Hi dear!
Having been that mom in distress I think I can share with you what had the greatest impact on me. My daughter was 5 about to turn six when she was finally diagnosed with cancer.
The GREATEST impact that I felt was all the people coming to pray with us AT the hospital that first time we were there for an extended stay (biopsy and beginning of chemo). I know that everyone I knew had reached out and people starting coming out of the woodwork to send my daughter cards, presents and encouragement and prayer for us parents. A church group from some church out of State even sent a beautiful box FULL of little 3x5" cards decorated by their kids with sweet little messages by the kids and pictures.
I also had a step sister who had lost a child to brain cancer approximately 2 years prior offer to reach out but at that point I did NOT want to have ANYTHING to do with a parent who had lost the battle. I appreciated her offer to be there but I did not want to have to face the fact of possibly losing my then only child or facing a parent who had lost her daughter.
Feel free to send me an email directly if you want to ask me ANY questions or chat and feel free to forward my email to her as well.
A little about what we faced: My daughter had Wilms tumor and the tumor turned out to be 2 seperate tumors which by the time of discovery and treatment made up 80% of her circumfrance. She had weekly chemo treatments at Cook Children's Hospital in Fort Worth, 10x Radiation Treatments (reduced from 11) and then she also had to undergo major surgery removing her left Kidney, left lobe of her Liver, Gaul Bladder and local Lymph nodes. She lost all her hair but refused to wear a wig and rarely kept the little hankerchiefs I bought for her on her head. It was VERY difficult at that point b/e I finally had to face the fact my daughter had cancer b/e it stared me in the face every day... Until she lost her hair I was just numb and in shock and it took a very long time for me to pull through.
Thankfully God used that whole situation to reach out to me through many different people. My daughter is now 13 1/2 year old typical teenager. She had THICK beautiful hair she keeps cutting shorter than I would have it (I am still am partial to that hair) and her scar in the shape of a rainbow across her belly is super thin that no one really even notices it. Funny thing is her name is Rayne so that is her rainbow! ;o]
Please feel free to email me anytime about any of what I have shared and feel free to ask me any questions. =) I don't mind sharing what I have learned and have experienced. Our experiences vary so greatly from case to case even within the same type of cancer but I am HAPPY to be there in any way I can.
I know that your friend is a very lucky lady to have a friend like you! Your friend, her family and son and you will be in my prayers!
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