My situation is similiar to yours but my daughter was 3yrs old when we moved from Indiana to SC to be with my hubby and we got married when she was 4. I got pregnant with my son in August 05 and my daughter had just turned 5yrs old the month before. She had been wanting to be a big sister since she was 2 so she was very excited when we told her I had a baby in my belly. But then at the time I was also babysitting an 8 month old that cried every time I put him down for a nap (mom and dad would hold him while he slept) and she was affraid that that is what her baby bro/sis was going to do. I ashured her that not all babies cry all the time and that everything will be fine. But it also gave her an idea of how time consuming babies can be. We kept her involved as much as possible. She went to a few DR appointments with me and her face lit up the first time she heard the heart beat!!! We also allowed her to go to the ultra sound but she decided not to at the last minute but was excited when I told her the baby had a blue blanket with him. She thinks babys have a pink or blue blanket in the belly and that's how we know what the sex is!!! We had to move due to my hubby's job when I was 7 months along, so I let her pick out her room but help me figure out where the crib and stuff would go in her brother's room. I would let her feel the baby moving all around and we even asked for her input on names. That was funny cause if she had her way my son would be named Rasin Blue!! At the baby shower, a lot of people got her big sister gifts so she wouldn't feel left out. Be warned, I got asked a lot of questions I wasn't prepared for and some I was!!! How did the baby get in there, how does the baby get out, will it hurt, how do you make mile,will you still love me, etc. And then there was they day we came home, it was all fine and good till then...then it was I don't want to be a big sister, I don't want a baby brother, you should throw him away!!! Hubby and I calmly sat her down and explained to her how that wasn't a nice way to talk and that it was ok to feel jealous or left out but she needed to come to one of us and tell us how she felt and we would help her work through it. About a month after he was born she had to go to her dad's for the summer and that wasn't easy for her at all. She was very afraid that we were going to forget about her or not want her back because we had a 'replacement'. We talked on the phone a lot and her dad was also very good about letting her call me or what not when she got in a mood. I think it also helped her adjust when she learned that she slept in the same crib he uses, used the same baby swing and how I take care of him is how I took care of her. She can't get over that she was that little to sleep in a crib instead of her twin bed!!
But now, 9 months later, she wouldn't give her bro up for anything!! She loves him to death, reads to him, plays with him, kisses him all the time.....and for me, it is so amazing to see how my two kiddos have developed and reached milestones differently.
Congrats on the little bundle!!! It is a strange ride for me having two kids 6yr apart but it's been a blast non the less!!
S.