How Do You Feel About Your Husband Going to a Strip Club?

I know I'm in the minority here, but I don't really like my hubby going. It's my job to dance for him, and I could use the money!!! :)

I really don't care- it's just boobs and butts. It's still me he has to come home to, and I am way hotter than any stripper (at least that's what he tells me). :)

hello no...nothing good can come from that...too much potential for hook-ups and to live out fantasies! Why even be tempted? there are more productive things to do for a bachelor party then go and see those skanky women.

I'm good with it!! I'd ask if I could come along too!!!

If my husband wants to see someone sexy dance and put money in her underwear then it damn sure better be ME that he is paying. Lord knows I need the money!
I don't want my husband going to one. I will never forbid it because I am not his mother, but I would think that he has enough respect for me and himself that he wouldn't go.
Maybe it's not really the norm in your city but the norm in your circle of friends...which would make me question my circle of friends.
How would he feel about you going and watching men dance? Whooping and hollering and waving money around like some kind of neanderthal? It always makes me laugh when we have the man put the shoe on the other foot and all of the sudden it's not okay. How would either one of you feel if it was your daughter dancing? I guess my point is...if you would not be comfortable with your own children doing it then why are you comfortable with someone else's kid doing it?
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Ummm, we don't even go to Hooters, so it is a no-go in our house. No bachelor parties that have strippers or strip club visits. It is not like there is a consequence if the agreement is broken, but out of respect for myself and for ALL WOMEN I would never want my husband to go to a strip club. To me it is just another way to exploit a woman and to keep her from reaching her true and full potential. (I know, I know, they're all doing it to put themselves thru college :)

Couldn't care less.
If he wants to waste his hard earned money by paying some chick to pretend that she's into him for 3 minutes at a time - have fun!

I'm secure in myself, him, and our relationship that I'm not threatened by this at all.

I'd ask if I could join the fun.

How I feel about it is that it would hurt me a great deal. I expect my husband to stay out of those places, bachelor parties included.

I'm with Cheryl O. I went to a strip club with my husband and probably had more fun than he did. The women are there to get paid - any guy that thinks he can 'hook up' with them is dreaming - it's their JOB to flirt and get cash. I was even my step-brother's alibi for when he and my husband went because his fiancee would've been mad. It's like Disneyland for testosterone. A little fantasy land :)

I actually can't think of a single man who goes over there other than for bachelor parties. I know they exist mind you.

Troy is really not one to go out with the guys so it is hard to speculate on something I know would never happen. Apparently there is some newer restaurant downtown the the waitresses either wear lingerie or paint on a top. One of the project managers took him and a few other guys from the project there for lunch. He was like a five year old on their first day of school when he got home. J.! Have you ever heard of whatever the name is. No. The waitresses had their tops painted on..... I had to laugh because he was more amazed that this place exists and this guy took coworkers there then the apparent nudity. :p

Bachelor party, fine; anything else, nope. My guy doesn't like them anyway :)

I would hope he had a good time. If he went every night he would be coming home to an empty house but if it were just an occasional thing like this party then I would wish him the best and spend some time in a bubble bath and primping cause when he comes home...well, you know..he's gonna wanna play.

I had to jump in on this one. I don't mind my husband going and heck I even go with him every now and then. The reason I don't mind is I know I'm the one he is coming home to and even if he wastes a bit of money on those women I don't really mind either. The reason being is we have had a couple of friends who were strippers(married to other friends of ours). They aren't bad people like some what to paint them. They are out to make fast money. I would say easy money but by far it isn't even that easy since they get to deal with drunk guys who think a few bucks earn them the right to more than a dance.

I think it's a reflection of the man and how he feels about his wife. I think a good way to evalute this kind of thing is for that person (your DH in this situation) to consider if he would want all of his friends, realtives & acquaintences to know about it. That's the question I tell my kids to ask themselves when they consider doing something.

The occasional venture to a strip club wouldnt bother me but I dont think I would like it if he went more than once every 4 months and if all of his buddies were going to. But...dont know if this is any better...my hubby would just rather play WOW. I guess at least he's always at home. But I would ask your hubby how he would feel if it was the other way around. Would he be bothered if you went to go stare at naked men?

As long as he didnt try to hide it from me I really wouldnt care

My husband doesn't go to strip clubs on a regular basis, but he has been to one maybe 3 or 4 times in the last 17 years. It's a non-issue for me. We're secure enough in our marriage that it didn't affect me one way or the other. He hasn't been to one in well over 3 years. If he and a bunch of his friends wanted to go to one tonight, I'd still have no problem with it. If he started going every night, I WOULD have a problem with it, not because of *where* he was going, but because of the regularity of going (I'd have a problem with him choosing to go ANYWHERE that often, including strip clubs, bars, bowling alleys, grocery stores, his mom's, the library). But going to a strip club once every few years? Nah, no problem.

You have to trust him, but when he gets home give him a lap dance of his lifetime :)

It's fun if you go with them ! And then honestly you can see how they'd act in that enviorment, some guys can't control themselves, so my answer would be diferent. If my bf went, I know he;d be hanging with the guys glancing at the girls and not spending money on them, so if thats where the guys went I'd want him to join them and have fun.

If my husband ended up at a strip club I would be BEYOND concerned. Why? Because he abhors such things. He wouldn't even want to go as part of a bachelor's party on moral grounds. He regards women as a gift of God (we are, remember? It is not good that man should be alone). And he treats women respectfully. Not just me. Women. And he would find a strip club repulsive and degrading to women.
He didn't go to strip clubs as a single person either.

That's my guy, though. If he had a different set of values regarding such things, then I would feel differently about it. Of course, if he had a different set of values (maybe not just this one issue mind you) then we might not be married either. . . Changing that one variable has a ripple effect throughout people, soo... maybe he would be different in some other very important ways, too.

it's ok if i go with him.

I don't care. It's a rare occurrence for a bachelor party once in awhile. I've been to plenty of them myself. My only problem would be if he was going all the time, because it's EXPENSIVE! I think we've gotten to the point that it's less than once a year now, so I can live with that!

I don't mind at all.
It's only on occasion that he goes.

whatever - if he wants to spend the night looking at nasty hoes then more power to him - he still comes home to me. However - I don't think my hubby has ever gone to one (maybe a long long time ago?) so it's a non-issue in our house.

It matters not to me. He can go whenever he wants if he wants to go then he can just go!

I have no issue with my husband going to a strip club, and I am kind of offended at the assumption that they are "hoes". Strippers work for the money they earn, just like the rest of us. We have a "look, don't touch" policy in our family, but if he tips her a couple of bucks for her dancing I have no problem with that, that is how she makes her living.

If my husband went for a bachelor party or some rare night out with his friends, it would not bother me in the least.

If he was going on his own or regularly, it would bother me.

(That being said...my husband has never been to one.)

For a bachelor party with guys I know and trust, I have no problems with it. It's the only time he goes. I wouldn't have a problem with a guy's night out either since he never goes on guy's nights out and because I trust the guys he would go with. My issue is the stink of cigarettes when he gets home. He just has to shower and put his clothes in the wash right away.

I actually just found out this week that my parents almost divorced because my dad went to a strip club with my uncle (who had an addiction to them and strippers) about 20-25 years ago. it started a lot of @#$% between my parents and they actually didn't talk for 5-6 years. They were on the verge of divorce when they finally went to a marriage seminar and their marriage was saved. (I now know where I get my holding grudges thing from....)
I have been to one before but it was to hustle guys at pool and I didn't do a bad job. It is not anywhere where I would want my husband to be. They are disgusting and creepy and I'm sure we can find other ways to spend that money. Since we started dating almost 9 years ago, he has been once because he tricked me while I was out of town and we got in a huge fight. He has even told me that they aren't fun it's just something to do with a group when they can't figure out anything else...

The last bachelor party my husband attended--I drove him and dropped him off. No problem. I trust my husband, but I didn't want him to drink & drive (that to me is a bigger concern) so they had a DD to get everyone him safely.
Not a fan of strip clubs myself, but neither is my husband so it's kind of a non-issue in our house, I guess.

He'll come home and you'll get lucky! ;)
I think some of these people are funny. No way does that mean your husband is cheating on you or disrespectful. If you didn't want him to go and had legitimate reasons (like he cheated on you before..with a stripper!) then that's disrespectful. All men are pretty aware that most strippers don't have the highest self-esteem, which makes their confident, trusting wife look even better in their eyes! Totally agree with MandA!

Don't really care. I know he's not into "spectator sports" as he describes them. I know he'd rather be home with me and only goes for bachelor parties or whatever. He'd be bored. I know he doesn't go there on his own, so I'm not really worried.

If it's for a bachelor party, then okay...... I'm not thrilled about it, but I trust him~

My husband has never had a problem with me seeing men dance and I have never had a problem with him seeing women dance.. He is too frugal to give them money..

We laugh because those places are so typical, tacky.

More like a comedy club..

I would be pissed, it's not really the norm around here. But I guess it's not too bad...here in Virginia the strippers aren't legally allowed to be topless. So it's just like watching a girl dance around in a bikini. Or tassles..which just look ridiculous anyways.

His brothers and guy friends hired 2 strippers for his bachelor party, and he actually called me at 1 a.m. to go pick him up because it made him mad and uncomfortable that they did that (even though he specifically told them not to).

My hubby went once, then brought me along the next time, then I was up on stage dancing at amateur night the next time! Actually did that a few times, as I was quite hot in my 30s...

Even so, I have mixed feelings about the whole thing. It was OK as part of our whole exploration stage together. I would not have liked if it had become a habit on his part.

Interesting to me, that when his daughter turned 18, he decided never to go to a strip club again...

no issues at all. i even went with my bfs a bunch of times- especially since i had friends who were strippers and they traveled to many cities (including stl) to work for the weekends. i have no issues about it. i even did an amateur night or 5 to make some extra cash while in college. =)

if anyone really wants to know what goes on in these places with some of the lap dances, let me know. and if your guys are saying they go because it's funny or it's nice to watch what the other guys are doing, i don't know if they're being 100% honest. it does depend on where you go though and how "involved" you want to get. i don't like to spill the beans and ruin the "secret" if there is one for men.

feel free and pm me but sometimes it's best if you don't know...and remember, they are coming home to you.

hope that wasn't too much tmi.

If it was not a regular thing I would have no problem with it. We do not have the money to go. However, that said, my husband would much rather spend his money on video games and let me do all the dancing. He's not the one who went to a strip club for the bachelor party...I went for the bachelorette party. He played pool with all his buddies and all us soon to be wives and wives (I was the only unmarried one) went to the strip club.

However, most of my friends before I met my husband were men. So I've spent too many nights in them to ever get too worried.

Inside I would be upset but I do trust my husband. Im with you, I think the wasting money would bug me more! We used to go together years ago and it was fine but now that im fat and old I think it may bother me more. He's telling you the truth and you trust him tell him to have a good time but behave :)

I feel exactly the way you do.

My husband has more respect for me,himself, our children, God and women in general then to go to those smutty places. We believe we have committed our lives to Christ and part of that means taking part in safe,wholesome and uplifting forms of entertainment.

He has high morals and values and that is what really attracted me to him. He would enjoy his time more volunteering at church, kids' school, with the Boy Scouts, with our family, with friends etc. He would prefer a round of golf with buddies instead of the club. When he is in Las Vegas with co workers he is the one to say "Hey..before you guys head out for some more fun, please drop me off at my hotel." You don't know how many other men end up going back with him to their hotel to just hang out and laugh and joke around in the lobby.My husband drinks his soda(yes..we don't drink alcohol either) while the others enjoy their alcohol but it is just guys hanging out having fun. THey just weren't secure enough to be the lone voice to stand up to smut. He has earned respect and has soared in positions at his job because of this integrity and strength to stand alone for what he believes is virtuous. He is always the designated driver for work functions.

I have never had to tell him "You can't do this or that". He has a strong moral compass and is a true believer in Christ and Christ's teachings to put ourselves in holy places and to treat our bodies as temples. He is a believer 24-7...not just on Sunday during worship services.

I love this man so much...he is amazing. I trust him to do what is right without me having to nag him.

Good luck and best wishes!

Let me toss this on this "fire" ...
What would you think if the bio-father of your grandchild was running a club? And to add, one of his online pages is full of these kinds of female 'friends' with pics of the children also in the same online ID.... :-(

I would not care. I am secure enough in my relationship with my husband to not be threatened by him looking at semi-nude or nude women dancing. I do not feel like I'm being disrespected or harmed in any way by him watching.
Don't think it's evil.
If he chooses to go, hope he has fun.
The women dancing are not "hoes"! **THAT** is the disrespectful part!

Ya this is always a funny topic with me and my b/f
He HATES strip clubs. One of his friends recently had a bachelor party and the plan was to go drinking then to the strip club. My b/f came home after the bar. I know that he didn't go to the club because he came home at 9pm and his buddy, who is a friend of mine, texted me about him coming home.
Sometimes my b/fs friends (a few of them anyway) think that I am telling him to NOT do these kinds of things. when in reality my b/f makes those decisions on his own lol

I don't know know how I really feel about strip clubs. I mostly don't agree with them. I guess if a guy is single, then its ok?
But the idea of a taken man going to a club to oogle over naked women, when he should be doing that with his girl doesn't sit well with me.

Hubby went to a strip club when out in IL for my brother's bachelor. I trust him so I had no issues with that and the best part... He came back slightly drunk and ready for me! LOL.

(Thankfully I was already preggers or we would have been!)

~C.

For a married man to go and look ( lust after...) an almost nacked females.........i don't think so.....

My husband hates strip clubs! He says they are a waste of time and money, and I must admit I'm glad I found a guy who hates them! My ex b/f loved them and went all the time and it drove me crazy!