My husband and I are going to be actively trying to add to our family of 5... I went this past week and had my yearly exam and we have his Vasectomy Reversal consultation set up for November 17th. The actual surgery will be the Friday following... I know not everyone in our family will agree with our decision, but we have prayed about it...gotten the "go ahead" from all of our doctors...and it IS happening. My parents and his mom know our plans and are 100% supportive. I just need to know how to "inform" the relatives... I do a blog for our family that everyone has access to... Should I blog about it? How do I let them know that I do not want to hear negative responses? The whole "3 is enough" statement?
FYI - we are financially stable, do not receive assistance, are paying out of pocket for the surgery, and I am a stay at home mom that takes care of all 3 of our children.
Our immediate family is very supporting and excited. Why am I so anxious?!?! How would you break the news? Thanks Momma's!!!
Guys - maybe you are right! Maybe I don't *have* to tell them! (however they all know we had a vasectomy 5 years ago...so I guess we could just explain the reversal if we do conceive and have to cross that bridge when we get there!) This is why you guys RoCk! ;)
I would probably just announce the pregnancy when you are pregnant? Like after the first 3 months...to be safe.
I may be in the minority here, but I don't announce to my extended family that I am having sex with my husband for the purpose of getting pregnant! Why announce that at all? Announce the pregnancy, not the sex! You are barely in the consultation phase of the reversal. A baby is a long way away. Telling now gives people the opportunity to try and talk you out of it. You want nothing but positivity right now. This is a private decision and the rest of the world need not agree, but you don't want to invite that negativity into the process.
First of all, Congrats on adding to your family. Personally, I wouldn't tell anyone of your plans for trying. Just wait to find out when you are pregnant and inform everyone then. Its no one's business and their opinions shouldn't matter. Best of luck to you!
Awwww, I really love your story!
Do you really need to 'Break the news?' I don't see how it's anyone's business! I suppose once you're pregnant, when eyebrows are raised, maybe just a shrug and a smile. "We just got lucky I guess!"
I hope it all works out for you!
:)
HAHA! With the bad humor I have, this is how it would go:
PARENTS: OMG YOU'RE PREGNANT?! I thought Rob got snipped?!
ME: Yep, it's the mail man's.
PARENTS: [raise eyebrows]
ME: OF COURSE he had a reversal... you thought I was serious!?
HAHA ;) It's fun screwing with people though! Good luck trying :)
i would think don't do anything diferent, If you would normally blog about it do it, if not don't. It doesnt need to be an announcement, what if it never happens then you'll get tons more questions. I would say do whatever you'd normally do. If you blog about all personal info, go for it, if not J. keep it to the fam until it works=)
You shouldn't care what anyone thinks, it's your business. I hope it happens for you, you seem like a great person and a wonderful mother. "3 is enough" statements come from people who never be able to handle it. Don't stress over informing your family yet, just let it happen and when it does call the biggest gossip queen in your family after your 12th week doctor appt. Baby dust!!!! Btw vacsetomy is not always 100% accurate.
We've never felt the need to inform anyone that we were trying to have another. We just waited until we were to let them know. If it doesn't happen, I don't want to discuss it with everyone, and if they don't agree with our decision to be open to another, I don't care about their opinion and I don't want to hear it.
I would not inform anyone until you are actually about 10-12 weeks pregnant. No need to let the obscure family/friends know via blog or anything that you are officially trying. I know you are excited.. but just think about it ;) I once had a family member announce to me they were officially trying and it made me a little grossed out. The exception would be if a couple were having fertility issues and asked for prayers and support from family through their difficult journey.
You do not need to explain anything to anyone since you and your husband are financially, physically and mentally able to add to your family. When the time comes and it is apparent that you are expecting, the people who care about you should just say congratulations...the people that don't should just MYOB!
Blessings......
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Everyone knows your husband had a vasectomy? Isn't that kind of personal to be sharing? I don't see why you need to inform the family that you're trying to get pregnant. Too much information, in my opinion.
I am so excited for you. This is a huge decision, and such a joyous one! I don't think you need to tell anyone. They will find out soon enough, Lord willing. Then, you can tell them, and it will have more power because a baby will be involved. You can share the whys. If you tell them now, it will all be a theoretical hope, which they can argue about until the cows come home. Once a baby is involved, they can't really say too much. Well, they can, but they would be even more out of line to do so. Enjoy your little secret for now. Plus, I wouldn't want all the extra stress of the pressure from them every month if the pregnancy takes awhile to happen. Blessings! I pray that you are blessed quickly and often. :)
You can choose NOT to tell them anything. Your business and family baby making is ALL your decision--not relatives! Tell them after you are pregnant and when they can't make negative comments. You can say : Guess what? We are having baby # ___and are thrilled about it! WE hope you will share in our excitement.
GL
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It's a non-issue. To me, that is personal information that is not necessary to tell/share. If you get pregnant later, let them wonder if they want. Or feel free to toss out an off the cuff 'oh we had that reversed' when it seems appropriate. But to "announce" that he is having it reversed? Looks like an open invitation for people to make their opinions known... you don't care to hear them, so don't announce.
Just my 2¢
