J.P.
Hi L.,
I have the same trouble with my 9 year old daughter. Sometimes it really drives me crazy. When I try to help her with her homework, she get's mad at me for trying to help...but then if I don't help, she'll get mad at me. I talked to her school counselor about it and he suggested a few things. First off...my daughter is adhd, so he gave me some suggestions on helping her get focused on it. He also told me that the reason she gets mad at me for helping her (even though she tells me she needs the help) is because she is upset about the fact of always needing help on it and is probably wondering 'why do I always need help, why can't I do this myself'. Sometimes my husband will have "races" with her to try and get her to work on it. He'll do the work on another paper while she works on hers. She usually gets right on it and gets it done quickly when theres a challenge.
I hope I helped some...and hope I wasn't too confusing. Good Luck!
Blessings,
J.