How Old Is Too Old to Take Your Son into the Women's Room?

My son is only three but i have raised my nephew. What i trying to say is that once boys start school and have to do it alone at school thats the time you need to tell him what to do and let him go to the male bathroom.

I agree with Kristie B's response. My little guy, who is now 18 and on his way to college, went to the bathroom with me until he was 6. And like Kristie said, you keep him with you until YOU are comfortable and think he is ready to go by himself into the mens room. And even then......you wait outside the door. Just make sure you give him some rules to follow and he will be just fine when the time comes. They actually like it, they feel like BIG boys and end up doing a good job.

My friend told me she would have her son go into the men's room to check if anyone was in there... if there was, she would have him wait til they came out. Then, she would stand by the door so she knew exactly who went in (and they knew someone identified them and was waiting for her little boy!). Sounded like a good idea to me (my son is only 3 so he still comes in with me!).

My two older guys were both 6 when I let them go alone. I recited the rules each time, until they finally started telling me what was expected. As far as taking them with you, you can keep taking them as long as you want. You can be like me and if anyone questions you, feel free to give them a piece of your mind!LOL He is your child and if you are uncomfortable sending him in alone, that is your right. I am lucky that I can send my two older ones in together to look out for each other. My 3 year old still goes with me.

I would try and find family bathrooms. Most places have those types. My son is 12 and i'm still nervous with him going into the men's room. I've heard way to many scary stories about things happening in there! I think he was around 8 before I was comfortable letting him go alone and then i would stand outside waiting. I told him that if anything strange ever happened that all he needed to do was yell and i'd hear and come running! :)

I think you need to do what you're comfortable with. It's hard to trust the strangers in the men's room these days... but if your son understands all your instructions and you can wait by the door (and there's only one way out of the men's room) then you wouldn't be wrong for trying.

As a woman, I wouldn't mind you bringing your older boy into the women's room as long as he's quiet and respectful of the space.... I'm sure you know what I'm trying to say. Good Luck!

MY oldest is nearly 12 and i still bring him with me,
I just make him stay at the outskirts, and NO mother has ever said anything too me.

For one thing, he could go to the mens room alone, and did for a while but not until he insisted and even then i would say he needed to just PEE and come straight out, no hand washing,( i would let him use those wipes)

and after my little guys came along I needed him to help me keep an eye on them while i pee'd

No one ever says anything to me, we are all mothers,

Frankly i use the FAMILY bathrooms whenever possible, and
It not like he is peeking under the stalls, he is at the door way till I finish and then he uses the toilet.

I guess after he is 13 or so , or when he realizes what is behind the doors i will have to stop but in the meantime, i would just prefer to know all 3 of my boys are ok. and Pray that the other moms will be understanding.

Its not easy having 3...LOL

EDIT: A few times when he was smaller about 7 and an only child , I found on a few occasions MEN starting up conversations with my child, I simply opened the bathroom door and walked in on the PEE'ing MEN, most were shocked, a couple flashed me, but I really could care less MY boy was my concern. And Once a Father warned me about another man in the bathrooms on his way out,

I really think people with children are more understanding,
especially in todays day and age.
yo nee to be careful and vigilant.

you never know who is lurking around the corners

I started letting my son go into the mens room when he was six. I would stand outside the door and practicaly hold my breath until he came out. One piece of advice, you may want to ask him before he goes in how long he thinks it will take (depending on what he needs to do in there!) because it can be nerve wracking if you're waiting and he doesn't come out for awhile.
J.