How Strange Would This Be?

Not strange at all. Call. People forget, go on vacation, or may not have received the invite.
When you call, just ask if they received the invitation and if they are able to come.

Have a fun party, I hope her friend can come. If not, don't worry too much.
She'll be having a blast either way on her birthday, regardless of if a certain someone is there or not.

S ; )

I have had to call parents who haven't RSVPd before. I just called and asked if their child was able to come to the party, that I needed a head count. Nothing wrong with calling and asking.

YES - you absolutely should call the mom and explain that since you haven't heard from her yet, you were concerned that maybe she didn't receive the invitation. It's entirely possible that she indeed did not receive the invitation. Have a wonderful party!!

Even as adults praise is fabulous. We all love to hear that our children are special and it is fun to hear too that other kids enjoy spending time with them. Don't worry about calling the mom. Or you could leave a little note in her daughters daycare box

"My daughter keeps talking about your daughter - if you can't make it to the birthday party we would love to schedule a time for her to come over and just play anyway"

Make the call! We had a day's mail lost, which included a check from work and a family birthday invitation. If it hadn't been family, we would have missed the party and looked bad for not responding. Especially since your daughter is excited to have her friend there, risk a little embarrassment. Good luck.

It's not strange at all. Sometimes those party invites get put to the side and people forget to RSVP. Call!

YES! Call! This is a chance to show your daughter how to handle a situation that is important to her - just like we teach kids to introduce themselves, make polite requests of adults, and anything else that is part of overcoming uncomfortable but perfectly normal interaction. Obviously adults feel these discomforts too, but this is one of those little chances to change things.

I would absolutely call! My daughter is in daycare part time and I do not always get all the papers. Things get lost and people forget. I know my daughter would be so sad if she missed someone's birthday party so I would say definitely call.

Nothing wrong with calling, you can just say your daughter would love for this child to come & you need a head count for food, etc.

Rule of etiquette is if you're renting space or paying per plate it nowadays is o.k. to call. If party is at your home just buy a couple of extra party favors for the nonrespondant people that may show. Sometimes people don't know how to say "no" or are ashamed because they just can't afford a party gift. If your daughter asks if her friend is coming just tell her you don't know. Hope this helps.

I think you should call her, there is nothing wrong with calling and asking if they are able to make it. A lot of people just don't RSVP. I think she should be honored to find out that your daughter is that excited for her daughter to come to her party.

Don't be afraid to make that call. Sometimes as moms, you have sooo much else going on that you forget to RSVP or even misplace the invite. A polite reminder, especially to someone your daughter is looking forward to seeing is good.
Since it is summer, they may also have plans that day (vacation, graduation party, etc), so knowing and explaining it to your daughter will help her cope with the let-down.

I think it would be fine. If she won't be able to make it express to her how much your daughter was looking forward to her being at the party and see if you can arrange a play-date or other day to visit.

Give her a call. I end up having to call over half of the people on our guest list because they forget to RSVP.

I had to call 90% of my daughters preschool class...they were all coming! Not strange at all!

I have called too in the past. Just say you need a head count and that your daughter is very excited to have so and so at her party. My daughter often wants to invite her daycare friends and sometimes I don't know the parents too well. Just a thought- I put my email on party invites. I seem to get more RSVP's this way.

you should definitely call. just explain how excited your daughter is!

Hi C.,
I would wait for the RSVP date to expire, then wait a day or two. Once that date comes and goes it is perfectly normal to call everyone on your list to find out who will be coming. You are able to justify it by saying you want to make sure you have enough goodie bags for the event. Then you can tell her how excited your daughter is.

Good luck and happy birthday to your daughter!

Not strange at all to call and try to get a head count for a party. I've forgotten to RSVP on a few ocassions and had the hostess to call and confirm if we weren't coming or not. I don't think it's strange or rude.

Though I wouldn't emphasize how excited your daughter is because that sounds as if you are trying to guilt them into coming so your daughter's feelings won't be hurt. They may have too much on their plate or maybe for religious reasons don't celebrate birthday parties...who knows.

I would just call and say you are getting a final head count for the party so you know how much food to have and how many goodies bags to prepare. You realize that many of us have much on our plates and you wanted to be sure if they were going to be able to attend or not.

At this age it is not strange at all to give the mom a call. I did it many times. Some people are just not good at responding. I would introduce myself and tell the mom you have not heard form her but your daughter is very excited and hoping that her daughter can come to her party. Tell her they play in school and have become good friends. It's not a big deal, make the call for you daughter.

Call.. Many times I have been called to see if I was planning on attending parties such as Stampin Up Party. They usually say "Just trying to get a number of how many will be there." But in this case just say, "My daughter is so exited about her party and is really hoping your daughter is able to make it. So I am called to see if she will be able to attend?"

S.

I don't think it would be strange at all. Maybe her life is as frantic as yours and she just did not get around to replying.

Not strange at all. Kid parties, adult parties, weddings...there are always a few stragglers that need to be called. Just say you need a final head count but I would also mention how excited your daughter is to have her friend there to help her celebrate. If the friend can't make it to the party, this gives you an opportunity to talk to the mom to see if you can set up a playdate with the kids.

Do you have an "rsvp by" date on the invite? IF so, I would wait for that date to pass so you don't seem impatient. If not, feel free to call, she should be happy your daughter likes her daughter so much.

There is nothing strange at all about checking if your daughters friend will come. Perhaps you can enlist the aid of the daycare provider since you do not see anyone drop off or pick up.That person could hand over a note with your phone number or ask that they grant permission to you to call them. You can let them know you need a head count for goody bags or whatever and that your daughter is very excited.

I wouldn't find it strange at all. Indicate you are doing a final check of the guest list for final preparations and you didn't recall hearing from them. You are just checking because your daughter speaks of this friend so frequently. Then be prepared to tell your daughter this friend can't come because she had other plans, is out of town, etc. Because the other mom doesn't see you on a regular basis there might be some hesitancy to let her daughter attend as well. It doesn't hurt to call and the worst you will hear is no she's not coming. If she can't come, try to set up a play date some other time in the near future, perhaps in a public place where you can get to know each other.

Wouldn't be strange at all, I don't think! Express the fact that your daughter is really looking forward to her attendance, and you thought perhaps she didn't get the invitation. (Maybe another family member lost it, didn't arrive..etc, etc.)

Hi C.:

If you did not indicate an RSVP date--it would be best if you would just call (if you have the number) and politely mention the invitation. The mother could be overwhelmed and may not have seen it or perhaps the child may not be with her mom since you said you never see the mom. The child may be with her dad or grandparents. Any number of issues could be going on surrounding this child and her home environment.

Not strange. Make THAT call. It's good for your daughter to get in the habit of the importance of RSVP'ing. I'm amazed, how few adults just don't RSVP. It's one thing to forget but it's another to be chronic at it.

I don't think it would be strange to give her a call IF it's past the rsvp date. Sometimes we get busy and forget to rsvp on time and there are other times when the invitation gets lost in the mail and the invitee never receives the invitation in the first place.

Case in point...(This recently happened to my daughter. I told a father and his child to have a good summer on the last day of school. And he replied, "Well, Christina's coming on Saturday, right??" I looked confused and he said he mailed the invitations about 5 days ago. Well, I never received the invitation.)

If for some reason the little girl can't make it, set up another time for her to come over and play.

Not at all - I have always called the list of people who haven't RSVP'd - one to be sure they received the invite and two - it might have just slipped their mind.

Just go with you are trying to get an accurate count of attendees - if they are able to attend - then relay how excited your daughter is.

Good luck