I'm not too too familiar with things. my husband has bipolar w/ major depression. so i've just kind of kept things in my brain as i came across them.
first of all, you want to make sure that you're health care provider is very knowledgeable and supportive of your decisions. I'm not sure when your depression/anxiety developed, but i'm sure you must know that with pregnancy and delivery, symptoms may or may not worsen. so you need to know the warning signs--what's normal pregnancy behavior influenced by hormones and what needs further attention. one rule of thumb, if you're unable or unwilling to do basic things, such as eat, take care of yoursefl, or your family, your might want to mention it to your health care provider. if necessary, there are many medications out there that are safe to take during pregnancy.
so, what have i come across?
watermelon, asparagus, dark chocolate, exercise (start now so it's not something new when you do get pregnant), omega 3 (there is a prenatal vitamin called Prenatale that has this. it also helps with brain development for the baby.)bananas
all these help to release endorphins and boost seratonin levels.
growing your family can be very stressful. but it sounds like both you and your husband have chosen to do this. we are expecting number 4 in one week. we found inspiration from another mom here on mamasource. she was the youngest of 5 and her dad had bipolar. good luck with everything. if you need someone to talk to, feel free to email me at anytime. :) i think that just talking about things helps tremendously. there's nothing like knowing you're not alone. also, more importantly, are you seeing a therapist? i think that many cases of depression can be handled by therapy alone. but many will go to pills alone. there's still a lot of taboo about seeing a therapist. but wouldn't you rather do that than pop pills everyday if that's all you need?