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The most important thing you can do is let her know you are thinking of and praying for her. Call and send her cards whenever possible. Another idea, if you can afford it, would be to hire someone to go in a clean house for her a few times after her surgery. Maybe send coupon booklets to some fast food places in their area or gift certificate for a restaurant that she likes. Is there any way you could offer to have some (or all) of her kids come and visit for a few days? But like I said, I think just talking to you and receiving cards will be as much help as anything. I have gone through this with my dad and my cousin, and they both said that just having people stay in touch and not be afraid to say "how are you doing?" was the most helpful thing. And pray, pray, pray!