Help...need Bridal Shower Advice

As a recent bride, I would suggest either throwing a shower from your side of the family, or asking the bride's side of the family if you could join their shower.
If you don't do anything, it will make the bride feel as though (a) she isn't welcomed into the family, (b) you don't care about her, and/or (c) you're too cheap to give them anything.
EDITED TO ADD: T., I was not trying to imply that you are any of the above things, it's just that with this type of event, someone could take things the wrong way if something isn't handled properly. For our wedding, my mom threw the bridal shower at her home and invited everyone on my husband's side of the family since his family is very small and it wouldn't have made sense for them to throw one of their own. Since this was the case, his mother asked what she could contribute to the event (so that there was effort from his side of the family). I was hurt, though, a few months later by some friends of mine who threw a bridal shower for a mutual friend of ours, but they didn't even think to throw one for me. This is what I was trying to convey.

I would recommend that you and your family ask if they can help throw one of the showers otherwise the bride may have her feelings hurt. If her family seems put off by it, maybe just throw a small shower (10-15) people ... small little luncheon for her and your brother. Good luck.

I'm sure I will be in the same boat soon. I have 3 1/2 brothers, and I love their Girlfriends and would want this time to be special for them. I would suggest offering to help in any way possible. Even if the family's don't want/need you to step in a 'pay' for anything, I would think they would appreciate your offer of time. Maybe offer to help with the decorating, or do some of the running for them.

If YOU still feel that you are not doing enough, then I would say have a little get-together with your family and the Bride. (I am assuming that she knows most if not all of them.) It could be something real casual, like a Brunch or early Dinner. I wouldn't say you would even have to go all out on the decorations. Make it more of a "Welcome to the Family" gathering. If I read your post correctly, then most of your family is invited to one or both of the other showers, if you make it yet another shower, they may start to feel taken advantage of.
When I got married, my Husbands family threw me one of these parties. They asked all the guests write their favorite recipies on an index card and then put them in a nice box for us. (I still use this quiet often, and I've been married 13 years now.) Maybe they could also bring in something to help make that recipie. (Like a rare food ingrediant, or the pan to bake it in, what ever)

Hope this helps. Try not to worry and enjoy yourself.

The best thing to do is just ask what you can do. Call one of the sisters and offer to help. See if they need anyone to help with favors or providing decorations. Even ask about food... if there's anything you can make or buy.

I agree another shower would be overkill.

Have fun!

Hi T.,
I agree with what has been written so far. My daughter is getting married in November. My mother n law is hosting a shower at a restaurant and we have included both sides for the event. My daughter's fiancee's family only has a few people coming but we welcomed his mom to invite anyone she wanted to. I think the idea about offering your help is great; perhaps you could offer to bring a pretty cake/dessert tray to the event? (I'm assuming you are invited to one of these showers or both being a part of the bridal party?)Typically the maid of honor hosts a shower but these days, anyone can offer.

Also, perhaps you could offer help on table favors or centerpieces. Even if they decline, it would be a wonderful gesture to offer help. If you and your 15 guests on your side are not invited to either shower(which would really surprise me being that you are standing up in the wedding..)

perhaps you could throw a little dinner party for the couple?
If you make decisions based on love for the couple, everything will turn out just fine. Would love to hear how it all turns out!
Have a great time!

Well, I understand that she is having some of your family to the one bridal shower, however is should be offered to her to have another from your side. My sister's inlaws didn't throw her one and I know she was pretty upset, however there's more issues there. My inlaws threw me one and they also threw me a separate baby shower when I had my daughter. I would definitely talk to her about it so that there are no hard feelings if you decide not to throw one!