T.,
I just went through the exact same thing with my son last year when he was 7 and in first grade. I don't want to "slam" public schools or anything as I understand their limitations with the numbers of students and issues they have to deal with, but I STRONGLY encourage you to take this matter into your own hands. I realize that it may cost you money up front, but time is of the essence when you are talking about possible dyslexia as it can cause HUGE emotional, self-esteem, behavioral and even physical problems. I know this for a fact. Early diagnosis and intervention is the key - don't wait!
We are in the PISD district and my son already fell under the umbrella of "special education" as he was receiving speech therapy services. So I was having regular and fairly frequent meetings with his IEP team (including the principal). Each time I told them I thought he might have dyslexia and that he should be tested and each time I was told he was receiving "interventions" and that he was too young to test and that he wasn't showing any signs of dyslexia. I refused to continue to fight with the school district to test him (I found out from other dyslexic students parents that most public schools won't test until 3rd grade which is TOO LATE in my opinion as the child has already sufferred for three years and taken a HUGE hit emotionally) and wait for them to act as my son was already suffering emotionally.
I first took my son to an Academic Language Therapist which I found through www.altaread.org. We chose Alice Redding as she is in Richardson where we live. I have heard such wonderful things about her and my son continues to use her services for private language therapy to this day (she teaches the most recent Take Flight curriculum developed by the Scottish Rite Hospital). She performed an initial screening on him and said she was sure he was dyslexic (it was about a 45 minute low-key evaluation). So I decided that he needed to be officially tested. This all occured the end of last year and I was wanting to get a diagnosis ASAP before school started this year so I had him tested over the summer at SMU at Legacy. It cost around $1,000 and was two mornings of diagnostic testing one on one with the tester. We received our report about 6 weeks later and I was right my son is dyslexia - he is a classic example of developmental dyslexia. So the public school was WRONG - he was neither too young to test nor was he not showing any signs of dyslexia.
[The Scottish Rite Hospital also does dyslexia testing and it is free. However, the wait is usually very long 6-9 months so the sooner you complete the paperwork the better. You will need a doctor referral for the Scottish Rite to test so if you are planning on going this route you should get in contact with your pediatrician to discuss your son's possible dyslexia.)
I was told by our public school that even if I came back with an official report of dyslexia he was already receiving all of the services (intervention services) that dyslexics receive. Those were not going to be enough. Dyslexics need a period (most programs are 2 years long) of intensive (at least an hour daily) instruction in a small group setting specifically developed for the way their brain works. Most public schools do not even come close to this type of help. So we moved our son to St. Paul the Apostle school in Richardson which has a program specifically for dyslexic children. He has been there for about two months now and I am starting to see some academic improvement. He will try to read on his own, but of course he still struggles but at least he is trying. It is his emotional health that has been helped the most. His self-esteem has done a 180 - he is starting to believe in himself and not be so negative about things. In his regular classroom they are very understanding and assist him with class assignments that require reading. It is a wonderfully caring and understanding place and I truly believe that my son would not be where he is today if I had left him in PISD.
Believe in yourself and your motherly instincts! If you think there is something wrong there most likely is. I wish someone had told me that last year. I knew there was something wrong, but I kept letting the school district fool me into believing that my son would eventually catch up. If my son had not started to have behavioral problems (acting out in class, getting very upset and crying when he couldn't read or write) he might still be suffering silently in a school system that wouldn't listen to me. I feel terrible that I allowed my son to suffer emotionally before believing in myself enough to take charge of his future.
Additionally, if your son is ultimately diagnosed with dyslexia there is a wonderful dyslexia book you should read titled "Overcoming Dyslexia” by Sally Shaywitz, M.D. It is so informative and will help you understand what is going on and why.
There is also a group called IDEAS – Impacting Dyslexia Education Awareness and Support (http://www.ideasplano.org). I have not attending an event as yet, but I have talked to some of the members. It looks like they offer some informative speakers.
Also search the internet about dyslexia and read about all the wonderfully brilliant people who have/had dyslexia. Some of the most creative people had dyslexia. Embrace the way your son is able to look view the world and the challenges he faces.