How Many of You Have a Steady "Mom Night"?

I go to choir rehearsal every Tuesday night from 6:30-9:30. I love it! It totally helps me decompress for the week :-)

Hah! I was married to the wrong kind of man when my daughter was little to ever be rewarded with a mom night. (That marriage ended over 30 years ago.) Fortunately, I loved being with my little girl so much that I didn't feel too stressed by no time for myself.

But I think it is positive and helpful for most parents to have some time to restore and refresh themselves and their relationship. I'm always glad to give my daughter and son-in-law a night off by taking over grandson duties.

Does a Dad's night count?

I get to go bowling with my friends on Wednesday night in that league.

My wife takes Saturday morning to herself - she goes running and puts her laptop in the car and goes to a diner to just be by herself.

Friday night is family night in our home. We order pizza and watch movies.

I spend every Sat morning writing at Panera. My husband spends every Thur. rolling around on the floor with a bunch of other guys. AKA Jiu Jitsu.

I think I got the better deal, but whatever.

My "night" is Friday night. Bob takes care of the boys - dinner and all. If I go out with my girlfriends or IF I stay home - I am "invisible" to my men. They are not to bother me.

Wednesday night used to be our Date Night. When the boys were in Day Care - Wednesday night they kept the kids until 8PM - so Bob and I would go out to dinner. Now Wednesday night is family night.

How has it changed our relationship? Made it better because I NEED "ME" time.

I have a mom night every night!
Wait, mom night is when you do things for your kids right?
Ha!
I go every weekend with hubby to the movies, we have being done this for years, I was so big with my second pregnancy but still went to the movies, lol.
I have "alone" time every week night since my husband travels and kids are sleeping, and I sure he is also having his alone time too, lol.

Yes! My husband and I try and respect that we each need our time with our friends. My hubby plays rugby so that takes up a lot of time! When we didn't have kids it wasn't an issue, but he works long hours and I'm with our kids all day and then wants to go and play a game multiple times a week...it was kind of making me bitter! ;) So some girl friends and I started a dinner club where we all pick a fun new restaurant each month and meet there for wine and dinner! Yummy! I know that at least I will get one night out a month and it really helps! It makes me more understanding of his time to go out with friends and gives me a time to feel like a "real" person instead of just a mom! An added bonus is that these ladies are all different ages and only one of them is a mom of young children like me so I don't feel like our whole dinner conversation is about disclipling and diapers...we talk about politics and TV and current events!

Once a month I have a girl's night with three of my friends, usually from 5:30 - 10, sometimes later if one of us is having an issue to be dealt with.

Once a month (sometimes twice a month) hubby has guy's night with his friends, usually from 3 - midnight (or around that, sometimes a bit later).

Spring, Summer & Fall on Monday nights I am apart of a kickball team and then hang out at the bar that sponsers our team (usually from 6 - 11).

We do date night once a month, eat out with the family once a week, and the other days I always have a home cooked meal. I am sure when my daughter gets into sports this will change a little but for now this is what it is.

The biggest thing is the time spent AWAY makes me feel happy & blessed for what I have as well as helps me reboot and feel refreshed. Hubby says something similar for the time he spends with his friends.

We just started the once a month date night, which was very much needed to remind hubby & I that we still care about each other, love each other and can enjoy spending the time together.

The only Mom Night I get is every night when I hear "mommy" and "mom" he or she is doing (fill in the blank). Oy. But seriously, i have told my husband that starting sometime this week, which is almost over, I am going to take the first half hour to take care of baby and the next hour is mine, ALL MINE, bwah ha ha ha ha. And in that time if I hear "mommy!!!", I am going to ignore it.

I have my local working mom network night the last Friday night of every month and get together with another group of friends for dinner once a month.

We don't do a structured one night a week because I have a 2nd job as a test prep instructor/tutor so in busy season, I'm out 4-5 evenings a week anyway and even when out of the busy seasons, I have a lot of monthly volunteer meetings which also take me out of the house.

My husband usually plays hockey on Friday nights so that's his dedicated time for himself.

I think it's necessary and healthy for every parent to have his or her own interests and hobbies and the time to pursue them, as well as ample time for relaxation, recreation and relationships that aren't just about the kids. It keeps us whole and sane.

My husband works swing shift 5 nights a week ~ so I cherish the 2 nights that he is actually home! If anything, we do a date night together and a family night the next. But we don't even do a date night very often.
Someday (maybe) he'll get on day shift and then I would consider taking a night for just me :)

I get Fridays with my friends. We hang out at eachothers houses but kids are allowed but I don't take mine and play games or watch a movie and snack. This year we have decided that we are going out out once a month to be away from kids. my husband gets sunday, tuesday and thursday, HOWEVER, if something comes up with my friends on any of those days, he has to give it up because I don't normally do stuff other than Friday.
All ya mommas need to put your foot down and tell your husbands you get time with friends once a week to hang out. Why should they get time and you don't. I think its healthy for all to get away from the kids once in awhile.

I have Choir Monday Nights and I have random performance times. Sat I often do personal errands and Sunday family errands if i do not do them while my son is in school.

We don't necessarily have a set time, but we have always done this kind of stuff on a regular basis. It is actually scheduled in our calendar because we both work odd hours, plus have busy kiddos. Anyway, I think it's what gives us such a great marriage. Honestly, great! I almost feel guilty at times reading things posted here, because our marriage is so good. Anyway, we schedule times for us with each of the kids and us together. We also schedule time for us by ourselves, although it's not a priority until one of us needs it. None of this is weekly, but as often as we can, and in the same rotation order. It really is important, I think. Keep it up!

I honestly could do whatever I wanted, whenever I wanted, hubby is good like that. Last year I had a client talk me into bowling with her team on a league, they were short one person. So I did, every Thursday night, and after that first night, she quit...NICE! But I kept bowling, it was me and 4 guys, they were hysterical. Hubby stayed home with the kids, sometimes he would bring them over to bowl too. He never had a "dad night", he's just such a homebody. He would rather be home with us than out with friends or doing something else. However, we are in a blended family and our ex's have our kids every other weekend, which means we have NO kids every other weekend...AWESOME!!! So that is such a great break for us, we get caught up on movies and friends and eat out and sleep in...every 2 weeks...lucky us!!!

No such thing. I get one occasionally with my one friend as in-we go grocery shopping together. I also work part time but haven't had any hours in January so no 'getting out' for a bit then. We get a date night here and there when the in-laws watch the kids for us but its not a regular occurance.

Well, I home/virtual school our 2 kids. They have martial arts 3 nights per week (sometimes 4) right at dinner time. And one night a week they have confirmation at church. Then usually on Fridays, just before dinner hour, daughter has piano lesson.
Husband commutes 50 minutes (each way) to work, and works regressive shifts. He is not off work in time to be able to chauffeur the kids to any of their activities. He just isn't here. :/ Heck, sometimes he isn't here when they go to bed. I am the constant in the kids' lives that keeps school on track. I can't go anywhere when they are doing school, as I have to monitor what they are doing, help them, and enter passwords and such for them to take assessments. So I am up doing that every day M-F. Doing the chauffeur thing M-F (more or less) at dinner. Husband is at work on Saturdays until mid-afternoon (2:30-3:00?)... One of our few possible "family dinner night" nights, or "date night" nights. (so NOT getting any "me" time then)... We do church on Sunday mornings... and then Sunday night I usually am prepping the lesson plans for Monday morning.

So. No, we don't do anything similar to what you describe. It would be nice, but my husband's work schedule and our lives in general don't allow us the time. Maybe twice a year I will take a Monday (when husband is off work) and just get out of the house and go shop/spend/eat/drink with a friend... and be gone from noon until midnight. There just isn't time enough to do anything more regularly.
We have in the past 6 months or so started being much more regular about "date" nights though. Usually every other Saturday night or so... The kids are finally old enough that we can slip out for a few hours without having to hire a sitter.

Mom's night? What's that? j/k

My husband is a great father and husband and works his butt off so I can be home with our two daughters BUT that's one area where he is lacking! He just doesn't understand my need and desire for 'me' time! I'm envious of the ladies who posted below (and my M. friends) whose husbands do understand!

I have been in a Women's Support Group for 16 years. These women are my rock! They rock! We meet one night a month to share without criticism. We give each other ideas and support. When we began we called the group our "Mothers Group." All our children have left the nest now, but we still meet and support one another.

This has made my relationship with my husband stronger. I have a place to vent and get ideas to make my life better. We were all young Mom's together facing many similar challenges. Now we are all older Mom's together facing similar challenges. It's great!

To do this for yourselves. Just find 4-5 other women willing to meet one night a month. Don't pick your best friend! Don't pick women you see often. Pick women you like and have a good feeling for. Women you think you can trust and share with.

I don't take a "mom" night out w/girlfriends very often. Maybe twice a yr.
I am going out to dinner w/them this Saturday night though. Can't wait.
Hubby goes to the gym 2 nights a week.
I do my walking either early a.m. on the treadmill when I get up in time
and go for walks on the weekend BY MYSELF! Love it.
We are trying to figure out a date night once or twice a month. Can't wait
Just dinner! That will be fun & hopefully bring us closer together! :)