I think it's a really interesting article. I wonder, though, about context.
According to the article... my son hit 11.5 out of the 12... but in my mind, he was a VERY easy baby. We just meshed well (and a few years of psych & nursing classes helped... as did having a lot of experience around other people's babies - sibs, cousins, babysitting). But our personalites agreed, and providing what he needed at any given time was just kinda natural 99% of the time. Exhausting, sure, but not frustrating.
Why I wonder about context is this:
Both my son and I are ADHD. (As are many members of my family, ironically as far as genetics go, about 1:4). If you read down the list of ADHD symptoms EVERYONE relates. Everyone forgets things, everyone gets distracted, everyone can have several things on their mind (thinking multiple thoughts), everyone experiences intense emotions, everyone gets hyperfocused (intent/ driven/ passionate to the degree the world falls away), everyone gets sensory overload, everyone gets x, y, z FROM TIME TO TIME. Even for extended periods of time, here and there. But there is a HUGE difference between people with ADHD and non-adhd'ers.
Same token lots of people have "active" toddlers. It's hilarious, however, to watch 2 toddlers that both parents claim are active. The level of activity is often *radically* different. One parent can say non-stop and mean 10 hours... another parent says non-stop and they mean for a few minutes every hour.
Like Denise, I personally categorize babies as being high needs when they have something physically wrong with them (pick an organ, any organ, and anything that can be wrong with them), or a disability the parent is illequiped to deal with *in the beginning* (aka a deaf baby can be high needs for a hearing parent, but not high needs for a deaf parent or hearing parent who is conversant with deafness), or the mysterious and dreaded colic (crying every second that they're awake regardless of level of care for days/ weeks/ months), or a disease (aka a genetic disorder... like downs or "glass bones"... not an illness which is caused by infection), or certain illnesses (polio for example), or birth defects, or brain injuries, or extreme allergies, or drug babies, or babies with cancers, or autistic babies (like my cousin), or, or, or. The defining line being something that requires *expert* care, knowledge, and understanding... or extreme medical intervention.
Now... following MY definition... in my experience and observation...every baby who meets 1 or more of the above ALSO exhibits all or most of the12 of Dr. Sears signs of a high needs baby. My son had NONE of the above (he's adhd... but that's not something one knows at birth, and like a deaf parent of a deaf child... being adhd myself he's probably MUCH easier for ME to parent than parenting a 'typical' child), but he had 11.5 of the signs. And like I said... he was a super easy baby in my book.
So I wonder about context. Squares and rectangles.