit it out.
After you can tell her you can tell anyone. Maybe your sister would like to be involved in a few things? Not only will it make her feel good. It will make you 2 alot closer.
Good Luck

K.,

Worrying is not good for you especially when pregnant. Remember that you can not control what others think or do and if they love you as you love them, it will be okay. Not necessarily easy, but okay.

Honesty and sensitivity will be the best here I think. Maybe something like..... I have some news that I am really excited to tell you but have been worrying about how you will feel about it. I hope that eventually you will be as excited as I am. I am pregnant.

Although it isn't the same exactly, I too hesitate in telling my sister when my husband does nice or thoughtful things for me because her husband isn't very thoughtful to say the least. Because we love each other, she is happy for me and I am there for her when she is disappointed in her husband. We all have our struggles/challenges and I do believe love and sensitivity will see you through this. Good Luck - K.

Ok, this is very important: You have a right not to care about what your Mom or sister think right now. This is your life and your family and if you are thrilled, everyone needs to get on the same page.
I, too, lived with the guilt trip family and was miserable every time something wonderful happened to me because they would give me a hard time. I'm older now with grown children and grandchildren. I would never, never pull something mean like this on them.
It seems like I couldn't really build a backbone until I considered my children and my husband and myself in decisions for the family.
When you approach your mom and sister, tell them that you want them to be happy for you and if they are not that is their problem and refuse to play into their selfishness and their lectures. We all have lives that turn this way and that. We all need to learn to live lfe to the fullest no matter what the shortfall and without making others feel inadequate or sad. Feeling happy for someone's joy is a big reward for everyone involved.
You should be happy and proud to be someone who loves children and your life. Don't ever feel bad about feeling wonderful.
I'm pulling for you!
J. S

We have 5 children, and we wanted every single one. Sure a lot of people thought we were "crazy" after the third came along.. even with me having gestational diabetes with each one. Some time ago someone asked me about how to handle this kind of "persecution"

you need to be very sure of why they are concerned. is it for your health? the financial aspect of having children? Are you raising your own kids or is someone else (in a day care)? Find out the source of their concern and reassure them... for example I managed my gestational diabetes well with each pregnancy and assured any of those who were concerned about that.... my husband and I both assured others we wanted a big family and that we were happy about the addition... whatever the concern - be prepared to lovingly assure your mom and sister that you and your husband are on the same page and that you will take care of yourself etc.

CONGRATULATIONS!!!

I think they will take it better than you expect. When a baby is still an idea, it's easier to frown on it as your Mother might, but when it's a real baby, I think she will handle it differently. I would recommend telling her and immediately adding that you are so happy and excited about it. Say, you are my best friend and I wanted you to be the first to know and be excited with me. I think it would set the tone for how she should take the news.
As for your sister, maybe then your Mom can give you some advice. But I imagine she will be happy for you. Since I don't know your Mom or Sister, it may be totally different, but I wish you the best of luck with your family and especially with your new baby.

just to share my story My mom kept telling me not to have another child that it was to soon or that it is going to change my life and be too hard on me well now I am preg. and we wanted to be and when I told her I was afraid what she was going to say but she was really happy for me and at first (she knew I was late) when I got uncomfortable when she asked me about a preg. test she thought it was neg. and was actually sad for me until I corrected her and now she is so excited she is telling everyone about the new baby on the way. I think that your mom will react similarly

as for your sister I bet she will be soo excited for you just because she can't doesn't me she doesn't want you to. she's going to have another niece so when you tell her don't do it in a way that is either boasting or pityingly maybe she can be your couch at your birth if she sits behind you it is said to be the closest thing to giveing birth without doing it yourself.